Help - does my cancer girl like me or not?

Hi, I am from california and met my cancer friend a few months ago. She is a neighbour. She opened up a lot the first few times we met then just distant polite friends for a couple months. Lately she has been a clingy friend, very hot and cold and I am starting to have feelings for her. I can't tell if she likes me more than a friend or not and know cancer's can be hard to figure out.

If I play it cool or a couple days she comes and finds me. If I give her attention for a couple days it is obvious she wants her space. Lately she has got me to help with stuff around the house and to play with her cat and invites me inside. I tried making a couple small plans but she always wants things on her terms. She hasn't cooked for me which apparently is a cancer thing and the last week she seems way more comfortable with me but less interested in asking personal type questions than before.

I do not know i she likes me more than a friend? I do not know if I should make any move or take it slow as apparently ppl on this forum say cancer's want to get to know you first. Plus it is awkward being a neighbour. What should I do?

Oh I forgot to add. We never seem to touch at all in any way. not even a stray friendly hand. Also she has never actually called me friend, or brother or buddy. I get compliments like I am very caring or giving and such. Lately her mind seems to be elsewhere when I am around even though she comes to find me to be around in the first place.

I would suggest you determine what you want first. She sounds like a typical cancer with the hot and cold and cancers like getting to know you and remain mysterious. I for one am not into physical contact unless I am really feeling you and even then I would go as far as to say dating and touching go hand in hand with me. I also don't think cancers are big on cooking as they are on eating, I barely cook for myself. And with the friendship being fresh you probably shouldn't expect cooking. We like subtle attention and don't want to be clingy as many would claim us to be but she might like you if she's looking for attention from you. And of course cancers like having things their way and as for the personal question she might be processing your answers trying to see the compatibility between you and her. Or expects you to ask about her now so she can push you away to see if your worthy of her affection and attention.

Thanks Crabnextdoor it is good to understand that stuff better. I have determined what I want. I really really like her and want to try out a relationship. I am not just looking for sex from someone I like this much. If she expects me to ask about her so she can pull away to see if I am worthy what exactly am I supposed to be doing to show I am worthy? All I know is to give her some space when she is pushing away or needs her own space?

Also thanks lesenfantterribles that is really good to know that is a sign of flirting.

Basically I just want to know what it is I should be doing? At the moment I am just available to her when she wants to hang out (never for huge periods of time. like 15min smoke to an hour max). Or I am just chilling while she needs space?

Also I tend to fall fast for people. When am I supposed to make a move or let her know how I feel? I have never dealt with a cancer before. Assuming I can get the courage to do so at all not knowing if she likes me more than a friend and her being a neighbour.

Best way to find out is to initiate a date. Call it a date. Tell her you want to take her on a dinner date. You'll see where she stands real quick

really? elsewhere on this forum everyone says crabs wanna go real slow to build trust and don't tell them your feelings too early.

In my best belief they want to pull away to see if you will still linger around and see if you really feel how you claim to feel. Don't try moving fast though but let her know how you feel that way she will know you are exclusive and will likely return the favor. Also don't always be available to her or she'll treat you like the disposable you are acting like.

Thanks. I def will not ALWAYS be available in the future. How am I supposed to let her know how I feel though and still not be moving too fast?

Posted by taurdude
Thanks. I def will not ALWAYS be available in the future. How am I supposed to let her know how I feel though and still not be moving too fast?

You're Taurus, right? I am seeing (solid) a Taurean (John) man. At first I didn't think he was "into me" because of short texts. I ALMOST dissed him until boom**! Something happened. I kept telling him I liked his Bitmojies and he said, "Make it". I asked for the app and that's when he told me the name (he misspelled it) and I said, "No such animal, I'll find it myself, I'm smart!" I did. Since then we've been non stop (a month now; met him last month) texting (about 10 times a day). He thought I was shy and vice versa.

Taurus men (when ready) will inform the woman, "I like you" (he texted this to me on Sunday). On Friday, he called me while making his final delivery while at work (safely, before a Troll comes into play putting in his/her 2cents worth). He said, "Gotta go, if I text you later, will you be there?" I said, "You bet!" Last night, outta the blue, he called me. That's when I asked him to be my date at a C&W concert (Billy Currington) here at "our" home town as he lives 20 minutes from my home. Both my Taurus and I talked about "what we want if we have a solid relationship". We both laid out our cards on the table. I put the cherry on top by texting him that night, "I have deleted my POF account" (where we met). Came to find out on FB he's friends of my gf Lucinda (she's getting married in Dec). I cut and pasted the message from POF confirming my deleted account and texted him (I KNOW John looked it up to see if I was telling the truth; I did). We text good mornings, miss you, "poke", good night, etc. (these Bitmojies are so cute!).

We tell one another we're leaving work, tell one another where we're at, etc. This is respect for one another as "trust" is not an issue w/us but "honesty is". Taureans are "gentlemen with manners". Who I've learned are not players; they are looking for love; not lust (one night stands, wham-bam-thank you ma'ams, etc).

