ex cancer flirting with me??..?

So ex cancer and I have been messaging for the last month since wee in silence for the presvous two months as he broke up with me as we weren't going to see each other for 6 months??_.. So he has been really flirty and talking about some personal conversations that only he know say that he like girl that ??_.. etc. So I'm confused as we have talked about seeing each other for amutal friends wedding. BUT its racking my brain and I'm going insane as i do not show him any of this but i want to ??_..either ask him of his intensions/feeling or Let him know that my feelings have not changed and all this messaging is kinda of confusing?

somebody?

Yes. Ask him and tell him.
Then he will stop talking to you.
He probably just wants a date for the wedding or something else you would be of use for.

If you ask him and state your feelings, don't expect a direct response. He's probably trying to find out if you're bringing a guy with you to the wedding.

He know I'm not he's already asked what my dress is like as he doesn't want to clash with me. Asking for a photo of my new hair color which i havnt given him a photo yet. but its constant comments like these ones.

He is throwing bread crumb. Don't fall for that.

Posted by gingin
He is throwing bread crumb. Don't fall for that.

Bingo.

My sentiment exactly.

Do not allow yourself to fall for someone who throws crumbs out to you.

If this guy were a REAL MAN, he would have asked her out for a drink/dinner to get to know her better.

He then would have asked her to be his date to the wedding while concluding the date.

Gone are the days of GOOD MEN tho, as we seem to be a rare species of bird.

Yea your right but is it not bait different that he's in antartica with hardly a internet signal and I'm in australia. an anyway is this not a cancer forum as we discuss cancers behavior as there so indirect and do this disappearing act all the time??

So this is what I have decided to drop in a message back to him along with some other chitter chatter ??_..Well it definitely feels good to have us back in contact again almost back to normal but I guess a little emotinally confusing for me at the same time.(as he broke up with me) what do you CANCER MEN think—

you have nothing to lose at this point, do it...

Do you want to be with him?

I don't mean do you like him. I'm wondering if you want to go for the long distance relationship since you won't see him for six months.
The cancer men I know personally would only initiate flirtation in the same situation to line up a sure thing while in town.
Unless he changed his mind about the six months apart being a problem. But wouldn't he have just said that? The cancer men I know would have.

Yes i Want to be with him. The 6months is half way the wedding is in 3 months time.

He relpyed to my message with yeah i know what you mean but imagine if we didn't talk then met up at the wedding or something? along with other chitter chatter. I said ahh k so your messaging so its not awkward at the wedding because its brought alot of feelings up my hearts nit made of steel unfortunately, followed with chitter chatter. He replied straight away with(normally he takes awhile to reply) Thats not the reason I'm messaging I was just saying. Can stop if thats better.then carrys on with other stuff.I said I just don't want there to be any misunderstandings thats all, best to talk about things in my book.

What the hell don't play with my feelings when he flirts with me about our past sexual experiences and doesn't want to clash at the wedding!!!

clash with what we are wearing*

So what's suppose to happen after the next three months? You're back in the same location and will pick up where you left off?

How serious was your relationship that you don't know him well enough to understand him? Was this a serious courtship or casual dating?

I will be shocked if he contacted you for any reason other than pure selfishness. His initial response says it all.

yea i understand. So if i was to not reply to his messages do think it would help know weather he really loves me or not??

Be yourself but take your feelings out of it so you won't get used and hurt.
And do not have sex with him during that wedding weekend.

It is BS for any man to break up and pop up whenever it is convenient for him. He doesn't mention reuniting but
he assumes your clothes are going to coordinate like you're a damn couple?
I'm disgusted for you. Selfish. He won't wait a lousy six months but he doesn't want the discomfort of seeing
you with another man at a mutual friend's wedding because he is selfish.

