does the cancer man ever change his stubborn ways
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by sunnysideup on Sunday, April 23, 2006 and has 6 replies.
If the woman who is emotionally close to a cancer guy ,can't take his un reasonable & unpredictable behaviour for long & decides to call off.....Do cancer men let go the relationship easily off the hook or go after the woman they have got attached emotionally ie, even after the woman has decided to call it quits ....does the cancer man ever change his stubborn ways ?
No. You may get different responses in here but in my own experience they can't let go that easily. Me and my crab weren't seeing eye to eye, I had mentioned something about it but he just wasn't listening... well I'm not about to force him to listen, he should care enough and that's that. I left it 'as is' but eventually called him one day as I left his house and told him that it was over. He called me back and was like 'what was that about? us?' and I was like 'yup' he asked why and i said 'just' I mean why should I explain myself? It's over, simple. So he acted like it was ok and said 'ok, that's cool' so as I said 'already then, bye' he interrupted me with 'why? atleast tell me why'
Oh boyyyyyyyy, I 'ummmmmmmmm'ed for a bit, sighed a little longer cuz I was reluctant to get into it, didn't see the point. When I finally told him why, he asked me why I didn't just talk about it...?!!! arrrrrghh so I told him that I had tried talking to him but that he obviousssly didn't think it was important so what was the point of being together...? He blah blahed a bit, explaining his side of things but I didn't respond to anything (cuz my decision was made) so he just said that if that's the way I felt well then that's just how I felt... so I just agreed and we hung up.
However, he had questioned me about phone calls and texts that I'd been getting thinking that maybe I was seeing someone else. Plus the second time he had called me I'd been ordering food so he had heard a guys voice and asked where I had left to. I text him that just for his info. I wasn't seeing anyone (so he knows that I didn't cheat) and goodluck to him. He just said, ok whatever.
Anyyyyyywayyyyy the point is that he'd been trying to act like it was ok but a few minutes later he started texting me just how mad he was and how much he cared about me, feelings and blah this and blah that and this and that ra ta ta ta ta ta
And when I didn't respond he started calling me over and over and texting some more and calling some more aaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh but I wouldn't answer and he'd text that I was probably seeing someone then he'd text how his heart was racing and to answer the phone... well I do have feelings for him so I finally responded in text. Then he text me the cutest thing ever, if we could talk in person because he wanted to kick my ass and it wasn't over yet... awwwwww *sigh*
So after a while I decided that maybe things could work if we learned to communicate better... and we talked and he was pretty understanding and so we got back together.
Oh boyyyyyyyy, I 'ummmmmmmmm'ed for a bit, sighed a little longer cuz I was reluctant to get into it, didn't see the point. When I finally told him why, he asked me why I didn't just talk about it...?!!! arrrrrghh so I told him that I had tried talking to him but that he obviousssly didn't think it was important so what was the point of being together...? He blah blahed a bit, explaining his side of things but I didn't respond to anything (cuz my decision was made) so he just said that if that's the way I felt well then that's just how I felt... so I just agreed and we hung up.
However, he had questioned me about phone calls and texts that I'd been getting thinking that maybe I was seeing someone else. Plus the second time he had called me I'd been ordering food so he had heard a guys voice and asked where I had left to. I text him that just for his info. I wasn't seeing anyone (so he knows that I didn't cheat) and goodluck to him. He just said, ok whatever.
Anyyyyyywayyyyy the point is that he'd been trying to act like it was ok but a few minutes later he started texting me just how mad he was and how much he cared about me, feelings and blah this and blah that and this and that ra ta ta ta ta ta
And when I didn't respond he started calling me over and over and texting some more and calling some more aaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh but I wouldn't answer and he'd text that I was probably seeing someone then he'd text how his heart was racing and to answer the phone... well I do have feelings for him so I finally responded in text. Then he text me the cutest thing ever, if we could talk in person because he wanted to kick my ass and it wasn't over yet... awwwwww *sigh*
So after a while I decided that maybe things could work if we learned to communicate better... and we talked and he was pretty understanding and so we got back together.
Sunnysideup, no cancer guys don't take no for an answer if THEY feel it's unjustified. A friend of mine (that's a cancer guy) TOLD me that I wasn't going anywhere ... PERIOD. Yes I was shocked under the circumstances, but I know he can't control me. If he starts acting stupid again ... I'm gone. "When the going gets tough, the tough get going." Let him drive some other females crazy LOL
Actually, tauruschic I have a simlar situation. It's amazing what confrontation does to a cancer guy. Man, I had to get angry and straightforward with him in order to get him to talk. Now, he's actually being open about personal stuff. Hahaha when I told him that I needed to back-off, it was almost like he didn't know what to say. He didn't want to sound vunderable so he tried to play it off, then when I didn't play along with his "game" ... his whole attitude change, it was like an "uh on she's serious" moment.
Actually, tauruschic I have a simlar situation. It's amazing what confrontation does to a cancer guy. Man, I had to get angry and straightforward with him in order to get him to talk. Now, he's actually being open about personal stuff. Hahaha when I told him that I needed to back-off, it was almost like he didn't know what to say. He didn't want to sound vunderable so he tried to play it off, then when I didn't play along with his "game" ... his whole attitude change, it was like an "uh on she's serious" moment.
Being cancer ,nope we don't change our ways,we hard headed,lol. But i can tell you this we do love to love.when we lose something we sooo fought hard to get,we definitely work hard to get it back or try to understand what went wrong. It's our nature to find answers and truth because we don't leave things like that.And believe me We cancers can find the truth about people.
Cancers can find the truth about people ... well that's awesome. IIIII don't have anything to hide 
Plus, I;m good at putting up mentral blocks ... hehehe he hates it when I do that.
Plus, I;m good at putting up mentral blocks ... hehehe he hates it when I do that.Daemon, that was a straight & rational explanation,Nice to hear about your thoughts on this..
Tauruschic thanks for the fedback,I guess, it makes sense after hearing you guys out!
Tauruschic thanks for the fedback,I guess, it makes sense after hearing you guys out!
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