How long does it take to let go?

I can't seem to let go of the Virguy. I've been trying for almost 4 months. Ok, the first two months I didn't try hard enough, and I got more and more obsessed with him. The last two months I am trying my best, and I thought I was doing ok until last night when we chatted at a party. I'm devastated once again. Funny thing is we did not have a real relationship to begin with. I think I am obsessed with him and I hurt like crazy...

I hate to be a crab sometimes. Why am I so clingy by nature? And why do I hurt this much?

Just venting...

my cousin, a cancer, married a man who constantly cheated on her and she stayed with him for about 4 years this marriage should have dissolved after the first year (they also have a child together but it continued for 3 more years. this afternoon she called my sister to tell her she left finally left him.

for me I have seen so many of my female relatives getting cheated on and my male relatives cheating on their partners that I am turned off on the idea of a long term relationship. while most cancers will say they fear is the inability to get out of a bad relatioship, my fear is to get out of one too quickly because that person may learn their lesson and be good to me but I know that the first evidence of any wrong doing on my partner's part will have me jump ship real quickly.

Falling,
It is very common for us to cling to those we want to let go, I had a similar experience with a Virgo but I Told him exactly how I felt about him and our situation and gave a a day to make a change when he didn't I took a leave of absence from his presence because when you realize that its not worth it and not going to work letting gets so much easier. But you'll have to really WANT TO get over him.

Good Luck

im also asking that qusetion. why is it hard for us to let go? why do we still give chances for the people who have hurted/upset us? I also feel that im being clingy to an aqua guy..very hard for me.

I also know that with Venus in Cancer it makes it hard to let go also...