guy trouble

I wanted to ask all the cancers here if any of you have ever taken the initiative to ask someone out or talk to someone you like? how did you go about it? and did you have convince yourself first that the person liked you back?

I am pretty much convince he likes me but I get to nervous so when his around I act like I am totally oblivious. I have never been the type to approach people regardless of how I feel about them. every guys I dated and all of my friends approached me before I did. even though I thought they were nice people and could see myself hang out with them they still were the ones who made the friendship possible because as they tell me I come off cold.

Oh, I know how you feel. The cancer is giving out such weird signals, she fed me some food with her hand once. She's touching me.

I think they're really indirect and I'm really starting to see that now. I dont think they'll ever make the first move. So if neither don't make the first move, nothings going to happen. Sad but its true, as far as i've seen anyway.

Yup..I NEVER make the first move and I guess I come across as not resciprocating even though I think I AM! It's frustrating being like this. I need the guy to make the move and let me know he's really interested before I can let down my guard and be comfortable. It sux....

hah! imagine how difficult it is for male cancers to make the first move sometimes--especially in a "guys make the first move" society like ours

fiddle it is even worst. I met this cancer guy 2 yrs ago who was into me and I liked him too but man we spent a lot of time together but all we could talk about was his wallet and avoided making eye contact. we flirted indirectly and he would always joke (at least he tried to make it look that way) around by telling me I love you which I tough was hilarious. pretty much kept holding on to me the entire night and then a friend of ours that night told me he liked me while he was sitting with us and then she proceeded to drag me down too by telling him I liked him. but I was so embarrassed I avoided him like a plague and after that summer we have not seen each other). so yeah it is even worst when it is with two cancers.

i am one of those cancers who will ask someone out... i have done it all of my adult life (I'm now 29)... i didn't have to convince myself of anything. i have gone up to cute guys and said, "hey, if you aren't married, engaged, gay or have a girlfriend or someone who thinks she is your girlfriend, please give me your number i think you are so good looking and i would like to go out with you." now that is what i say when i don't know the person. if it is for someone that i know and kind of like, i just go with my gut. i already know i am catch so i just put it out there... but i'm very outgoing... but once i do go out with someone, i do have a problem with the moodiness and mixed signals because i still need time to get comfortable with a person...

solis both my ascendant and moon are fire and I still can't muster the nerve to chase.

You shouldn't have to chase.. it's not your job so don't worry about it 🙂

took my guy two years to admit he loved me. they just don't move fast or direct. this is not a risk taking sign, with the heart at least. but when secure, dear god, they'll move the earth for you. but apparently, not get rid of pesky ex g/f's. oops. sorry. a short hijack there.

the thing is the guy is an aries which makes it confusing because he comes off shy.

wooooooooow...that is GREAT advice. hopefully people who don't inuitively understand that are at least willing to take it into consideration.