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There are tons of things I can tell you - but, there is only one that really matters!
It matters not, what material things you have to give your child. Whether their clothes are hand-me-downs, or their supper is hot dogs because it's cheap. What really matters is the love you give him. My son has told me repeatedly (once he reached adulthood), and still tells me this, as well as his friends when he's talking about me and his childhood - the greatest gift I ever gave him was my love.
It matters not, what material things you have to give your child. Whether their clothes are hand-me-downs, or their supper is hot dogs because it's cheap. What really matters is the love you give him. My son has told me repeatedly (once he reached adulthood), and still tells me this, as well as his friends when he's talking about me and his childhood - the greatest gift I ever gave him was my love.
I heard saltines and soda help with the morning sickness ... as for the gas- talk to someone at Planned Parenthood- they got all kinds of good pamplets and stuff like that.
Hey Cancerlady,
When I heard you were pregnant, my heart kinda stopped. 1. because you sounded kinda scared and 2. well, you remember all my problems with ex-aquarius i had? well, we did the abortion thing. It takes so much out of your soul & leaves you feeling a little empty. I felt it was best for me right now, because the dad is an selfish asshole, but at the same time i know I'd be an awesome mom. I am pro-choice, & i know a lot of you might give me grief for speaking up on this side.
I realize this isn't a case of teen/poverty pregnancy, but I also know that having a kid WILL change your life. Cancerlady, don't let the dad affect what you do, let your heart. I know I cried (BAWLED) months after the loss and still feel like something is missing. This is something you can never get back. Yet there are days I talk to God and ask him how my innocent child is, that I cut the life from. Just take your time, think about what YOU want, because no child needs to feel unwanted, ever. In a way, every person is like a child when in such tough decisions. Keep in touch. My prayers are with you.
When I heard you were pregnant, my heart kinda stopped. 1. because you sounded kinda scared and 2. well, you remember all my problems with ex-aquarius i had? well, we did the abortion thing. It takes so much out of your soul & leaves you feeling a little empty. I felt it was best for me right now, because the dad is an selfish asshole, but at the same time i know I'd be an awesome mom. I am pro-choice, & i know a lot of you might give me grief for speaking up on this side.
I realize this isn't a case of teen/poverty pregnancy, but I also know that having a kid WILL change your life. Cancerlady, don't let the dad affect what you do, let your heart. I know I cried (BAWLED) months after the loss and still feel like something is missing. This is something you can never get back. Yet there are days I talk to God and ask him how my innocent child is, that I cut the life from. Just take your time, think about what YOU want, because no child needs to feel unwanted, ever. In a way, every person is like a child when in such tough decisions. Keep in touch. My prayers are with you.
CL -
Well I'm a mom of a 4 year old and I must say I never had morning sickness!! I didn't even know I was prego until I was like 9 weeks and my boobs were so sensitive that if someone just looked at them they hurt! Soda crackers are supposed to help, but someone also told me that some kind of braclet that you use for motion sickness helps too.
When I was young like 18 I did have an abortion. Lets just say my mom pretty much forced me to do it, but I was scared of having a baby at that age. Honestly that was the worst experience I ever had. For many months and even years I regretted it in some way or another. I will admit that it was the best thing for me at that point in my life, but I doubt that Iwould ever do it again.
I'm believe that it is a women's choice but I will tell you it is hard to deal with, emotionally. I'm not gonna say that being a single mom is easy either. Sometimes it is hard as hell - but for me I live 100 miles from any family and I don't have a ton of friends here because I moved for my career. Money isn't a huge issue for me - we have nice stuff and everything, but I agree with PAngel that love is the best thing that you can give your children. Even though they test your nerves and believe me my hardheaded son tests my nerves🙂 Ahhh the joys of motherhood.
You sound like you are becoming more acustomed to the idea of being a mom. I think your initial shock wore off and now it is just reality, right?
Let me just say that I think you will be a great mom. Take your prenatal vitamins, eat healthy. If you wounta blount - go for it! Just don't over do it, once in a while - moderation is the key! We all need it!
Take care 🙂
clvzl!
Well I'm a mom of a 4 year old and I must say I never had morning sickness!! I didn't even know I was prego until I was like 9 weeks and my boobs were so sensitive that if someone just looked at them they hurt! Soda crackers are supposed to help, but someone also told me that some kind of braclet that you use for motion sickness helps too.
