Does he like me or not ?????
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by bebe1 on Saturday, June 17, 2006 and has 11 replies.
Wow! Where do I begin? I met a cancer man almost two years ago. We began communicating via e-mail (he lives in another state and I was married at the time). First, it started out as strictly friends, however I always felt there was a strong attraction on both sides because when I didn't write him for a while, he would pop up out of the blue with some unrelating email (like a joke or something) to get my attention. After a year and a half of doing this, I got to see him again. He came to a city near mine to do a show (he sings) and I met him after the show. He was very affectionate....hugging, touching my hair....holding my hand, and he even gave me a long kiss on the cheek at the end. I was in heaven!!!! He sent me e-mails on Christmas day and then....he sent me a song, recorded with his own voice...that basically confessed his feelings of love...this was all done via email. When I asked him to share his inspiration for the song...he ignored my emails about that and just told me that he had written it. By this time....I'm really in love...not to mention the problems I was having in my marriage...long before he came into the picture. I confessed my feelings for him in the form of e-mail and of course...he never responded about the subject. I just felt like I needed to tell him how I had fallen for him....I'm not sure why he has not touched on it....he is single...so he has nothing to hide there. He is a professional entertainer , but is very old fashioned with traditional values. I have separated( and soon to be divorced from my husband) and my cancer man knows this. Recently, after my separation 3 months ago...I made plans to see my cancer man again....after a show. I explained to him...in an email...that I wanted to spend some time with him alone....several weeks later (like he's thinking about it) that he's in no way interested in me in that way....I guess he meant romantically. Well, me being the Leo woman that I am...told him the same...he never addressed it again. We've had several spats via email and I always apologize or suck up because I really do like him and he's always very understanding....and loving (in the form of email) and tells me that I should keep doing what I do and that me and my heart will be greatly rewarded.....He's sending me alot of MIXED signals....I'm not sure if I should give up on him or not....I have a small internet business that I developed in his honor, that is about his career...for that he's always been very thankful, gr
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thankful, grateful and supportive. It continues to grow and he always tells me to keep doing what I'm doing FOR HIM. He told my friend that he needs me...that he doesn't know what he would do without me, but he tells me He's not interested. He calls very rarely...but only for business related stuff. I may have been a little pushy...because I wanted him so bad....but he knew this from the very beginning, I'm sure. Lately, I've been thinking that I should back off and see what happpens....He wants me to continue to support his career in the manner that I do... and he says that there's abbout to be a major change in his career and that he's going to need me....I told him I will always be there for him. Now, that I'm separated...I'm going through alot of emotional stuff trying to start my life over, and I've shared some of the details with him, but he does not respond to it directly, however he did say that he was sent here to comfort me in troubling times....I'm not sure how he expects to do this via email from another state....and of course he won't expand on it. What's a girl to do????PLEASE HELP!!!!!
thankful, grateful and supportive. It continues to grow and he always tells me to keep doing what I'm doing FOR HIM. He told my friend that he needs me...that he doesn't know what he would do without me, but he tells me He's not interested. He calls very rarely...but only for business related stuff. I may have been a little pushy...because I wanted him so bad....but he knew this from the very beginning, I'm sure. Lately, I've been thinking that I should back off and see what happpens....He wants me to continue to support his career in the manner that I do... and he says that there's abbout to be a major change in his career and that he's going to need me....I told him I will always be there for him. Now, that I'm separated...I'm going through alot of emotional stuff trying to start my life over, and I've shared some of the details with him, but he does not respond to it directly, however he did say that he was sent here to comfort me in troubling times....I'm not sure how he expects to do this via email from another state....and of course he won't expand on it. What's a girl to do????PLEASE HELP!!!!!
I'm also beginning to wonder if it was wise for me to share with him some of the problems of my almost over marriage...abuse...betrayal...etc. But, like I said it started as a friendship and has evolved from there. Please help me out on this!
Hi, I'm cappysweetie 
OOOOOH My goodness ... why does this sound so familiar
Sorry bebe1, I would've give you my poin-of-view along time ago but I don't come here too often ... I should start
Basically, the same thing that's happening to you has happened to me too. Until it all came to an end, I was also infatuated (I thought it was love then too) with a cancer man. Being young and not as experienced as him, he was able to trick me in many ways. Yes, they indeed come on strong but when it comes to ACTUALLY do it ... they are quick to back away ... why? For many reasons, fear of commitment, insecurity, etc.
My advice to you is to TAKE IT SLOW WITH THIS GUY. Confront him and ask him straight out what you are to him. If he doesn't give you an satisfactory answer (post what he says) then you know what to do
Hahaha, Cancer men can love you and many other women too. Yes, they soon make a choice but it really depends on their mood. Most water signs go with that 'instant' feeling ... along with forgetting about other matters -- yes, they do think about them later ... but then people are hurt and opportunities are lost. However, once they settle down with the person they REALLY want to be with, they are usually pretty faithful ... but God help the woman that falls for a spoiled or jaded cancer man .... Yikes! It could be forever before you see him fully recover from a broken heart .....
