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Aug 17, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 352 · Topics: 43
I am quite frustrated with myself. So I have not initiated contact with the cancer man for 2 months now, and as expected, he doesn't as well. I still think of him day & night but I do my best to refrain from initiating anything with him. I'm not interested in other guys who come along. Sometimes I try to find out any other ways to approach him, to try to understand his intentions, but in the end I couldn't figure out anything, ended up back in square 1 & wonder why I'm doing all this... I feel like we are both just watching & stalking each other quietly but both stubbornly holding in. I could just be delusional really. Haha! Sigh... Okay, thanks for reading xD
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Aug 17, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 352 · Topics: 43
The last of our conversations, he said he doesn't date a woman unless he wanna sleep with her, to which I offered him to sleep with me, to which, he spent a whole night staying up intellectualising all this & we ended up doing nothing. When we discussed this again a few days later, he said he didn't feel it's right & he didn't want to regret doing it after, especially me, & he didn't want me to hate him.
My question:
Is he nicely rejecting me because he doesn't like me that way & doesn't wanna lead me on
Or
Does he in fact like me too hence he is pondering/overthinking because he's afraid any misstep would spoil the dynamics we were having?
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Aug 17, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 352 · Topics: 43
I can feel he's a very apprehensive person & every word is a calculated thought. But I had done all that I could the 6 months before I decided to give up 2 months ago because I did not seem to get favourable response from him. Every person I sought advice from agreed I'd done all I could. If a guy is any more interested should have picked up from there & start pursuing. I had thrown out my ego. I've tried chatting him up but his responses were inconsistent & most of the times he ignored my messages. He rejected my invitation to a movie or even just hanging out. I've even blatantly told him I like him. I tried being friendly but if he doesn't respond I do not know how else to go about it. It's a very 1-way communication & it's very hard even if I persisted because I just do not understand what he wants.
Thank you for your feedback.
If you could offer any advice on any other approach I could try, I'd be willing to consider.
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Jan 19, 2014Comments: 3 · Posts: 873 · Topics: 41
No advice will work ..cancer once we fuck you good dats it you hooked. I think tauruses are the ones dat gets us. Despite the roller coaster we wanna give you many babies and yall dont mind. The reality is women are very insatiable. I blame the web ,cable and the cell phone.lol Dammmmmn u web dammmnnn uuuuuuuuu.
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Aug 17, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 352 · Topics: 43
Hey thank you both! I really appreciate your feedback & what you said are really true. I am not getting what I want & that is not how this should be. I probably knew that subconsciously that's why I did step back. And to have this pointed out to me to really be clear about it all I guess I needed it.
I just simply have to let it go...
I am not a shy & cautious Cancer, so I certainly don't represent all Cancers, plus I'm not a man, but if I were behaving the way this man is it would be because I cared about you as a person & a friend & didn't want to hurt you, but didn't want to lead you on when I was not interested in you in the same way as you were in me.
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Jan 19, 2014Comments: 3 · Posts: 873 · Topics: 41
Tauruses never let go. Especially when they love hard.Do u love him...if he aint showing interest or see u as a friend u got friendzoned.
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Aug 17, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 352 · Topics: 43
i am really impressed by how true and accurate all your feedback has been on my situation, that i felt really understood and empathised with. i am really grateful for your support.
i agree i shouldn't be telling myself about letting go. i have to work with what the reality presented and be reasonable about it. i know this myself because many years ago i have been caught up in the same circumstance of trying to move on. with the clarity that all of you have given me, i have to learn to accept the truth of the situation. it's just that it'll be hard, and i may lapse every now and then. have i mentioned, i do hate this obstinacy in me sometimes.