Home wrecking, soul mates and wwyd

So found out my older Cancer lady crush does have a "partner" but she is really private about it with people outside her close social circle. I for a long time thought they were just best friends because that is what they seemed but she has an Aquarius moon so I have heard they can come off that way with relationships. The partner is a Virgo... darn Virgo always taking my Cancer people from me! No not really I have a lot of good Virgo friends just jealous. It prompted a discussion at work with my Cancer male manager. I know Cancers if in a good relationship it takes a lot for them to let go, especially if all the astrology info on them I looked up is true this relationship of theirs is not going away anytime soon... it could be for the long haul. But I believe this is a recent relationship like just started in the past two to three years.

So philosophical discussion scenario:
Say you are in a relationship with person one. You have a lot in common, get along really well by all means is a good relationship. Person two comes along who you get to know through organizations you work with and in together, by hanging at social gatherings, hang out at each others homes in the same social groups and get to know them really well as a friend for a few years. The attraction mentally, spiritually and physically is so strong with person two, you have tons in common, similar beliefs and goals for life that it makes you question things and wonder. Do you stay with the first relationship and see it through knowing that the 2nd attraction is so strong and after a few years is obviously not going away? Or do you slowly break things off to give it a go with person two.

My male Cancer manager told me to home wreck but I said I couldn't do that! I would feel awful I have been cheated on and it felt horrible. Plus if they cheat on person one or break things off quickly who is to say they wouldn't do that to me? I said if it's going to happen I want it to happen because the attraction, friendship is so strong you can't deny it. He, the phone bank lady and I discussed the best route to take would be make it obvious I like the Cancer lady or just flat out tell her, but let her know I will be respectful and let her live the relationship out but if anything breaks off I will be here, I would like to try. To me if I find somebody who fits this well with my life and they are not available it's like ughh!! Whyyy. They both said life is too short to stay things out just for sake

They both said life is too short to stay things out just for sake of not hurting the other person, you have to be happy. So I guess I have to suck it up that I am 0 for 2 this year in the love department and be a supportive friend who will work on building a healthy friendship, wait to see where life takes it.

But what is your sun sign and "love" sign and wwyd?

Posted by MidwestGirl
My male Cancer manager told me to home wreck but I said I couldn't do that! I would feel awful I have been cheated on and it felt horrible. Plus if they cheat on person one or break things off quickly who is to say they wouldn't do that to me? I said if it's going to happen I want it to happen because the attraction, friendship is so strong you can't deny it. He, the phone bank lady and I discussed the best route to take would be make it obvious I like the Cancer lady or just flat out tell her, but let her know I will be respectful and let her live the relationship out but if anything breaks off I will be here, I would like to try. To me if I find somebody who fits this well with my life and they are not available it's like ughh!! Whyyy. They both said life is too short to stay things out just for sake

Yeah, life is too short, but-- no one has to cheat.

I like what you, your manager, and the phone bank lady (for God's sake.. lolololol) came up with.

She has the option to take you up on it or decline; no dishonesty necessary, here.

🙂

Ohhh

Sorry-- didn't realize this was the Cancer forum. o.O

No it's fine if other signs post... I just put it on here because it involved a Cancer female and I had been discussing it with my Cancer friends at work haha. I figured I would keep the theme.

Oh no I wouldn't try and get one of them to cheat...my Cancer male supervisor suggested it which was shocking to me. I know all my cancer friends minus my supervisor don't let go for anything unless it is something bad and even then they still find it hard to let go. I was kind of looking from Cancer point of view....has that happened to any of you and if so what did you think? Even with such a strong attraction would you see the first relationship through? I think the plan that works more in my favor is the letting her know I am interested and be good friends. Waiting sucks buuut patience is key for the important things in life. I'll go have fun and if it happens awesome if not I have a good friend and in to politics.