Help A Scorpio Girl Out...(Cancer Guy victim)

Hey guys. I??ve been a lurker here for a while now. I'm kind of in a difficult situation so I made an account because I could use some help. I know that there are a bunch of these cancer guy threads and it's a little out of hand. However, I??d appreciate any help or advice you guys have.

I??ll try to keep it short as I can.

I sort of became friends with this guy last year. We??re taking the same college classes. He sits in the back and is really quiet and mysterious (and cute). He's known for being a genius so originally I thought of him as a threat. I of course want to be top of the class 🙂. However, I instantly fell for him--hard. He's just really amazing. Words really can't do him justice. Cliche? I know...

I unfortunately can't get my mind off of him. I??ve tried dating other guys that actually showed interest in me, but it doesn't help at all. I have yet to tell him my feelings; I want to figure him out a little more before I decide to make that move. That's if I make the move. Since I do believe the guy should make the first move. We do talk like normal friends, and I notice he gets a little shy with me. There is an unspoken connection between us. Also, we flirt with each other. He's a really, really good looking guy, so girls are always after him. Which honestly makes me jealous. So I need to put some plan into action fast.

In May, I discovered that he's in fact a cancer guy. We were taking our personal documents to school and I snatched his birth certificate from him. I told him I wanted to see his papers. (I was born in Arizona so it was a joke and we both laughed.) In those few seconds I memorized everything I could. He's a July 4th Cancer. 🙂 . What has me a little worried is all the threads I read about Cancer guy??s going MIA or being really confusing (push /pull). I know that I should try not to scare him away. He runs an animal shelter, so maybe I could show that I care about animals too. He also runs a company, so maybe he's into business like women. I could show him that I'm all business. 😉
I'm not really sure yet. I'm still deciding my attack. Should I hint more that I like him? Or do I start feeding him food and try meeting his mom?? lol

Jokes aside, I don't want to miss this up. I can pull up his chart if it's needed.

I won't be seeing him until next week. He's out of town.

Any help is welcome.

Why are you annoyed?

Posted by mr.crabby
Why are you annoyed?

I stubbed my toe right before I made my account.

Posted by AnnoyedScorpGirl

Posted by mr.crabby
Why are you annoyed?

I stubbed my toe right before I made my account.

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What does he think about your dating habits?

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Posted by AnnoyedScorpGirl

Posted by mr.crabby
Why are you annoyed?

I stubbed my toe right before I made my account.

What does he think about your dating habits?

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He didn't seem too happy. He got quiet when we talked about it. One of our friends mentioned I had a date once and he was like, "Oh, that's cool I guess". Then he stuck around for a few minutes before he left. No real reaction.

At the time I was trying to get over him. I assumed he wasn't interested. I'm still not entirely sure what he thinks of me. When I look at him I get the feeling like he wants to do something but he's afraid of what I'd say. One time I said something negative about our professor (that he's a bat-eyed douchebag--he was). Then cancer guy said he was glad he never asked me what I thought about of him.

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Posted by mr.crabby
Why are you annoyed?

I stubbed my toe right before I made my account.

What does he think about your dating habits?

He didn't seem too happy. He got quiet when we talked about it. One of our friends mentioned I had a date once and he was like, "Oh, that's cool I guess". Then he stuck around for a few minutes before he left. No real reaction.

At the time I was trying to get over him. I assumed he wasn't interested. I'm still not entirely sure what he thinks of me. When I look at him I get the feeling like he wants to do something but he's afraid of what I'd say. One time I said something negative about our professor (that he's a bat-eyed douchebag--he was). Then cancer guy said he was glad he never asked me what I thought about of him.

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I don't know why you would go out with someone else if you're interested in him, so I guess he doesn't get it either.

I think you might be an offensive loudmouth and that he feels your attitude could turn on him, and that's why he stays away. The idea of the "real man" would allow you to wait for him and to treat him badly and dump him when you feel like it, because "real men" want you but don't really have feelings. If you show the softer side of yourself and stop trying to act tough, he will probably be more interested. We usually can't be bothered to go through all the attitude bullshit to get to know you. Are you from the 3rd decan?

3rd or 1st, I mean.

I'm a 3rd decan Scorpio.

