Fellow Cancerians: Ever been with a Gemini?
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by chloesmom3610 on Monday, July 16, 2012 and has 8 replies.
How'd it go?
Everyone says we're too different to make it work, but I think anything's possible. Tell me your story!
Everyone says we're too different to make it work, but I think anything's possible. Tell me your story!
I don't have any Gem friends or have I dated any but my daughter is a watery Gemini (Scorp Asc. Cancer venus/mercury) She is not shy. As a baby she never cried because I always knew what she wanted. Great communicator, verbal and non- verbally. She can read chapter books and she's not even in school yet. Brilliant little thing.
She used to have these temper tantrums as a toddler where she would get so vexed she would pee herself and pass out cold. No emotional control what.so.ever. She can also detach very easily from anything she is feeling. (Aqua Moon) Now, I encourage her to feel everything and not to shove it away pretending it doesn't bother her or get too over the top when she is upset. She gets sad very easily over family, death, other's pain but wait two minutes and she's smiling again.
This is not relevant but she's an angel and I felt like talking about her, lol!
On the other hand, my niece and my cousin are also Geminis. They are both flaky as hell, complain about everything and lie through their teeth but I may just be bias. Can't pick your fam but you have to love them (so they say
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She used to have these temper tantrums as a toddler where she would get so vexed she would pee herself and pass out cold. No emotional control what.so.ever. She can also detach very easily from anything she is feeling. (Aqua Moon) Now, I encourage her to feel everything and not to shove it away pretending it doesn't bother her or get too over the top when she is upset. She gets sad very easily over family, death, other's pain but wait two minutes and she's smiling again.
This is not relevant but she's an angel and I felt like talking about her, lol!
On the other hand, my niece and my cousin are also Geminis. They are both flaky as hell, complain about everything and lie through their teeth but I may just be bias. Can't pick your fam but you have to love them (so they say
)I'm with you, Crabmoon! After my Gem requested a break I did a ton of research to understand him and I'm very grateful for all the info out there. I've learned not to be too clingy or emotional, and not to get upset when he cancels on me last-minute or needs space. Course it doesn't really matter now. It's been a month and I haven't heard from him - and today's my birthday! I think that's a pretty good indication that he's no longer interested. Sucks...
A gemini moon, and not again.
Lol...I actually dated a Gemini Sun, Moon, and Venus. He also had a Cancer Mercury, Pisces Asc, and Taurus Mars. And honestly he is THE most irrational and crazy guy I have EVER dated.
Not only did he lie about the fact that he had a girlfriend (for a year and a half, when he told me they had been broken up for a year in a half). His girlfriend (a Sag) called me and begged me to break up with him, which I did because I was annoyed with the drama (Cap Moon and Taurus Venus hates drama). But he continued to call me and say he broke up with her, and that she was crazy, and he wanted to try again and forgive him. I of course believed him, and then we started talking again. BUT she then began calling me and threatening me, left phone messages that she was going to decapitate me, and cut my body up into pieces. Then she would call and he would be next to her (I could hear her voice), and she would tell me that he was disgusted with how I looked because I'm black and Mexican. She then begun stalking me, and found out my class schedule, and what dorm I lived in (I was in college when it happened). After this he'd call me and say she forced him to do it. Needless to say I got the police involved, and it stopped.
This was a few years ago (in about 2008). And despite all the above happening I still stayed friendly with him (blame the Venus in 11th house, and Sun/Mars/Mercury Uranus aspects). To this day the guy calls me and begs me to take him back, and then tells me how amazing and loving I was. And when I don't answer his phone calls he will call from another phone number. He swears he has changed and can't understand how I am so unyielding and stubborn in my decision to not date again (blame the fact that I have almost no mutable planets in my chart, and have a Fixed Venus and Mercury as the reason why).
So yeah I would say I have had a bad experience with a gemini. BUT my best friend of 5 years was a Gemini Sun and Mercury with Cancer Venus and I loved her to bits and pieces. And now I'm obsessed and very attracted to a Gemini Sun and Moon guy who has his Mercury and Mars in Cancer, and Venus in Taurus (so similar to the above Gemini).
Not only did he lie about the fact that he had a girlfriend (for a year and a half, when he told me they had been broken up for a year in a half). His girlfriend (a Sag) called me and begged me to break up with him, which I did because I was annoyed with the drama (Cap Moon and Taurus Venus hates drama). But he continued to call me and say he broke up with her, and that she was crazy, and he wanted to try again and forgive him. I of course believed him, and then we started talking again. BUT she then began calling me and threatening me, left phone messages that she was going to decapitate me, and cut my body up into pieces. Then she would call and he would be next to her (I could hear her voice), and she would tell me that he was disgusted with how I looked because I'm black and Mexican. She then begun stalking me, and found out my class schedule, and what dorm I lived in (I was in college when it happened). After this he'd call me and say she forced him to do it. Needless to say I got the police involved, and it stopped.
This was a few years ago (in about 2008). And despite all the above happening I still stayed friendly with him (blame the Venus in 11th house, and Sun/Mars/Mercury Uranus aspects). To this day the guy calls me and begs me to take him back, and then tells me how amazing and loving I was. And when I don't answer his phone calls he will call from another phone number. He swears he has changed and can't understand how I am so unyielding and stubborn in my decision to not date again (blame the fact that I have almost no mutable planets in my chart, and have a Fixed Venus and Mercury as the reason why).
