does this cancer male really interested in me or j

Please help me I'm so confused now. I'm 20yrs Aquarius, he is a 40yrs Cancer. He is caring, gently and open-minded (typical lovely cancer). We met at work and talked quite a bit. I get hit by him immediately and seems like he felt the same way as he asked me out for coffee next day. He said he will take care of me,look after me and want to be with me for 6 months( when I finish my trial at work). After that he brought candy and chocolates then shared with me. Maybe I get a wrong sign, maybe he is not looking for anything serious,just kind of collage relationship. He did ask me to travel with him in a short trip last week though.
I know that cancer male is loyalty and want a long term relationship instead of a one night stand. But I have a felling he just wants to have sex with me. He is funny and real good at dirty joke. He hint about
sleeping with me frequently. What does it mean? Please help me.

I don't think I believe you. 😢

The only way you will know is if you wait and take it slow. The fact that he is twice your age seems creepy. Why would a 40 year old man want a 20 year old woman? For sex!!!! I know that my 40 year old male friends have said many times that young girls don't match up with them as far as life experience and maturity. The only time they date girls much younger is for sex. Now I'm not saying that this is definitely the case, but to me it seems so.

Ehh. I'm 24 and I was with a 43 year old Virgo. We connected on a very deep level and all of my friends are 30-50 so we met through them and he has the same fast paced life style as I do and musician/culture. I was the one that wanted sex the most and I was the one that ended it, we are still close friends.

It CAN work. Age didn't even come up first few dates with this guy, he thought I was in my early 30s and I thought him mid-late 30s. When we found out it was nearly a deal breaker but the feelings were real.

In your case though, (and in a lot of cases) I think he is just after sex. Especially since you aren't dating and he's already hinting towards it. "Date for 6 months". What does that mean, would he cut it off after 6 months time?

Posted by Agentgem24
all of my friends are 30-50

This would be the important "exception, not the rule" part of your equation.

Most 20 year olds (as the RULE) aren't going to have the mental compatibility/life compatibility of a 40 year old.

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Posted by Agentgem24
all of my friends are 30-50

This would be the important "exception, not the rule" part of your equation.

Most 20 year olds (as the RULE) aren't going to have the mental compatibility/life compatibility of a 40 year old.

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Yes, that is for sure. That is exactly what the older Virgo told me and he was astounded by my maturity for my age. Even the interview board for a police interview commented on it. I may be naive but I am mature. Most people under 30 don't have my mindset (aside from my school friends I've had for years). But many 20 year olds are into partying, getting wasted, clubs. The priorities aren't the same and there is a HUGE generational gap. There was with me too, but it helps to have older friends. I would rather go on a cupcake tour and foodie venues with my food critic friend, go to museums, wine tastings than any of that frivolous stuff. Classic rock is my main music and my favorite band is from the 60s, I'm too "old" for much of my peer group.


But in her case (especially since she can't even drink) I see an older man seducing a barely legal women and trying to relive his youth through her. My money is on him JUST wanting sex, regardless of the zodiac sign.

I think you should even say something to your boss if he is acting like that in the work place. It's not professional, nor is meeting him out of a work establishment,

My best advice is to tell yourself this man only wants one thing (consider the possibility that he may very likely also be married, or at least a long term gf and have kids) and move on.

Also, when the conversations you exchange between said guy and you (this applies to any age) center mostly around sex and the acts that will eventually lead up to it, that's exactly what they are looking for and most likely ALL they want. Especially with 2 decades in between ages.

When a guy really likes a girl, he will want to know about her and center conversation away from sex in the beginning until he gets to know he's more. If it's right off the bat with sensuality, it's a red flag.

Posted by pisceanpisces
I don't get a problem here. Ask him. Not other people. If he wants smth serious, he will say: I do not want to use you for Sex.' If he wants you only for sexual pleasure, he will say: ' I do not want to use you for sex.' There is no such thing as a guarantee.

btw, if I am 4o without anybody and a 2o year old boy would come to me... nice ego trip. ...

What ego? Men don't care about age if you're bangable.

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Posted by pisceanpisces
I don't get a problem here. Ask him. Not other people. If he wants smth serious, he will say: I do not want to use you for Sex.' If he wants you only for sexual pleasure, he will say: ' I do not want to use you for sex.' There is no such thing as a guarantee.

btw, if I am 4o without anybody and a 2o year old boy would come to me... nice ego trip. ...

What ego? Men don't care about age if you're bangable.

But for a woman it is important. if she is vain enough she would feel: wow, I am still bangable../thanks to all this mediastuff/...

. do not say, you would not feel your ego glowing if in 1o years a 2o-year old woman would show sexual interest to you...

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Not really. I know they will.

Posted by raerain
The only way to find out is by having sex with him.

In the pooper.

Posted by raerain
The only way to find out is by having sex with him.

In the pooper.

just do it.

Sex!!! bang him to the next universe. Make him see the cosmos.

allright posting it again.

play this song while you are visiting the cosmos, swirling, making circles with your hips, round and round, singing how you're godless. Tell him how you want to worship him, because he makes you believe in gods again.

Thanks for all those replies guys, they are really helpful 🙂. I spend most of my time on studying, playing games and reading books so I don't clubbing, parties nor drinking( yeah kind of nerd).And guess what I've never had sex before( I rejected every guys tried to be my bf cause I want to have my own space and time). That means no experience on love and relationship . He knew it and maybe he tries to take advantage of it 😢((
It's quite sad to face the truth that he just want to use me. Even though he did say he like me and doesn't want to hurt me. He asked me out several times but I refused as I still need to do my homework from uni.
He looks much younger than his age,around 30's( he got that Asian inside). I only found out he is 40 when I did some research about him and I was shocked.
Anyway you guys are right, there is nothing to do with horoscope. This is the first time I get hit by a guy so you can guess how excited I got 😉). It's quite sad to face the truth though.

I don't think you should sleep with him for the sole fact you work with him. I wouldn't ever get involved with someone I worked with. Otherwise, if you are safe, the sex could be amazing! Unless you would rather save it for someone you really care for and are serious with.

Posted by gingin
But I have a felling he just wants to have sex with me. He is funny and real good at dirty joke. He hint about
sleeping with me frequently.

If your heart is giving you conflict about his motives, don't just "go with the flow" & don't just do it for "the experience"...

There are people that believe you're young & you should go out there & make all kinds of silly mistakes.... But people that truly care about you will warn you.

Let me tell ya, mistakes come with consequences & there are some consequences You Can Not EVER Take BACK...ever!

So I say to you my friend, THINK before you jump because you might not land on your feet.

Please ask & find out his motives. If he's motives don't parallel yours, dont be scared to let him know.

Posted by pisceanpisces
No, I wasn't saying to go with the flow...
I do not want her to be used. I just know that the most respectful women are the easiest objects to be manipulated and women expect too much from the 'chosen one' because they have been daydreaming about him for years...

Submission is not respect.

Posted by pisceanpisces
No, I wasn't saying to go with the flow...
I do not want her to be used. I just know that the most respectful women are the easiest objects to be manipulated and women expect too much from the 'chosen one' because they have been daydreaming about him for years...

Oh no beautiful, I wasn't in the least bit referring to your comments 🙂

I was just warning her about her peers in & around college & the people that she knows personally that might convince her to cast all her morals into the Pacific Ocean.

I have no stones in my hands to hurt you lol. I know you mean well & don't want her hurt...Your points are all understood 🙂