Sounds like you already know he wouldn't be interested in the real you... so you want to come up with some strategies to position yourself in a more favourable light (animal shelter/business minded) before the truth leaks out.

I also think you still do see him as a threat and want to get a "leg up" on your competition. Win by any means possible

Still deciding your attack? wow. I wish you were joking but you're not... really

I'll keep this anonymous cancer in my prayers tonight. jk 🙂

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Posted by mr.crabby
Why are you annoyed?

I stubbed my toe right before I made my account.

What does he think about your dating habits?

He didn't seem too happy. He got quiet when we talked about it. One of our friends mentioned I had a date once and he was like, "Oh, that's cool I guess". Then he stuck around for a few minutes before he left. No real reaction.

At the time I was trying to get over him. I assumed he wasn't interested. I'm still not entirely sure what he thinks of me. When I look at him I get the feeling like he wants to do something but he's afraid of what I'd say. One time I said something negative about our professor (that he's a bat-eyed douchebag--he was). Then cancer guy said he was glad he never asked me what I thought about of him.

I don't know why you would go out with someone else if you're interested in him, so I guess he doesn't get it either.

I think you might be an offensive loudmouth and that he feels your attitude could turn on him, and that's why he stays away. The idea of the "real man" would allow you to wait for him and to treat him badly and dump him when you feel like it, because "real men" want you but don't really have feelings. If you show the softer side of yourself and stop trying to act tough, he will probably be more interested. We usually can't be bothered to go through all the attitude bullshit to get to know you. Are you from the 3rd decan?

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Okay, I think you're confused as to what I did. I only went out with other guys because I gave up on him. I really thought it would help me get over my crush. I planned on forgetting about him. He has a lot of other girls interested anyway, so what chance did I really have. Also, he is a "real man". I would feel very much more comfortable with him asking me out. I'd rather not make the first move--I'm not into feeling venerable. Sorry if that's not cool with you. One more thing, I'm not an offensive load mouth. I did say some bad things about our pr

Posted by shellshocker
Sounds like you already know he wouldn't be interested in the real you... so you want to come up with some strategies to position yourself in a more favourable light (animal shelter/business minded) before the truth leaks out.

I also think you still do see him as a threat and want to get a "leg up" on your competition. Win by any means possible

Still deciding your attack? wow. I wish you were joking but you're not... really

I'll keep this anonymous cancer in my prayers tonight. jk 🙂

I do believe he might be interested in the real me. What's wrong with showing him a certain side of me?? And what truth leaking out? That I like him—

When I said, "I'm still planning my attack." I didn't mean that in a negative way--it was a joke. I have no bad intentions. I really hope you were joking. I like making jokes occasionally, so maybe you guys got the wrong idea. I hope nobody took it the wrong way. I just don't want to throw myself out there with this guy. It's different with him. You're also wrong about me trying to "win by any means possible". For the record, I don't see him as competition in my eyes anymore. I threw that information out there because I think it's kind of romantic that we could have been enemies, but ended up as friends and hopefully a couple.

I don't know why you would go out with someone else if you're interested in him, so I guess he doesn't get it either.

I think you might be an offensive loudmouth and that he feels your attitude could turn on him, and that's why he stays away. The idea of the "real man" would allow you to wait for him and to treat him badly and dump him when you feel like it, because "real men" want you but don't really have feelings. If you show the softer side of yourself and stop trying to act tough, he will probably be more interested. We usually can't be bothered to go through all the attitude bullshit to get to know you. Are you from the 3rd decan?

My last message to you cut off. Here's the end:

I'm not an offensive load mouth. I did say some bad things about our professor, but in my defense you don't know the exact reason for why I said that. I do appreciate your help and would like it if you wouldn't call me names. Thank you 🙂

@ annoyed scorp girl

i hope you approach him in a friendly way...dont do the mirroring stuff. if he is pulling away..you dont pull away otherwise you are killing the magic of what could have been in the process. i see scorp women do the mirroring a lot...it never works but only breaks the tempo of the flirting or a good connection...

good luck!

Posted by AnnoyedScorpGirl

I don't know why you would go out with someone else if you're interested in him, so I guess he doesn't get it either.