So yeah I would say I have had a bad experience with a gemini. BUT my best friend of 5 years was a Gemini Sun and Mercury with Cancer Venus and I loved her to bits and pieces. And now I'm obsessed and very attracted to a Gemini Sun and Moon guy who has his Mercury and Mars in Cancer, and Venus in Taurus (so similar to the above Gemini).
I'm not a Crab but the obvious thing to say about a Gemini-Cancer relationship is that the Cancer is liable to get hurt by the Gemini's tendency to flirt and/or be unfaithful with third parties. In general I think that Cancers (like Earth signs) like to know where they stand which is a difficult demand to make of a Gemini. I would imagine that on the whole the Gemini would tend to bring out the insecurities of the Cancer, but the relationship may persist for a while anyway as the Cancer would tend to form attachments easily and to cling to relationships even when they are not very happy ones.
I'm a gemini with a venus in cancer. If I'm in a social setting, I can pretty much have a conversation with anyone, but when it comes to romantic situations, I'm definitely a cancer. There's no other aspect of my life where I scrupulously research potential mates, care what they think of me, be really shy, be totally clingy. I really can't even get horny unless I feel some sort of lovey-dovey feeling. Sex and love are very closely tied for me. I dated a cancer guy and I really cared about him. I don't want to be the one to say the l word first, partly because I'm the girl and want the guy to lead the way (don't wanna seem psycho or too attached), but it could also be a cancer thing, wanting to know how he felt first. But anyway, I was all about him. Romantically, sexually, I only pursued him and shut any other options down about two weeks after meeting him. I was still social with all the other people I met, including guys, simply because I don't give a shit about them and sometimes I just wanna talk. It didn't seem to be a big deal to me to just be talking to people because in my mind there is a clear divide between what is 100% platonic and what is romantic to me. He was the only one I cared about. I always wondered if talking to other guys bothered him, since I clearly (to me, anyway) wasn't attracted to anyone else. More recently, I was talking to him about how sometimes I just talk to whoever at bars just to shoot the shit cause I get drunk and bored and saying weird things/freaking people out/making them laugh usually entertains me/them. He said it seemed more like flirting. I also asked him if it bothered him or if he ever got jealous and he said no, and regardless, I always made it clear that the guy friends I was telling about were not attractive to me. Sometimes I even felt bad, because these conversations meant that I was calling some of my best friends ugly, short, or dumb, but I really made an effort to make him feel comfortable, sicne I had read all the cancer stuff about them being clingy and needing security. However, I feel like it didn't work since he ended up moving, we stopped dating and currently I feel like he is fading away from me 
I always wanna visit him and keep up contact, but he doesn't seem as interested anymore. It hurts to try because it has become a struggle to make plans with him. So I've been thinking I should just give up. See if he wants to contact me
I always wanna visit him and keep up contact, but he doesn't seem as interested anymore. It hurts to try because it has become a struggle to make plans with him. So I've been thinking I should just give up. See if he wants to contact me If I could guess what he thinks about me as a gemini he dated... he probably thinks I am crazy and clingy, and get mad for dumb reasons. He was never mad at me for when I had a crazy moment, but he didn't like it when I got mad at him about some stuff.
There were things we wanted to do together and even now I would still do them with him (examples: road trips, concerts), but he never wanted to commit to making a plan to do them. For instance if it was a concert in a month, he wouldn't just say let's go buy our tickets right now, even though I knew we would end up going together. And you know what happens? tickets sell out!! Which is why I try to make these plans in advance. I think he likes to see how he feels at the time and then go together like it's some spontaneous adventure, which is fine with me except when there's a risk of tickets selling out, or now that we live in different cities, I'd like to plan my visit to him in advance, cause otherwise I'd make plans in my own city with my friends.
Anyway, so I'd get mad that he wouldn't just plan it cause it seemed like he was holding out for some possible better plan and he just wanted me as like a last resort backup plan. Or maybe he didn't see us lasting that long, so didn't want to make any promises. This hurt my feelings, so I'd get mad and gave him silent treatment once or twice. Since then, our relationship started to fall apart.
It's not fair though, how can he be mad at me for being mad at him? I was mad first!!
There were things we wanted to do together and even now I would still do them with him (examples: road trips, concerts), but he never wanted to commit to making a plan to do them. For instance if it was a concert in a month, he wouldn't just say let's go buy our tickets right now, even though I knew we would end up going together. And you know what happens? tickets sell out!! Which is why I try to make these plans in advance. I think he likes to see how he feels at the time and then go together like it's some spontaneous adventure, which is fine with me except when there's a risk of tickets selling out, or now that we live in different cities, I'd like to plan my visit to him in advance, cause otherwise I'd make plans in my own city with my friends.
Anyway, so I'd get mad that he wouldn't just plan it cause it seemed like he was holding out for some possible better plan and he just wanted me as like a last resort backup plan. Or maybe he didn't see us lasting that long, so didn't want to make any promises. This hurt my feelings, so I'd get mad and gave him silent treatment once or twice. Since then, our relationship started to fall apart.
It's not fair though, how can he be mad at me for being mad at him? I was mad first!!
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