Shaniajam
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DO I WANT HIM BACK??
Posted by Arielle83Trust me... This was not my intentions... I have told new cancer I need to take it slow and I have pushed him away more than once... He still comes forward... Or should I tell him to fuk off?
Do you not like being single?
Or do you need to date one after the other?
Just wondering.
@arielle83 also there is nothing wrong with DATING... Geez my life still goes on you know
Posted by Arielle83Going through the same thing. I started talking to new people just a couple weeks ago, then I cut everyone off. I've felt this whole time since me and my Cancer broke up a few months ago that he'd be back....but after reading all the diff stories on here I dont know what I want or what to do. Mine came back a week after breakup, and also just a day or so ago and I havent responded. It's not that I want him chasing after me, its cause I dont know what I want, and I dont know what he wants, like is this just a check up thing or something else...I dont know!!! No matter how much I've healed or worked on myself since the breakup, I dont answer cause I know I'm not ready for a convo, and more than likely I'll just say something stupid, lol...I know myself. Just trying to break old patterns and habits within myself.Posted by ShaniajamI didn't say there was.
@arielle83 also there is nothing wrong with DATING... Geez my life still goes on you know
The thing is, if you've got it hot for one, and being with the other to waste time thinking the first will come back, what are you really doing?
Wasting time.
You're focused on them. Why wait? Just do you and whatever happens, happens.
Like I've said, cancer does their own thing. Don't play with hearts because you don't really know what you want.
Or do you?click to expand
So, I'm stuck. 😢
Posted by Arielle83Dead @ do you not like being single
Do you not like being single?
Or do you need to date one after the other?
Just wondering.
I don't know why I find that so funny.
Posted by Arielle83This is true. In my situation I haven't really "dated"... I started talking to a cpl ppl but just couldnt do it. I was single for like 7 yrs before my Cancer guy so I know how to be single I guess, lol.
It's like you want him to make the decision for you.
You want him to want you.
This is why I think it's best to drop it all after one to remind yourself of what you want.
You can't figure it out from going from one and dating others. You'll just get stuck in a pattern with one soothing you after the other. And then you'll be that chick who can't be single and maybe you'll fall for the wrong ones.
Just because he comes after you or wants you doesn't mean you have to accept.
Take the time to figure out what YOU really want in another human.
Don't waste time.
I suppose I feel bad cause I'm not answering his call. I do want him to want me, I want him...but I'm just terrified. This whole experience has been like a shell shock to me, and I cant imagine going through this again. Im just glad I have things to do take my attention and focus away from it most times.
My heart knows what it wants, but....?
Posted by Arielle83I like that... Thank you
It's like you want him to make the decision for you.
You want him to want you.
This is why I think it's best to drop it all after one to remind yourself of what you want.
You can't figure it out from going from one and dating others. You'll just get stuck in a pattern with one soothing you after the other. And then you'll be that chick who can't be single and maybe you'll fall for the wrong ones.
Just because he comes after you or wants you doesn't mean you have to accept.
Take the time to figure out what YOU really want in another human.
Don't waste time.
Posted by starloverMakes sense... Cause I stil keep thinking of old cancer and I don't want to hurt new cancer cause I'm hurt myself. I'm gonna chill
Hmmmmm.....my sense is new Cancer will bring you the same issues as old Cancer brought to you unless you resolve them
I believe that jumping from person to person can bring more problems
That happened to me with two Aquas
I am now of the belief there are no such things as coincidences
🙂
Posted by iPootMagicSo after the week you didn't take him back?? Then he came back again after how long? And still wasn't sure either?Posted by Arielle83Going through the same thing. I started talking to new people just a couple weeks ago, then I cut everyone off. I've felt this whole time since me and my Cancer broke up a few months ago that he'd be back....but after reading all the diff stories on here I dont know what I want or what to do. Mine came back a week after breakup, and also just a day or so ago and I havent responded. It's not that I want him chasing after me, its cause I dont know what I want, and I dont know what he wants, like is this just a check up thing or something else...I dont know!!! No matter how much I've healed or worked on myself since the breakup, I dont answer cause I know I'm not ready for a convo, and more than likely I'll just say something stupid, lol...I know myself. Just trying to break old patterns and habits within myself.Posted by ShaniajamI didn't say there was.
@arielle83 also there is nothing wrong with DATING... Geez my life still goes on you know
The thing is, if you've got it hot for one, and being with the other to waste time thinking the first will come back, what are you really doing?
Wasting time.
You're focused on them. Why wait? Just do you and whatever happens, happens.
Like I've said, cancer does their own thing. Don't play with hearts because you don't really know what you want.
Or do you?
So, I'm stuck. 😢click to expand
Posted by ShaniajamHe came back after a little over 2 mos. I want him, just scared more than anything, and not sure why he's back. Could be a check up, idkPosted by iPootMagicSo after the week you didn't take him back?? Then he came back again after how long? And still wasn't sure either?Posted by Arielle83Going through the same thing. I started talking to new people just a couple weeks ago, then I cut everyone off. I've felt this whole time since me and my Cancer broke up a few months ago that he'd be back....but after reading all the diff stories on here I dont know what I want or what to do. Mine came back a week after breakup, and also just a day or so ago and I havent responded. It's not that I want him chasing after me, its cause I dont know what I want, and I dont know what he wants, like is this just a check up thing or something else...I dont know!!! No matter how much I've healed or worked on myself since the breakup, I dont answer cause I know I'm not ready for a convo, and more than likely I'll just say something stupid, lol...I know myself. Just trying to break old patterns and habits within myself.Posted by ShaniajamI didn't say there was.
@arielle83 also there is nothing wrong with DATING... Geez my life still goes on you know
The thing is, if you've got it hot for one, and being with the other to waste time thinking the first will come back, what are you really doing?
Wasting time.
You're focused on them. Why wait? Just do you and whatever happens, happens.
Like I've said, cancer does their own thing. Don't play with hearts because you don't really know what you want.
Or do you?
So, I'm stuck. 😢click to expand
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