When I was young like 18 I did have an abortion. Lets just say my mom pretty much forced me to do it, but I was scared of having a baby at that age. Honestly that was the worst experience I ever had. For many months and even years I regretted it in some way or another. I will admit that it was the best thing for me at that point in my life, but I doubt that Iwould ever do it again.
I'm believe that it is a women's choice but I will tell you it is hard to deal with, emotionally. I'm not gonna say that being a single mom is easy either. Sometimes it is hard as hell - but for me I live 100 miles from any family and I don't have a ton of friends here because I moved for my career. Money isn't a huge issue for me - we have nice stuff and everything, but I agree with PAngel that love is the best thing that you can give your children. Even though they test your nerves and believe me my hardheaded son tests my nerves🙂 Ahhh the joys of motherhood.
You sound like you are becoming more acustomed to the idea of being a mom. I think your initial shock wore off and now it is just reality, right?
Let me just say that I think you will be a great mom. Take your prenatal vitamins, eat healthy. If you wounta blount - go for it! Just don't over do it, once in a while - moderation is the key! We all need it!
Take care 🙂
clvzl!
Miscarriage alot of feelings of loss emotionally,alot of physical pain and hymerging too.That was where the don't let yourself get stressed out early on came from.I was stressed out for personal reasons.Didn't know I was pregnant yet because I didn't notice I was three weeks late due to those reasons,as well as I overworked myself to keep my mind off the other problems.I've also heard the crackers thing works,but not much else I can suggest cause I haven't experianced all of it yet.
A Glass of JUice of white pumpkin+tomatoes+carrot + beetroot+ fresh lime+salt to taste+ ...solves lotsa digestion problems. Is the best for the growth of nervous system and heart of hte child. Also good for morning sickness. Also eat an apple and an orange daily.
Walk a lot.
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Walk a lot.
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CancerLady,
When I was 13, I had an abortion and, though, I knew it was the right thing to do, it was really difficult to go through with it. Mainly because I know that a person has a soul at the point of conception - not at birth. So, really, it was murder! That wasn't easy, at all. Not that it's relevant to you, but, I you said if anyone had an abortion to talk about it.
I was thinking about that very thing last night. Why do you want to know about women who have had abortions? Are you thinking about aborting? OMG, CL - it just destroys you inside and you feel like you're the worse person in the world. I'm not trying to persuade you one way or the other - I'm just saying that as they take the baby, it shatters a piece of you too and you wonder if you'll ever be the same woman again. Of course, you overcome - but, it's hard as hell to face yourself.
Morning sickness only came when I smelled bacon frying and then it didn't matter what time of day. I've talked to other people about that and there are a lot of women who are the same way. It's certain things that made them sick, too. Is there something, like coffee brewing, or some kind of scent that triggers the vomiting?
So many women get stretch marks and some are pretty bad. A lot of women put cocoa butter on thier bellies and boobs - but, I found that if I got vitamin E (make sure they are the jell) and rubbed the goo all over, it worked the best at preventing the scarring. The only thing is - the stuff is really gooey and smells a little, so I did it at night so I could wash it off in the shower in the morning.
But, with all the problems that are associated, like what is mentioned above and the swelling of your feet, the constant need to pee, the indegestion, etc. - the feeling of when he/she moves inside of you makes all the other things not seem so bad. It's like having a little butterfly fluttering around and tickling you with a warm, soothing sensation. It's so amazing!
Shoot - now I want to get pregnant !!!!!!!!!!!!!
When I was 13, I had an abortion and, though, I knew it was the right thing to do, it was really difficult to go through with it. Mainly because I know that a person has a soul at the point of conception - not at birth. So, really, it was murder! That wasn't easy, at all. Not that it's relevant to you, but, I you said if anyone had an abortion to talk about it.
I was thinking about that very thing last night. Why do you want to know about women who have had abortions? Are you thinking about aborting? OMG, CL - it just destroys you inside and you feel like you're the worse person in the world. I'm not trying to persuade you one way or the other - I'm just saying that as they take the baby, it shatters a piece of you too and you wonder if you'll ever be the same woman again. Of course, you overcome - but, it's hard as hell to face yourself.
