do we lead people on?

Ok now.. tell me if you think that cancer like to lead people on...be it intentionally or unintentionally.. im curiously want to know.

Hey lost!!! I think we may lead folks on unintentionaly. I have had circumstances that I liked a guy(s) as a friend and he thought different (b/c I am flirt). Usually, I am up front with men about my intentions but men sometimes keep a "ray of hope". I will say Im a true cancer cause I do not let go of relationships easy and will string folks along for years!!

Hey FC...😉

oh moon..i know what you mean...yeah we flirt and that makes people misread us..

FC..i have that too..guys who thinks that i wanted more than just being friends..well there's a boundaries there..you stick as friend when i say you are my friend...🙂

Lol @ GB

if we do lead people on it is because we don't like confrontation and don't like hurting peoples feelings. our subtle ways prevent us from being to direct with people which could lead to confusion for some.

I think unintentionally.

You have a way of shielding your real intentions by not being direct and attempting to wait for the right time to tackle things and this leads people who move more directly to think you want something else.

I'm speaking from work colleagues, close friends, etc...pov

Well ... I think you lead people on unintentionally. This is coming from my own cancer experience. This cancer guy wanted to date me but he didn't want to give up anyone else. Of course when I found out about the others, there couldn't be a relationship. He talked me into it a seocnd time, but after I saw a truly unfaithful he was, I couldn't be with him, even if I wanted to.

Being the other woman suck ass ... there nothing good about it.

"I think Cancers can be charming because we tend to be nurturing, caring, and friendly. We do genuinely care, but some people might translate that into romantic/sexual interest. Sometimes it can be intermingled with that, but not always. We also have a hard time saying no in a direct way."

UC, thats a pretty good assessment of how we can be. I am all of those things to all of my friends but it always seems that they secretly harbor feelings for me. Eventhough, I tell them that we are friends and thats it. We don't express our feelings outright so I guess people can misinterpret at times.

soooo, how does the man of interest knows your interested in him?

Well in my experience, I have to recieve some kind of sign that he is interested in me first. I may ask a question just to start conversation (this is bold for cancers) and give him my utmost attention while he answers said question all the while zapping him with that hypnotic cancer stare. (Not the batting of the eye, flirty type of stare, more seductive like) If he doesn't respond somehow then I assume he is not interested and move on.

i agree with Meme..
the hypnotic cancer stare is the i-can-see-into-your-soul-stare..😉

If we cant get the answer that we want and you give us the kind of shallow answer..i will say NEXT!

yes

yes. accepting attention is indirectly leading someone one. i have a cancer friend that does this and then throws her hands in the air and says "I didn't do anything". I know she has a hard time telling people how she feels and that she's not interested, but it does not excuse that fact that she accepts the attention. She lets it go too long and then calls them stalkers. It's bullshyt.

All the cancer men I know are extremely cautious. They come really close to you and then they run away. It's crazy. I have a cancer guy i've been talking to for three years and we haven't taken one step...don't worry i haven't been waiting.