I feel like women don't like me .all my life its been this way.ever since I was in high school it was like this. I feel utterly useless and alone.if I could fade away I would because life just isn't for me anymore. And that's not an over exaggeration. I dont want to live.the pain is just to much.you see I'm a nice guy and I always think of the female.I love to love.but women always use me and throw me away. They say 'your just to sensitive; but when it comes to them, the world comes to an end.Im tired....so tired of women now.I just can't take it anymore. I try to be there for them and be patent.I try not to show my emotional side to much but still I fail.I fail......I fail so much. Its coming to a point now where I don't like to go out.I eat by my self and spend time alone.women have messed over me so much I hate them all. The hate in me has become something deep.so deep I can feel my inside throbbing. Every time I see a girl I become sad and hurt. Women are os vain and materialistic is sick.literary sick. I'm so hurt now I just can't take it anymore. I can't! I just can't! I'm so tired of giving and they just take! Im saying this because I think I need help now. The anger and saddness in me has been bulding up for years.help me.......I don't know how long I can last now.
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May 11, 2006Comments: 3 · Posts: 2807 · Topics: 185
I think you have some illusion that love is rosy picture for everybody else. We've all been hurt and felt bitter, sworn off the opposite sex. You'll just need to meet the right person. You should loo for ways to meet girls/women through a social setting so that mutual interest can bring you together, instead of being wound up in romantic expectations.
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Nov 30, 2015Comments: 48 · Posts: 510 · Topics: 37
Sorry but just like everybody else you have to fall in love with the wrong ones first in order to settle down with the right one.
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Oct 03, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 264 · Topics: 21
It seems like you are measuring your self worth by the women you date. You need to take a step back and realize that you are enough. You need to learn to love who you are, alone, before you can ever be in a happy relationship.
Remember this, we attract (and accept) the love that we think we deserve.
I really, really think you need to commit to a period of time, where your actively try not to meet someone, and work on making yourself the best version of you. Once you're an the right mental state for a relationship, and you learn what the right kind of girl for you is, I think you'll be in the best position to attract that girl.
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Aug 04, 2015Comments: 2057 · Posts: 38091 · Topics: 1026
How old is OP and how many women hurt him?
I'm 28 and I feel so heavy.my face looks so young until ever time I go out I am always ID ed.I feel like I'm 60.when I was in high school I was so stressed I lost a gallbladder. But I was different then and my will and Determination to please the opposite sex was greater.
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Jan 29, 2011Comments: 660 · Posts: 12420 · Topics: 3
I know some men who pick/like all these user types of women who show what they are all about, but then they get butthurt when these very men fall victim to their typical ways. My older brother happens to be one of these guys. He likes all these user/cunning types of women and when they do to him what they normally do with men, he comes home whining and crying. I'm not saying you're like that, but if every single woman you pick turns out to be a user, then you need to reflect on who you pick as lovers or like.
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Sep 07, 2011Comments: 298 · Posts: 5049 · Topics: 48
The hell part is our suffering. Heaven and hell are within us and me must stop the lies and start being nicer to ourselves. You can't be loved until you master the practice of love. That starts with self love. If you're too busy loving yourself and loving life you don't need the acceptance or love from others. You can appreciate but you won't need it because it's already there within.
So cool huh? I love that Ruiz fam. They're so jedi.
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Aug 12, 2009Comments: 0 · Posts: 4771 · Topics: 30
I agree with Harruka and Aquarius09 to a certain extent.
"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes."
-Marcel Proust
Change your approach to love with a new set of eyes. You're in love with the idea of being in love. It's over-romanticized, superficial, intangible and fleeting. Which means it never existed. You never had the opportunity to experience love in its purest, unapologetic form. The courting process, the in-depth conversations, the vulnerability, the yearning, the evolution. Have you grown as a person from any of these relationships?
Unfortunately, you're the common denominator for these women, which means you need to look inward, not seeking external validation. You're not suffering from a broken heart. To have a broken heart would simply mean you have truly loved this person, have given this person your heart and soul, and connected with the individual on all different levels.
Honestly, what I see is a bruised ego, mainly from women you barely knew.
Don't love to love. Learn to live in the moment, and love will occur organically, and find its way to your heart.
Stop basing your life value on women and love. Direct your attention to other stuff. What are your dreams? What career/personal goals would you like to pursue? What about hobbies? Do you have one? If not get one! It will not only distract your mind but it will also increase your chances to meet the right person for you. As the saying goes " you'll find the one doing what you love the most" . But first things first, get help and take of yourself.
@OP
Go back, read your first message and imagine someone else telling you this. Imagine a woman telling you these things.
Write down on a piece of paper the answer.
Then read it to yourself.
Trust me. Your words are going to feel really powerful.
Thanks everyone for your comments and I am doing better but its an up hill battle.there a Taurus woman who's be talking to me but I need to get my mind right and think adout my life.but she realy nice and as beautiful. But Thanks everyone!
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Feb 24, 2016Comments: 0 · Posts: 739 · Topics: 21
I used to feel the same, read psychology books, self confidence book and do things that will improve your confidence, always face your fears and you'll grow bro.
Hear me out mate,
if you're gonna continue thinking this way, there's no other way that you're gg under then downhill. It isn't easy to change the way you think, but as cancer, there is a need to express your thoughts and feelings, look for a counselor or a friend that you trust. But in the meantime, focus on yourself, improve yourself, work hard and aim to get somewhere brings you happiness, it works! Good luck bro
I'm A Libra female and Atleast one of you cancer assholes know how it feels to be on the shitty end of the stick...