How do I know whether this cancerian guy is seriou
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by sweetcheese on Tuesday, May 2, 2006 and has 16 replies.
I do need you cancerian guys' input. He is so confusing and mysterious to me.
I met him at my friend's party 4 weeks ago. He is an old friend of my friend, He began showing his liking for me by holding my hands in the party. and later we met every weekend for some group activities like drinks, hiking and movie. He really likes touching me, like holding my hands while driving, and whenever got a chance. finally, he kissed me the 3rd times we met. so later on, he did kiss me a lot and held my hands naturally like bf & gf. but he only said once that he liked me, and never calls me or asked me out. he's been busy i know. but i don't know what's his thinking. he is very sweet and tender when being with me alone.
so what confused a lot is that when we were together, he treated me just like his gf, holding hands all the time, kissed me as often as possible. but what i don't feel comfortable is that he suggested going to his apt the other day(i knew what does that mean cuz it's very late), but i told him it's too quick for me. so guys, from what i said here, any thoughts or opinion to help me out? is it what you cancerian guys do when date a gal? do you guys like expressing your feeling by fooling around rather than words?
I met him at my friend's party 4 weeks ago. He is an old friend of my friend, He began showing his liking for me by holding my hands in the party. and later we met every weekend for some group activities like drinks, hiking and movie. He really likes touching me, like holding my hands while driving, and whenever got a chance. finally, he kissed me the 3rd times we met. so later on, he did kiss me a lot and held my hands naturally like bf & gf. but he only said once that he liked me, and never calls me or asked me out. he's been busy i know. but i don't know what's his thinking. he is very sweet and tender when being with me alone.
so what confused a lot is that when we were together, he treated me just like his gf, holding hands all the time, kissed me as often as possible. but what i don't feel comfortable is that he suggested going to his apt the other day(i knew what does that mean cuz it's very late), but i told him it's too quick for me. so guys, from what i said here, any thoughts or opinion to help me out? is it what you cancerian guys do when date a gal? do you guys like expressing your feeling by fooling around rather than words?
Sweetcheese, what sign are you?
If he asked you to his apartment, it doesn't necessarily mean sex. There is such a thing as just hanging out. Cancers are just naturally more comfortable being at home.
So maybe your friend thought it would be better to get to know you in a more intimate setting.
If he asked you to his apartment, it doesn't necessarily mean sex. There is such a thing as just hanging out. Cancers are just naturally more comfortable being at home.
So maybe your friend thought it would be better to get to know you in a more intimate setting.
Honestly it doesn't matter what any man does or says... only TIME TELLS. Consistency speaks for itself. Take everything with a grain of salt, not seriously, don't overthink it and definitely 'don't go to his apartment' ya knowwwwwww.
That's my best advice. I say it because women tend to take men too seriously... in general. Keep in mind that men want to get laid. If you appeal to them they'll take you seriously and if you don't they'll either up n leave after the deed or disappear if they don't get it easy.
Even women, what woman hasn't played with their words to have someone stick around? Played being interested for who knows what reason...? Ok not everyone but it's human behavior... that needs to be interpreted... only with time.
Anyway... whew there I go hee hee
Guess I should say that I've known a few crabs and am currently with one
My crabby likes touching as well. He'll rub my neck or hand while driving also. Grab my hand and kiss it and then my arm then my mouth... yes while driving on the freeway at high speeds! Guess he keeps his eyes open or something lol My crab isn't all that open with words but will from time to time tell me how he feels about me, which is reassuring. I think he expresses his affection by wanting to be with me, wanting to please me, rubbing me affectionately or the lil' pecks on the cheek from time to time when I'm distracted. Just stuff like that. If I tell him that I wanna go somewhere he'll take me and I lovvvve taking pics so he'll stop the car when he sees that I'm trying to focus in on something and asks if I want a better view... ya lil' things like that. As well as a little jealousy
Once in a while he'll lecture me as to how men think and gives me the 101 on why my guy friends shouldn't be close friends lol
Anywho, yup, that's how it goes.
Wish you luck
That's my best advice. I say it because women tend to take men too seriously... in general. Keep in mind that men want to get laid. If you appeal to them they'll take you seriously and if you don't they'll either up n leave after the deed or disappear if they don't get it easy.
Even women, what woman hasn't played with their words to have someone stick around? Played being interested for who knows what reason...? Ok not everyone but it's human behavior... that needs to be interpreted... only with time.
