Double Cancer guy

I am 25 year old Sagittarius (born on December 21st) ascendant Cancer, moon Capricorn. I don't feel like a Sagittarius for most of the time, I am not emotionally detached, but I feel like showing feelings is pathetic, I feel deeply alright, but my emotions never seem to bubble up to the surface. I was with my Leo (Cancer ascendant) boyfriend for almost four years, and recently we broke up, I love him as a person, and always will and we remain friends but there was never any chemistry between us, and the sex didn't seem to work. We just drifted away, though I still think he is a great guy and we even talked about marriage but his selfish Leo ass wanted a servant and a housewife, not a real person.
Anyway my question is not about him, he is just the background of my painting here. I've met a guy Cancer (July 22) Cancer ascendant, Aquarius moon. He obviously likes me, after we where introduced he added me on facebook, and we talked on chat almost every night for a week, it was really obvious he wanted to see me and all though he is self professed workaholic he basically made time to for me, we talked for hours, hugged each other for goodbye and he said he really wanted to see me tomorrow. As I rarely initiate anything, I wait for the guy to call me all day, and finally I lose my patience and call him instead. He told me he will be at this nightclub and I should go and see him, but instead I went that night to another place since I felt a bit let down, and it is extremely humiliating for me to go and run after some guy like a puppy. I like him because he is very intellectual like me, sophisticated and doesn't try to get too close to me. But after that call he stopped writing me on facebook, he just backed off and it has been like this for a few days. And I would die before I initiate contact again, because I fear his rejection. He also mentioned my ex-boyfriend in our conversation and he was worried that I was still friends with him, and he was obviously hurt by the fact that I still attend some social events with my ex and we have a mutual dog. Are we compatible with this double Cancer guy, or I am just a masochist who is turned on by his aloofness? Because I really like him.
By the way his Venus is in Virgo, my Venus is in Capricorn.

It's ok...he just wanted to play it cool by asking you to come to the club since he came on strongly the previous day. When you didn't go I think he misread it as rejection or whatever. This is a classic mirroring game, one of you will have to break the impasse.

By the way, at the risk of sounding cynical, self professed "workaholics", "intellectuals", "sophisticated" folks rarely tend to be any of that...so watch out.

Ok, putting my 2 cents here. I am a Sag with a cap moon and venus. The love of my life is a Cancer man. One thing in your post stood out to me:

" He also mentioned my ex-boyfriend in our conversation and he was worried that I was still friends with him, and he was obviously hurt by the fact that I still attend some social events with my ex and we have a mutual dog."

Your Cancer guy is not going to go for any of that. Also, try not to act too reserved (Cap moon) when it comes to your feelings. He is also testing the waters because he doesn't want to be rejected either. Just tone down the ex a bit.