Help! I'm a sag, he's a cancer.

Hello, I'm a sagittarius woman and I've been dating my cancer man for 9 months now. He's told me before he's depressed and that he cuts himself. I've seen all the scars, I know he does this. And we've talked about it and everything. He also gets angry very easily. He's 100% a cancer --- very, VERY moody. Thursday night, we were on the phone and we were fine and happy. We were making plans for Saturday. His friend, my friend, him, and myself were going to all get together Saturday and just hang out like normal people! Bonfire, movies, food, talk, music -- all that. and so, Friday comes and I ride home with him from school and everything is fine. We're just playing around. And Thursday night he told me on the phone he wants to be happy and start to do stuff with people again so he was so excited for Saturday to come!

His parents are very lazy. They make him do EVERYTHING for him. It's pretty bad. They don't really care for anyone except them selves. So, his parents always go up a few hours to see the USC football games--every home game. And he's always gone to them with them because they've always made him. Well, this weekend he didn't think he was going to go. His mom calls and tells him to take me home because he's going to the game. BOOM. He gets so upset and moody and angry. I try to talk to him about it and everything but he won't speak to me. He drops me off, I get out of the car. Nothing I can really do. Well, his parents end up not even going to the game. So, Friday night he calls me and we don't really speak. He ends up saying "goodnight, talk to you tomorrow" out of nowhere and im just there saying "no no no stay no dont go" and he hangs up. and then saturday comes and i text him asking whats up for today! and he says nothing.
He stayed home all saturday in bed doing nothing and that made me so mad. Last weekend, he did the same thing all weekend. he stayed in bed, ignoring me, not choosing to be with me. you don't know how much that makes me upset and mad. so, i lost it and i told him it's stupid and rude and that i hate when he does this shit. because i do. and i am never mean to him, i never even express my anger to him. im so nice to him all the time. and then he texts back and sends me this:"Well im so fxcking sorry that you actually had to get out of your fcking bed and get dressed because God forbid your lazy ass does something for once in this god damn world so fck you youre the one who's stupid why dont you go fcking do something with

someone else besides me and your little fkcing computer because i dont fcking care."
i didn't reply. he texts me again a few hours later saying "I think we need to take a break brooke"

i never texted back yesterday until this morning and i said "i don't agree with the taking a break thing. if you want time alone and everything then you can just tell me and i won't bother you about hanging out and i'll understand. i was just frustrated and i never really even get mad at you or if i do, i never really show it. i don't think taking a break would be the most appropriate thing to do because Friday morning you said we were happy and just Thursday and all of last week we were good and happy, I'll stop bugging you if that's what i did but i think taking a break would fck stuff up. you should just call me so we can talk about this all because i'm not really into everything thats going on right now. just call me or text me"

i'm so confused.

Agree with Boomer. Do your research. I agree with your boyfriend, take a break, with a man like him you're going to need those breaks.

Knowing what I know about depression and cutting I would have eased my ass right on out of his life and not look back, just too much for anyone person to deal with.

Sagi, this is not just a Cancer thing where he can be moody and hide in his shell. This is serious depression and self harm, possibly Borderline, Narcissistic, Bi-Polar, or a whole slew of other things you might be unaware of. Has he been to therapy and if not, please advise him to seek help.

Take this break and research all you can on his symptoms and behaviors on http://www.psychforums.com/forum.html.

Here is a board for those who are in relationships with those who have personality disorders. http://outofthefog.net/forum/index.php?board=7.0<BR>
There is a ToolBox Section of the OOTF site where you can use tools such as validation to maneuver your way around a person who's difficult to deal with.

There are a lot of resources if you choose to help him. This is not just an astrology thing alone. Good Luck with everything.