Anyway... whew there I go hee hee
Guess I should say that I've known a few crabs and am currently with one
My crabby likes touching as well. He'll rub my neck or hand while driving also. Grab my hand and kiss it and then my arm then my mouth... yes while driving on the freeway at high speeds! Guess he keeps his eyes open or something lol My crab isn't all that open with words but will from time to time tell me how he feels about me, which is reassuring. I think he expresses his affection by wanting to be with me, wanting to please me, rubbing me affectionately or the lil' pecks on the cheek from time to time when I'm distracted. Just stuff like that. If I tell him that I wanna go somewhere he'll take me and I lovvvve taking pics so he'll stop the car when he sees that I'm trying to focus in on something and asks if I want a better view... ya lil' things like that. As well as a little jealousy
Once in a while he'll lecture me as to how men think and gives me the 101 on why my guy friends shouldn't be close friends lolAnywho, yup, that's how it goes.
Wish you luck
SRG:
unfortunately i'm a gemini who is damn curious about anything i haven't got, but will soon lose my interest when get it.alas... and i'm a get-it-done type.
i'm pretty sure that meant sex cuz it was already 1am after a party and a long talk in a park.
he is also not responsible to emails/calls. his friends said he never responses to emails. but once i sent a group email of some pics we took, he wrote back to me saying let's go to XXX (cuz once i told him i wanted to go there). but when i wrote back him asking when was good for him, he never responses again. later when i brought this up, he said sorry and was too busy(that's true). he also told me he only cares about those things he's interested such as his band, music, books, etc, don't give email/call a shit.
unfortunately i'm a gemini who is damn curious about anything i haven't got, but will soon lose my interest when get it.alas... and i'm a get-it-done type.
i'm pretty sure that meant sex cuz it was already 1am after a party and a long talk in a park.
he is also not responsible to emails/calls. his friends said he never responses to emails. but once i sent a group email of some pics we took, he wrote back to me saying let's go to XXX (cuz once i told him i wanted to go there). but when i wrote back him asking when was good for him, he never responses again. later when i brought this up, he said sorry and was too busy(that's true). he also told me he only cares about those things he's interested such as his band, music, books, etc, don't give email/call a shit.
sorry not butter, he doesn't give emails/calls a shit.
Tauruschic:
i totally hear you. I'm too serious about everything. and i told him that. i don't think he likes that.
yea, never takes men too serious.
should i wait to see what's his attitude or should i make a little move? he'll be extremely busy in the following three weeks, and i'm just worried that he'll never get back to me. : (
i totally hear you. I'm too serious about everything. and i told him that. i don't think he likes that.
yea, never takes men too serious.
should i wait to see what's his attitude or should i make a little move? he'll be extremely busy in the following three weeks, and i'm just worried that he'll never get back to me. : (
maybe you should play hard to get...or mention about some other guys been hitting on you lol that'll get his attention. Dont appears to be too easy and that goes to both men and women. Men are like elastic band. If you pull too hard they might snap and that's a no-no. Cut him some slack if he said he's busy he's really busy. With my cutie cancer it took me nearly a year for him to finally letting his guard down and open himself up to me. Be patient is the key. You have to prove to him that he's the only one that you only desire and if he feels secure then girl you've got him Good luck!!!
Good luck!!!semperfibabe:
thanks! you know what, actually what you suggested did happen last weekend after our party. a guy hit on me when i was about to leave with this cancerian in the party, and later he kept calling me and came over from a distant place to see me. really annoying. i told my cancer about this via email, he responsed sort of indiferently, such as "that guy came over from XXX to XXX?" and "he's crazy"..stuff like that. does it mean he doesn't care about it?
thanks! you know what, actually what you suggested did happen last weekend after our party. a guy hit on me when i was about to leave with this cancerian in the party, and later he kept calling me and came over from a distant place to see me. really annoying. i told my cancer about this via email, he responsed sort of indiferently, such as "that guy came over from XXX to XXX?" and "he's crazy"..stuff like that. does it mean he doesn't care about it?
Have you gone over ALL of the old postings? If you have, then you would have some insights about the personality and the reasons behind their actions. I never was into astrology and know really nothing about cancer guys until I came to this site and now everything pretty much just makes sense to me now lol why he's being distant, why is not writing back, why this and that. But on top of all that emotional stuffs, I always keep myself thinking positive about my bf(about the good traits a cancer possess).