So i took your advice and am just being my self with taking my feelings out of it. Surprised in his reaction of me letting him know how I am feeling with us messaging a lot, I just went on as normal chit chat now he is being extra nice and throwing out lots of suttle compliments and suggesting he could sponsor my fun run but would be a bit far to do so. I DONT GET IT!! IS HE INTERESTED OR NOT—

Do you think is has anything to do with that he has been out at sea/work for the last three months has one more month till he is home which he stays with his dad then a month after he's home his first House would be built to move in? I am moving out to London from australia as we also have the mutual friends wedding in london. but before we broke up i was going to move in with him and his new house but now I'm going to london instead which I have friends there. He came out to australia for couple months before he went out to work this time around.

he lives in scotland*

If a dumper cancer man want to come back to the dumpee, he will make it clear and will not stop or go indirect as cancer man are clingy. He hates losing things. If he senses you will always be there for him as a doormat, you will always be a doormat, nothing more. Man, including cancer man, want things that they cant have. Play aloof with them a bit then they will crawl back like a puppy.This is my experience with 1 year relationship with cancer.

Cancer man clingy.HA!typical stereotyping.Meh why jus have fun and dont read into it, u have feelings for him or sumpin.

That is an expression. To anyone understanding what the expression means, it is very much possible to follow through with.

yes of course i have strong feelings but I will not show him them unless he shows me his. I have put my self out there already. So from now on its friends and what will be will. If he wants me he will need to open up for me two know. This is what what keeping your feelings out of it means as I still have them there just hide.

hiden*

HELLLLLLL NAWWWW!! Once he see friend in you that's it. Only friend,no more,Das why i like some taurus,scorps,cancer and saggis.They more forward and u can say yes i wanna be with u since you showing me affection. Hiding those affections aint good,u gonna lose him for sure as an more intimate person. The more distant u get , the more you be friend zoned!

Thats my confusion i expressed my feelings where still there and he backed away from it. So still flirt but just keep my feelings out. So Should i send him a card for his birthday next month or will that scar him off?

Posted by jaxz
Thats my confusion i expressed my feelings where still there and he backed away from it. So still flirt but just keep my feelings out. So Should i send him a card for his birthday next month or will that scar him off?

My Dear, listen to me very carefully.

You don't need to get him ANYTHING because you don't owe him ANYTHING.

The INSTANT he chose to FRIEND ZONE you is the instant you have been freed up to date other men, go out with your girlfriends every weekend and have the time of your life.

You need to get yourself out there, get lots of phone numbers and take publicly available photos of yourself having lots of fun. Look at Facebook and Snapchat as ADVERTISING AGENCIES for your fantastic life to GET HIS ATTENTION.

He needs to reach out to you. He needs to WRITE you. He needs to call you.

You need to send him NOTHING for his birthday.

NOTHING.

ONLY if he calls you or something should you be speaking to him. Otherwise, I wouldn't bother.

Follow my advice if you want to be with this guy, or otherwise gain NOTHING if you do this FRIEND ZONE shit.

I know you are right, I guess i just think if i stop messaging him hell think i have turned my back on him just because he's not ready now. and should you not be there for someone every step of the way ahhhh

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Posted by gingin
He is throwing bread crumb. Don't fall for that.

Bingo.

My sentiment exactly.

Do not allow yourself to fall for someone who throws crumbs out to you.

If this guy were a REAL MAN, he would have asked her out for a drink/dinner to get to know her better.

He then would have asked her to be his date to the wedding while concluding the date.

Gone are the days of GOOD MEN tho, as we seem to be a rare species of bird.

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+100. Unless he tells you flat out he made a mistake breaking up with you he doesn't miss you nearly enough and is just looking for the fringe benefits of a relationship (sex, companionship, date to a social even) and not the commitment itself. A man who really cares for you will tell you that and put his cards on the table. Right, ScorpFish! Seriously tho, I wouldn't put any stock on this. Better to cut bait and swim because you still dig him and he's not on the same page with you. When a man loves you, you can't not know it. Don't settle for crumbs from crumb-bums.

Besides all this feelings and emotions we have so much to talk about I mean we have been messaging for the last month after 2months of silence about absolutely nothing just complete jargon and it is so nice to have someone you can do that with he's SO ADDICTIVE!!!!

Posted by jaxz
I know you are right, I guess i just think if i stop messaging him hell think i have turned my back on him just because he's not ready now. and should you not be there for someone every step of the way ahhhh

in all fairness you should turn your back on him "just because he's not ready now"

From what you've said, the man is playing. He hasn't shown an ounce of loyalty and therefore you shouldn't either. Didn't he turn his back on you because he didn't want to wait six months?