Morning sickness only came when I smelled bacon frying and then it didn't matter what time of day. I've talked to other people about that and there are a lot of women who are the same way. It's certain things that made them sick, too. Is there something, like coffee brewing, or some kind of scent that triggers the vomiting?
So many women get stretch marks and some are pretty bad. A lot of women put cocoa butter on thier bellies and boobs - but, I found that if I got vitamin E (make sure they are the jell) and rubbed the goo all over, it worked the best at preventing the scarring. The only thing is - the stuff is really gooey and smells a little, so I did it at night so I could wash it off in the shower in the morning.
But, with all the problems that are associated, like what is mentioned above and the swelling of your feet, the constant need to pee, the indegestion, etc. - the feeling of when he/she moves inside of you makes all the other things not seem so bad. It's like having a little butterfly fluttering around and tickling you with a warm, soothing sensation. It's so amazing!
Shoot - now I want to get pregnant !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well I had morning sickness like nobodies business and towards the end of it I discovered that seltzer water or drinking soda help my food to digest. Good luck.
First of All...
Let me send a special thanks to those of you who shared your stories of abortion/miscarriage...I know it must be painful to talk about so I really thank you. I knew as soon as I found out that I would be keeping the baby, although I did have fleeting thoughts of abortion. I asked so I would be able to get the perspective from those of you who may have already experienced it first hand and I thank you for sharing something so personal with me.
Secondly...I have only really been sick when I ate something crazy like a Chili Cheese Dog with ONIONS! from Johnny Rockets! Yeah, that was DELICIOUS but I paid for it. Boy did I pay LOL!
I bought some saltine crackers last night, ate those a bowl of chicken noodle soup, a nectarine (I am about to orgasm thinking how good THAT was) a plum, and a handful of grapes. This morning lets just say the constipation was a thing of the past! (Sorry to gross you out!) Perrier and Orange juice have become my staple drinks.
I seem to be able to smell EVERYTHING now! It's crazy! Scents just linger in my nostrils becomig the bane of my existence, but luckily I haven't gotten sick off smells yet. 🙂
Keep the suggestions and any other baby stories coming. As you all should know by now, I love studying human nature!
Cancerlady
Let me send a special thanks to those of you who shared your stories of abortion/miscarriage...I know it must be painful to talk about so I really thank you. I knew as soon as I found out that I would be keeping the baby, although I did have fleeting thoughts of abortion. I asked so I would be able to get the perspective from those of you who may have already experienced it first hand and I thank you for sharing something so personal with me.
Secondly...I have only really been sick when I ate something crazy like a Chili Cheese Dog with ONIONS! from Johnny Rockets! Yeah, that was DELICIOUS but I paid for it. Boy did I pay LOL!
I bought some saltine crackers last night, ate those a bowl of chicken noodle soup, a nectarine (I am about to orgasm thinking how good THAT was) a plum, and a handful of grapes. This morning lets just say the constipation was a thing of the past! (Sorry to gross you out!) Perrier and Orange juice have become my staple drinks.
I seem to be able to smell EVERYTHING now! It's crazy! Scents just linger in my nostrils becomig the bane of my existence, but luckily I haven't gotten sick off smells yet. 🙂
Keep the suggestions and any other baby stories coming. As you all should know by now, I love studying human nature!
Cancerlady
Oh yeah...Something from me to all you ladies!
Woman to Woman Encouragement
Someone will always be smarter.
Their house will be bigger.
They will drive a better car.
Their children will do better in school.
And their partners will fix more things around the house.
So let it go and love you and your circumstances.
Think about it.
The prettiest woman in the world can have hell in her heart.
And the most highly favored woman on your job may be unable to have children.
The richest woman you know - she's got the car, the house, the clothes - might be heartbreakingly lonely.
So, love you. Love who you are right now.
Tell yourself, "I am too blessed to be stressed."
Be blessed ladies and pass this on to encourage another woman.
"To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world."
Send this to wonderful strong women you know. I did. Possibilities and miracles are one and the same.
Woman to Woman Encouragement
Someone will always be smarter.
Their house will be bigger.
They will drive a better car.
Their children will do better in school.
And their partners will fix more things around the house.