Cancers are very slow in commiting themselves, at least not at the very beginning. If they are not sure, then they are gonna just sit there and testing the water. Where as if you have proven himslef that you're the one, then girl, he'll nose dive to you and treat you good. As for your question, it's really hard to tell whether he is jealous or not, but at least he's showing some "concerns" lol so dont worry, just take it slow. Dont rush the crabbies. But I know they are so irristible. There were times I wish I can just crack open his shells and have it look at him inside out haha
Cancers are very slow in commiting themselves, at least not at the very beginning. If they are not sure, then they are gonna just sit there and testing the water. Where as if you have proven himslef that you're the one, then girl, he'll nose dive to you and treat you good. As for your question, it's really hard to tell whether he is jealous or not, but at least he's showing some "concerns" lol so dont worry, just take it slow. Dont rush the crabbies. But I know they are so irristible. There were times I wish I can just crack open his shells and have it look at him inside out haha
thanks so much for everyone's inputs! as a gemini, damn hard for me to be patient,lol. actually what i'm not comfortable with is his eagerness to get laid.lol
yeah well then you should date a older cancer since they are more mature
semperfibabe
you rock! ....he is 3 yrs younger than me. : (
you rock! ....he is 3 yrs younger than me. : (
hehe tks I'm good am I? haha I should be a fortune teller...just kidding.
By the way, if a guy is pressuring you into doing anything that you don't feel comfortable with, then you should just turn and run the opposite way. Not saying that your cancer boy wants to have it with you or not, but just in general. You should just act cool and speak your mind freely to him. I'm a taurus and I speak whatever is in my mind with my bf and he would always listen patiently and understand me so completely. Try share your feelings with him but just don't pressure him in making any decisions, since they like to do everything in their own pace lol If he really likes you, he'll stick around. But again, he's much younger then you but who knows, love conquers all. It just depends on your willingness to scrifice for the man you love, that's all. Good luck
thanks semperfibabe! he didn't pressure me, neither did insist when i rejected.
tell me something what your cancer bf likes you to tell him or do. how much do we need to express ourselves to them? what kind of words/feelings they like to hear from us? did u make any move to let him know your affection for him?
tell me something what your cancer bf likes you to tell him or do. how much do we need to express ourselves to them? what kind of words/feelings they like to hear from us? did u make any move to let him know your affection for him?
thanks semperfibabe! he didn't pressure me, neither did insist when i rejected.
tell me something what your cancer bf likes you to tell him or do. how much do we need to express ourselves to them? what kind of words/feelings they like to hear from us? did u make any move to let him know your affection for him?
It's good that he respect your voice. Well well there is just too many to mention about how I got my cancer cutie hooked on me lol and how we interact with each other. Basically, being patient, be sincere with your feelings to him, no cheating, show you care by action and words, be considerate with their sensitive moods. Keep in mind they might apprear manly but they are a softy within so they definitly need us to pamper them, thought they dont say it.
Everything that I say and do just come out naturally so I really can't tell you how you should act or say, know what I mean. You just have to be true to your feelings, that's all and your intitution will guide you through from there. Personally, I'm not afraid to tell him how much I miss him and like him all the good stuffs. You just have to make sure you keep a good communication with them. One thing thought, never ever confront them harshly they will withdraw. I'm glad that my bf is so caring and sweet he always understand and forgive me if I ever acted crazy haha I really didnt do anything to him to make him likes me. I was just being myself. I guess it's hard to say cause everybody is different and there is gotta be that special one that you'll find connected to and like "Wow, this is the man/woman I wanted to be with for the rest of my life"
But if you really want to know, well my cutie is in the marine and he was deployed to Iraq for half year and during those tough times I was there with him the whole time.I kept my emails, IMs and lots of care packages going until he finally came home. Yep, we been throught those tough times together and shared so much in depth so everything will come appear easy for us know, despite our distance for now.
tell me something what your cancer bf likes you to tell him or do. how much do we need to express ourselves to them? what kind of words/feelings they like to hear from us? did u make any move to let him know your affection for him?
It's good that he respect your voice. Well well there is just too many to mention about how I got my cancer cutie hooked on me lol and how we interact with each other. Basically, being patient, be sincere with your feelings to him, no cheating, show you care by action and words, be considerate with their sensitive moods. Keep in mind they might apprear manly but they are a softy within so they definitly need us to pamper them, thought they dont say it.
Everything that I say and do just come out naturally so I really can't tell you how you should act or say, know what I mean. You just have to be true to your feelings, that's all and your intitution will guide you through from there. Personally, I'm not afraid to tell him how much I miss him and like him all the good stuffs. You just have to make sure you keep a good communication with them. One thing thought, never ever confront them harshly they will withdraw. I'm glad that my bf is so caring and sweet he always understand and forgive me if I ever acted crazy haha I really didnt do anything to him to make him likes me. I was just being myself. I guess it's hard to say cause everybody is different and there is gotta be that special one that you'll find connected to and like "Wow, this is the man/woman I wanted to be with for the rest of my life"
But if you really want to know, well my cutie is in the marine and he was deployed to Iraq for half year and during those tough times I was there with him the whole time.I kept my emails, IMs and lots of care packages going until he finally came home. Yep, we been throught those tough times together and shared so much in depth so everything will come appear easy for us know, despite our distance for now.
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