Please, if you don't want YOUR heart broken, confront him and ask him straight out! Screw considering his feelings because cancer men are not as sensitive as they pretend to be okay ... a virgo feelings are more sensitive in a subtle sense SO DON'T LET HIM FOOL YOU. Don't be afraid to talk to him. Don't yell and scream ... just be upfront and honest. If he flakes out on you, then just leave him be. You will save yourself plenty of tears if you do. He will look you up if he ever wants to get serious with you.
Hey, look up some of my earlier post. They are mostly about the cancer and they you will see how simliar are situation were I'm fairly here too
Keep us posted. And feel free to roam around DXP, you will find some good advice from all the other board too ... don't just stick to just one
Keep us posted.
OOOOOH My goodness ... why does this sound so familiar
Sorry bebe1, I would've give you my poin-of-view along time ago but I don't come here too often ... I should start Basically, the same thing that's happening to you has happened to me too. Until it all came to an end, I was also infatuated (I thought it was love then too) with a cancer man. Being young and not as experienced as him, he was able to trick me in many ways. Yes, they indeed come on strong but when it comes to ACTUALLY do it ... they are quick to back away ... why? For many reasons, fear of commitment, insecurity, etc.
My advice to you is to TAKE IT SLOW WITH THIS GUY. Confront him and ask him straight out what you are to him. If he doesn't give you an satisfactory answer (post what he says) then you know what to do
Hahaha, Cancer men can love you and many other women too. Yes, they soon make a choice but it really depends on their mood. Most water signs go with that 'instant' feeling ... along with forgetting about other matters -- yes, they do think about them later ... but then people are hurt and opportunities are lost. However, once they settle down with the person they REALLY want to be with, they are usually pretty faithful ... but God help the woman that falls for a spoiled or jaded cancer man .... Yikes! It could be forever before you see him fully recover from a broken heart .....
Please, if you don't want YOUR heart broken, confront him and ask him straight out! Screw considering his feelings because cancer men are not as sensitive as they pretend to be okay ... a virgo feelings are more sensitive in a subtle sense SO DON'T LET HIM FOOL YOU. Don't be afraid to talk to him. Don't yell and scream ... just be upfront and honest. If he flakes out on you, then just leave him be. You will save yourself plenty of tears if you do. He will look you up if he ever wants to get serious with you.
Hey, look up some of my earlier post. They are mostly about the cancer and they you will see how simliar are situation were
I'm fairly here too Keep us posted. And feel free to roam around DXP, you will find some good advice from all the other board too ... don't just stick to just one
Keep us posted.
Hi Bebe, I agree with the the advice from cappiesweety, you cancer man is just jerking your chain, confront him - the hell with his feelings - it's a afront most of the time....
Thank you namelesscancer
I have absoluately nothing against cancers but I do KNOW them They are usually pretty decent if they haven't been spoiled rotten, same goes for the women. A spoiled cancer has the worse qualities unfortunately.
LOL, I spoiled cancer is just like a capricorn with WAY TOO MUCH POWER. We cappies should not have too much power .... NOPE, NO WAY !
I have absoluately nothing against cancers but I do KNOW them
They are usually pretty decent if they haven't been spoiled rotten, same goes for the women. A spoiled cancer has the worse qualities unfortunately. LOL, I spoiled cancer is just like a capricorn with WAY TOO MUCH POWER. We cappies should not have too much power .... NOPE, NO WAY !
Yes, I am still legally married...My divorce will not be final for another 3 wks. I've been living 700 miles from my soon to be ex...and the cancer guy knows this...we've seen each other in a public location near my new residence. Funny thing is...this dude started his seduction with me LONG befor my husband and I seperated and then after he found out that I was separated, he went into his shell....and he doesn't' seem to be coming out....and yes...I've thought about the fact that he may be concerned about me cheating on him.
Not quite sure I understand what your saying...sorry?
I guess, what I'm really asking is...should I back down from this guy, since he doesn't seem to be coming out of his shell. I don't want to be too pushy if you know what I mean?
i would. 'spoiled' was the first word that came to my mind, bebe. I agree with cappysweetie.
Of course not...my reason for divorce and this is probably way too much information, but...anyway is physical and mental abuse! It has nothing to do with the cancer guy and it started long before he entered the picture. This was a 10 yr. marriage...I met this cancer guy 2 yrs. ago. and like I said we were just friends....and we still are...nothing physical, only feelings of attraction, if you know what I mean....but I really, really care for him as a person. Also, just for the record, I'm 39 and he's in his forties...we're not kids- lol! Thanks for the tip!
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