found out last night that we broke up 3 mos. ago

Just need to vent about a cancer guy. I wont say no to any advice though!

Me and my cancer guy have been going out for about 7 months. or so I thought. He currently lives an hour away, at first everything was really great. He had been looking for jobs in other further away areas most of the time weve been together. We had talked about continuing to see each other long distance, but never had a full conversation. He had been spending less time with me when he comes to town for the past couple months. Meanwhile, we would still kiss, no sex, but he took me out for valentines day and we just went to Six flags together on Monday. How was I supposed to know we had broken up?

This came up during texting, he said something i said was weird, and I was like why? we are still dating. and he was like oh i thought we have just been friends for a while now. Anyway, I was really upset and honestly in disbelief. I thought he was just being a bad boyfriend lately. I had even explicitly said to him, if he doesnt want to date anymore, to just tell me. and he would never just say yes.

I told him he should have been more clear and it was dickish for him to string me along.

He said nothing has changed and hes not seeing anyone else. He asked if i didnt want to see him again. I told him I couldnt be his friend if he didnt have the same feelings for me or wanted to see other people. He said he didn't have plans to but possibly it could happen, not to mention he was moving soon. I said it seems like he has his doubts about dating me and my feelings wont go away if i continue to talk to to him, so if he doesnt feel the same way, i can't talk to him anymore. Then I was mean and said have a nice life. he said uh ok. fine

Recently, a job opened up in my town. Prior to this breakup revelation, I had assumed that if he got this job and moved here, we'd be together and continue dating. Even now, if he wanted to be with me, I would date him. I know it sounds dumb, but hes everything that I wanted in a mate and when he was my boyfriend, he was really sweet until the phantom breakup. The big problem is that I dont know how he feels, if he would date me if he moved here. I forgot to ask when I was upset.

Im wondering if I should make myself unavailable on our instant messaging that we always do, and come back on in a week and maybe hed try to talk to me? Or am I supposed to initiate cause I am the one who said I couldnt talk to him anymore?

This guy sounds like a dick head. move the fuck on find someone else. He will waste your time and not worth the heart ache he will give you seriously.

There are sooooooooo many men in this world at least one of them has to be better than this asshole.

Yeah, find a good guy.

The others here are right, so definitely go find someone that makes you feel good as a person!