So let it go and love you and your circumstances.
Think about it.
The prettiest woman in the world can have hell in her heart.
And the most highly favored woman on your job may be unable to have children.
The richest woman you know - she's got the car, the house, the clothes - might be heartbreakingly lonely.
So, love you. Love who you are right now.
Tell yourself, "I am too blessed to be stressed."
Be blessed ladies and pass this on to encourage another woman.
"To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world."
Send this to wonderful strong women you know. I did. Possibilities and miracles are one and the same.
My daughter-in-law said her sense of smell heightened tremendously - to the point that she could sniff something out that was in another room. Amazing!
You already know, but, I'll tell you anyway - We all love you! You're a really sweet person, you know!
It's your choice, but, I'm glad your going to keep the little one - you don't even want to know how horrible of a person you will think you are afterwards. I know what you look like, what does P-Man look like? When we were sharing pics that one day, was one of the men him? I saw the Libra man.
I don't P-Man, but I know Pisces and how elusive they are - but, they are also very family oriented and love thier children. Once this sinks in and he comes to terms that he's going to be a papa - he might surprise you and step up to the plate.
You already know, but, I'll tell you anyway - We all love you! You're a really sweet person, you know!
It's your choice, but, I'm glad your going to keep the little one - you don't even want to know how horrible of a person you will think you are afterwards. I know what you look like, what does P-Man look like? When we were sharing pics that one day, was one of the men him? I saw the Libra man.
I don't P-Man, but I know Pisces and how elusive they are - but, they are also very family oriented and love thier children. Once this sinks in and he comes to terms that he's going to be a papa - he might surprise you and step up to the plate.
thank you C/L -C/M
your Encouragement, made me cry!! I think all the baby talk and whats going on in my life right now has me a bit emotional.
O.k. so lets talk pregnancy....The wrist bands (motion sickness) wrok but you have to keep them on all the time and they can start to hurt. I would eat ritz crackers because I do not like the dry saltines.
as for stretch marks I did not get not one EVER and I have two children and Both were 8 lbs. My normal weight is 105 (i have a small frame) I gained 30 lbs with each child so I got BIGGER!! lol anyhoo the Dr. will tell you that strech marks have to do with genes. But i dissagree cause if anyone should have gotten stretch marks it should have been me!! lol So here is what I live by and have told all my friends to do it and none of them got stretch marks either...Start drinking water NOW!!!and never stop util you have the baby! The water makes your skin like elastic also alway "LUBE" up with lotion vitamin e what ever just do it i used a brand my mother used 28 years ago "mothers cream" I had to special order it through longs. I went through jars and jars of it but I swear by it!! The smell is not the greatest but who the hell cares if your not going to have any stretch marks right? lol last but not least do not eat Spicy foods as you already know "chilli dog" you will get bad indigestion!! and thats a mother!!
I am also a strong believer in the heartburn myth~ IF you have a lot of heartburn then your baby will have a lot of hair! I had the worst heartburn and both my boy and girl came out with a full head of hair! In fact my dr. gail mallard warren said "dang girl you can put her hair in braids already" lol I will never forget that!!
anyhoo C-mamma Im happy for you!! how are things with MR. P
your Encouragement, made me cry!! I think all the baby talk and whats going on in my life right now has me a bit emotional.
O.k. so lets talk pregnancy....The wrist bands (motion sickness) wrok but you have to keep them on all the time and they can start to hurt. I would eat ritz crackers because I do not like the dry saltines.
as for stretch marks I did not get not one EVER and I have two children and Both were 8 lbs. My normal weight is 105 (i have a small frame) I gained 30 lbs with each child so I got BIGGER!! lol anyhoo the Dr. will tell you that strech marks have to do with genes. But i dissagree cause if anyone should have gotten stretch marks it should have been me!! lol So here is what I live by and have told all my friends to do it and none of them got stretch marks either...Start drinking water NOW!!!and never stop util you have the baby! The water makes your skin like elastic also alway "LUBE" up with lotion vitamin e what ever just do it i used a brand my mother used 28 years ago "mothers cream" I had to special order it through longs. I went through jars and jars of it but I swear by it!! The smell is not the greatest but who the hell cares if your not going to have any stretch marks right? lol last but not least do not eat Spicy foods as you already know "chilli dog" you will get bad indigestion!! and thats a mother!!