I think you might be an offensive loudmouth and that he feels your attitude could turn on him, and that's why he stays away. The idea of the "real man" would allow you to wait for him and to treat him badly and dump him when you feel like it, because "real men" want you but don't really have feelings. If you show the softer side of yourself and stop trying to act tough, he will probably be more interested. We usually can't be bothered to go through all the attitude bullshit to get to know you. Are you from the 3rd decan?

My last message to you cut off. Here's the end:

I'm not an offensive load mouth. I did say some bad things about our professor, but in my defense you don't know the exact reason for why I said that. I do appreciate your help and would like it if you wouldn't call me names. Thank you 🙂

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If you say negative things about people, he might think he's next.

Posted by krebbsmann
@ annoyed scorp girl

i hope you approach him in a friendly way...dont do the mirroring stuff. if he is pulling away..you dont pull away otherwise you are killing the magic of what could have been in the process. i see scorp women do the mirroring a lot...it never works but only breaks the tempo of the flirting or a good connection...

good luck!

They call it pride.

Agreed. I have harbored crushes on a few scorpio women. Things would really click a lot faster if you were just nice to him. Compliment him. You think he's a genius... and that he is an amazing guy... tell him. He'll probably pass out from the rush. He will likely have been eying you too. If you are kind to him, and build from there, you will have his attention.

It's funny, he's a scorpish Cancer and you're a crabby Scorpy. Shouldn't be that complicated, I would think. 😉
Don't you have friends who could lock you both in the same room or something?

There is nothing wrong with being real and vulnerable, in fact it's almost a necessity. Lose the strategies and try being genuine. You'll be surprised

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@ annoyed scorp girl

i hope you approach him in a friendly way...dont do the mirroring stuff. if he is pulling away..you dont pull away otherwise you are killing the magic of what could have been in the process. i see scorp women do the mirroring a lot...it never works but only breaks the tempo of the flirting or a good connection...

good luck!

Posted by Crustacean
Agreed. I have harbored crushes on a few scorpio women. Things would really click a lot faster if you were just nice to him. Compliment him. You think he's a genius... and that he is an amazing guy... tell him. He'll probably pass out from the rush. He will likely have been eying you too. If you are kind to him, and build from there, you will have his attention.

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Thanks guys. I'm going to be nicer to him for sure, and I'll do my best not to mirror him. As for complementing him, I'm not sure what to say. Random girls always compliment him all the time and he'll brush it off by saying, "If you say so".

Posted by mr.crabby
It's funny, he's a scorpish Cancer and you're a crabby Scorpy. Shouldn't be that complicated, I would think. 😉
Don't you have friends who could lock you both in the same room or something?

We do have a few friends in common that might help out. Though I imagine that wouldn't be a good idea. I get really nervous when he's around. I'll probably say or do something stupid.

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Posted by mr.crabby
It's funny, he's a scorpish Cancer and you're a crabby Scorpy. Shouldn't be that complicated, I would think. 😉
Don't you have friends who could lock you both in the same room or something?

We do have a few friends in common that might help out. Though I imagine that wouldn't be a good idea. I get really nervous when he's around. I'll probably say or do something stupid.

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We find that cute, especially if you blush and get embarrassed.

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Posted by mr.crabby
It's funny, he's a scorpish Cancer and you're a crabby Scorpy. Shouldn't be that complicated, I would think. 😉
Don't you have friends who could lock you both in the same room or something?

We do have a few friends in common that might help out. Though I imagine that wouldn't be a good idea. I get really nervous when he's around. I'll probably say or do something stupid.

We find that cute, especially if you blush and get embarrassed.

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This! Very cute.

The only way to win is to not be afraid of losing

Hey, I'm back guys...


So I decided to put my heart out there (sort of) and it worked. 🙂 Thanks guys! He figured it out the other day. I said, "You know, I want to tell you something." *looks down at floor* Then he said, "You want me, don't you?" Me : " Yes, yes I do. " The rest is history. Now we're dating. It's pretty awesome. He's awesome. 🙂

We??re pretty great together. 🙂 Also, I'm no expert but I believe we??re good together astrologically speaking as well.

Mine:





His:






I'm not sure how to get a synastry chart. :p

Yeah, the website is a bit shitty.