Friendship

Isn't it great how we don't give up on our friends? I always have real intricate and seemingly dubious reasons for staying friends with certain people. I don't have many girlfriends. The ones I do get really annoyed with me. I had a Leo friend who I defended for years. I kept accepting her into my life and even now, I really miss her. I never judged her. I let her crash with me. I've known her since elementary school. We've been so close for so long, almost inseparable, but I always felt like she didn't like me? Like she's always had something bottled up.

So, a year ago she decided to finally let me have it. The day she decided to do this was a day I lost a family member (which she knew about, of course). She wanted to have this serious conversation about why I don't care about her, all because I wanted time to be alone. She called me a shitty friend. I asked her if we could PLEASE talk about it later. Apparently not and she defriended me.

A month ago I decided to message her and we had a nice conversation, but then she deleted me and lied about it, and then disappeared. That kind of reaffirmed the empty feeling I had the first time around.

I just think it's sad when you care about people, genuinely and truly, and they don't see it. It's like saying you don't give enough, when you've given everything.

Anyone else have a friendship like this?

Yeah it is. If we take back a friend after something really crappy they did, me must really love them. But there comes a point where us Crabs have to let go. Which i know is hard. But if you find yourself doing all the work in a friendship; & the other person is slacking off, you gotta let their musty azz go lol. I'm serious, because most people don't deserve they kinda love that we give. Either they work hard to keep it or get the pink slip 😉

I wish this dumb website had spell check lol. They never bother to upgrade sh*t. But yes i had/have a friend like you did. I believe love changes people, not arguing/debating everything they do.

@aquavita
I'm in a similar situation as you. I have a long time friend who is an aqua but I really think with a Leo ascendant because he is SO pompous and arrogant. Anyway I find that are friendship goes in cycles because after hanging out for so long he starts to become unbaribly assholeish like he is having fun shooting all these snarky remarks at me. Then I ignore him for a long time not calling him or anything and he ALWAYS ends up calling me and acting all nice and asking to hang out and then the cycle repeats lol

Leo's are not independent at all Pisces are so superior to them in that category.

In their arrogance Leo's might fancy you a slave but trust me, if you leave them they will come crying right back to you because they can't live without their slave.

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Anyone else have a friendship like this?

I gave up on the concept of friendship. I used to move heaven and earth for people, and was always rewarded with betrayal. I keep people at a distance as I prefer having acquaintances. I am no longer emotionally invested in outsiders. I don't feel lonely because I have always been emotionally independent. It's what works for me.

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I feel this way, too. The true friends that I have, I've kept since high school. There hasn't been anyone new since then.

I just think it's funny how we try to understand people, instead of being offended, and moving on right then and there. One time, this friend stayed over, but I fell asleep first. She was helping me through a breakup and wanted to make sure I was taking care of myself (which I was), but the company was really nice. While I was asleep, she read through my IM messages lol to see if I talked shit about her? And she found one of my friend's commenting about her, packed up her stuff, and left.

Yet I was the one apologizing? Instead of saying like, fuck you, why did you read through my things? Despite the fact that I didn't even say anything bad about her, she was pissed off at ME.

She's called me a shitty friend a few times, but I've never in my life said something so cruel to anyone.

I adore having friends. My oldest and dearest friend has known me since I was 4. Those that betray get closed out forever and everyone else is free to have as much of a friendship as they are comfortable with.

Being part of the inner circle is a bit harder and there's layers, so many layers, but that's as it should be.

It's hard to find friends when super shy and have trouble trusting others. My sibbling once said to me I have a world of my own (in a sarcastic way).

No we aren't. We aren't suckers. Sometimes we can't help who fall in love with aquavita. Sometimes our emotions cloud our thinking, especially in relationships. We usually pick up on snakes, & cut their azzes apart. Cancers aren't stupid. We put up with a lot only because we love strongly. Once we get our claws around someone, it's hard to let go. But you can only hurt a Cancer too much, & your azz is done 🙂.