I am also a strong believer in the heartburn myth~ IF you have a lot of heartburn then your baby will have a lot of hair! I had the worst heartburn and both my boy and girl came out with a full head of hair! In fact my dr. gail mallard warren said "dang girl you can put her hair in braids already" lol I will never forget that!!
anyhoo C-mamma Im happy for you!! how are things with MR. P
p.s. I never left the house with out my "cherry rolaids" lololololol
P-Angel
I sure hope so! It's funny that you say that because he has been so back and forth on this baby issue. Send me your e-mail address and I will give you the lowdown on what he has been saying, perhaps you can give me a better perspective on where his head is. You are such a sweetie...I'm glad that I'll be having a P-baby.
CL
I sure hope so! It's funny that you say that because he has been so back and forth on this baby issue. Send me your e-mail address and I will give you the lowdown on what he has been saying, perhaps you can give me a better perspective on where his head is. You are such a sweetie...I'm glad that I'll be having a P-baby.
CL
CM~ & P-Angel~
That is sooooo true what you said about the pisces man! My soon to be ex is a Pisces and when we found out that I was pregnant at 21 and we had only known eachother for 3 months he was not sure about it either! He said well abortion is an option!! "WHAT" I siad your right just not for me!! He siad he would support whatever decision I made... I siad ya you will or ill do it on my own!! I have to say ladies aside from "our" problems he is the most amazing man I have ever met! And the best father one could ever ask for! He loves his children (we only have 2) more than anything on this earth! soooo there is hope cancermamma!!
That is sooooo true what you said about the pisces man! My soon to be ex is a Pisces and when we found out that I was pregnant at 21 and we had only known eachother for 3 months he was not sure about it either! He said well abortion is an option!! "WHAT" I siad your right just not for me!! He siad he would support whatever decision I made... I siad ya you will or ill do it on my own!! I have to say ladies aside from "our" problems he is the most amazing man I have ever met! And the best father one could ever ask for! He loves his children (we only have 2) more than anything on this earth! soooo there is hope cancermamma!!
Hey GEG...Great tips! I bought saltine last night, but now that I know ritz are all good I'm going to get those instead.
Mr. P was working my last nerve, but I am not going to let him stress me out. I think like P-Angel says he is a bit overwhelmed with having another child. His oldest daughter is 15, second one is 7 so he hasn't had a baby in a while. He also thinks that I am going to turn out like his other baby mama's but I keep telling him he can't compare me to them or make me pay for their mistakes.
We had a long talk at lunch a few days ago and I realized this man has some SERIOUS woman issues. I am willing to help him through those but in order for me to do that he has to let go and stop holding on so dearly to something which causes him nothing but pain. I can only help someone who is willing to help themselves first.
CL/CM
Mr. P was working my last nerve, but I am not going to let him stress me out. I think like P-Angel says he is a bit overwhelmed with having another child. His oldest daughter is 15, second one is 7 so he hasn't had a baby in a while. He also thinks that I am going to turn out like his other baby mama's but I keep telling him he can't compare me to them or make me pay for their mistakes.
We had a long talk at lunch a few days ago and I realized this man has some SERIOUS woman issues. I am willing to help him through those but in order for me to do that he has to let go and stop holding on so dearly to something which causes him nothing but pain. I can only help someone who is willing to help themselves first.
CL/CM
You know, Pisces are terrified people. We may not show it and it may come across as though we seem strong and have a handle on things, or, we may just swim away (our notorious elusiveness). But, deep inside, it's just because everything frightens us. We fear that we'll make the wrong decision. I'm not making excuses for your baby's daddy - I'm just thinking that maybe this will help you to understand him. He's probably scard sh!tless, but, afraid to let you see this because you might think less of him. I know that's silly, really. I mean, it's the people around us in our lives who have the opportunity to help us to overcome, but, that's just us. You might have to prod and poke at him to get him to talk about it and if you say anything about him being scard - his guard will go up and he'll get defensive. You'll have to figure out another approach.
It's hard enough understand ourselves, you know what I mean? Much less, having to understand another human being!
It's hard enough understand ourselves, you know what I mean? Much less, having to understand another human being!
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