Talk to her (Cancerian). They are chatty Kathy, very smart, hard working gals, wouldn't hurt a fly, and best friends. I informed my Taurus I wanted him to be my best friend, someone I wanted to tells things to since he's the first person that comes into my mind. Tell her the same. Yeah, I agree with a DXP's advice, ask her out on a date. My Taurus and I met face-to-face last week, and I already asked him out on a date for September, Billy Currington (yeah, I know it's a long way off, but he and l live "day by day"). Take things slowly and "Go w/the flow"

Good luck.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: Read up on "female" Cancers...you'll learn allot. I've got two monitors at my workstation, click on these!

https://zodiacrelation.wordpress.com/2013/07/13/cancer-woman/

http://www.astroreveal.com/How-To-Attract-Any-Zodiac-Sign.aspx?a=CAN&g=F

http://www.wikihow.com/Date-a-Cancer-Woman

um thanks for the links Eva. not sure i quite get your post. i am glad you guys bonded over bitmojies and your enjoying your relationship. i am not sure if you guys are together or just best friends now. i am already becoming good friends with her and i don't exactly hope to hear she likes me as a friend. specifically wondering how to go slow, sometimes not be available but also share my feelings. because my feelings are that i really like her and want more than friendship

This is tricky because a Cancer woman is quite private and you living in close proximity might make her more wary.

Id say she is being cautious of you...

She cleaned, she's interested!

Now she is withdrawing but that is typical of a cancerian.

You need to persue her now. Ask if she wants to watch a movie at your place, then tell her you like her mid movie and that you'd very much like to date. Don't make any other moves on her right now.

Posted by taurdude
Thanks. I def will not ALWAYS be available in the future. How am I supposed to let her know how I feel though and still not be moving too fast?

Just be upfront with her but after that make her put in the footwork if she is into you.

ahh i am 26 and she is 29. i think that is the opposite of smooth. just blurting out mid movie "i'd very much like to date".

ok, i am going to at least once be unavailable for once then let her know how i feel. i will let you guys know how it went when that happens. any other ideas on whether to and how to do this and how to after let her do the leg work is still much appreciated. if she just wants to be friends it is going to suck living next to her and in future watching her date

You don't have to verbalize it, maybe put into action. Convey your feelings through actions.

actions? all i can think of actions wise is look into her eyes and try kiss her. which would be weird having never touched at all?

Posted by taurdude
actions? all i can think of actions wise is look into her eyes and try kiss her. which would be weird having never touched at all?

Well don't do that lol try flowers and a card or maybe Something that has a meaningful attachment for both of you. Add humor to soften the blow of you liking her!

Posted by taurdude
ok, i am going to at least once be unavailable for once then let her know how i feel. i will let you guys know how it went when that happens. any other ideas on whether to and how to do this and how to after let her do the leg work is still much appreciated. if she just wants to be friends it is going to suck living next to her and in future watching her date

She'll likely want a go around don't worry to much if you are willing to be on standby for a little she'll find her way to you!??

fuck she has started dating someone else. now i have to get used to that while living as neighbors. i really appreciate everyone's help. been ages since i let myself like anyone. guess i will slump back to not dating anyone and ignoring the opposite sex as usual. hurts to even try

i think she knew i was starting to like her and kind of on purpose let me find out she started being with someone else... damn it i suck

Posted by taurdude
i think she knew i was starting to like her and kind of on purpose let me find out she started being with someone else... damn it i suck

That is such a cancer move oml ??‍♀️

think she was physically attracted to me just i didnt turn out personality wise to be attractive enough. too available and needy 😢. as objectively as possible im better looking than the guy she just started to date and i look extremely close to how her ex looks.

not mad at her. she doesnt have to like me more than a friend

Posted by taurdude
think she was physically attracted to me just i didnt turn out personality wise to be attractive enough. too available and needy 😢. as objectively as possible im better looking than the guy she just started to date and i look extremely close to how her ex looks.

not mad at her. she doesnt have to like me more than a friend

Boy you better take what you want

Posted by CrabNextDoor

Posted by taurdude
think she was physically attracted to me just i didnt turn out personality wise to be attractive enough. too available and needy 😢. as objectively as possible im better looking than the guy she just started to date and i look extremely close to how her ex looks.

not mad at her. she doesnt have to like me more than a friend

Boy you better take what you want

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yeah in future i def have to get better at doing that. i have been pathetic after past traumas for a really long time

Sorry to hear that it must be so difficult to live so close and have to witness that on a daily basis. And you don't suck

Us crabs are so zigzag compared to you Taureans are straight forward.

I bet she did like you but if you guys dated and it didn't work out, it still would be awkward being neighbours.

Posted by taurdude

Posted by CrabNextDoor

Posted by taurdude
think she was physically attracted to me just i didnt turn out personality wise to be attractive enough. too available and needy 😢. as objectively as possible im better looking than the guy she just started to date and i look extremely close to how her ex looks.

not mad at her. she doesnt have to like me more than a friend

Boy you better take what you want

yeah in future i def have to get better at doing that. i have been pathetic after past traumas for a really long time

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You're not pathetic someone better is out there for you

I'm a cancer and I am exactly like that as well. She is most probably interested, but not yet sure herself. Best to give her space from time to time but whenever you see each other, show that you care. I am like that, but once I feel that this person is consistent and I could trust him/her I start to fall and I let my guards down. Hope this helps..

Posted by taurdude

Posted by CrabNextDoor

Posted by taurdude
think she was physically attracted to me just i didnt turn out personality wise to be attractive enough. too available and needy 😢. as objectively as possible im better looking than the guy she just started to date and i look extremely close to how her ex looks.

not mad at her. she doesnt have to like me more than a friend

Boy you better take what you want

yeah in future i def have to get better at doing that. i have been pathetic after past traumas for a really long time

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If you really like her it's never too late just put in maximum effort!