How long will a Cancer woman ignore you?

This topic was created in the Cancer Women forum by Rezzaldo on Monday, May 27, 2019 and has 23 replies.
One year ago, she made the first move, but she was quite insecure and I think doubts and misunderstanding weighed a lot in the deterioration of our long-distance relationship. More than half a year ago, she blocked my instagram and whatsapp and in return, I blocked her facebook. She has then deleted her ig and created a new one 3 months ago with the bio intended for me (don't ask how, just believe).I did not follow her and soon she deleted it again. Not long afterwards, I unblocked her facebook because I wanted to chat directly with her. However, she neither accepted nor rejected. I can conclude from her public posts that she still loves me. I knew that because previously she often sends out cryptic messages that I knew were directed to me. One was verified under my 'investigation' so you can be assured that I wasn't putting too much thought into the seemingly maniacal guess.

So my questions are: how long will she ignore me and how to get into her inner circle again? I'm always longing to talk to her directly instead of reading all these unidirectional cryptic messages.

Also please rate our compatibility:

Me

Libra Sun/Capricorn Rising/Cancer Moon/Scorpio Mercury/Virgo Mars/Libra Venus/Taurus Saturn/Pisces Jupiter

Her

Cancer Sun/unknown Rising/Aquarius Moon/Cancer Mercury/Taurus Mars/Leo Venus/Pisces Saturn/Scorpio Jupiter
It's hard to say because we are unpredictable when it comes to this..

If she's actively trying to get over you then she might stay away until you make the first move.. or until she's high on life and is feeling reckless. It all depends on how she feels about you and what role you play in her life.

My advice to you.. is to reach out and leave the bullsh!!t at home.
I say message her. Just a "hello, how r you".

Who ended the LDR?

With that aqua moon, you'll never know smh

Do cancer women generally like men of larger age because they have stable income and work? Is that all they concern about?
Yeah that's some childish power play. But hey, I was angered too. Speaking aside, do you have some suggestions to melt her heart again? Don't wanna lose her.
@rezzaldo im a cancer sun aqua moon was dealing with a libra as well . Honestly it depends on how it ended but i would say go for it and try to reach out . Who ended the relationship ?
Cancer sun aqua moon is forever.... until you make contact. They don't have it in them to make the first move in the type of situation...

Jus remember if you do go for it all your going to get is bill Murray groundhog day.
@Aquamoon21908 @o110 @Weeds

I'm the libra and honestly I'm stuck. She hinted on some post with exact wording that I mean a lot to her so it couldn't be so bad that she doesn't want me back? Yet i had no direct contact paths except facebook now. I tried to re-add her and she just leaves my request hanging. I plan to message her on her coming birthday through fb messenger and hope it doesn't go to the spam. I was proactive and still she thinks I'm inconsistent. So how can i be more consistent?
You'll never know her.

"Moon Aquarius people are eccentric loners, but this might not be obvious until you know them better. Having the soul (Moon) of Aquarius means being receptive to fast, "out there" frequencies. .. ."

....but in my experience, not receptive to people



@Aquamoon21908

None of us actually, we really wanted to get back together but I thought she was to dependent me before we terminated contacts so I cooled off my attitude a bit and she thought we broke up. A lot of the reasons we could maintain our long distance relationship was that we had a common goal of entrepreneurship. However, misunderstandings ensued and we didn't cooperate in the end. She thought she was unneeded and got hurt by it, but in fact I couldn't come up with an idea to include her. I'm a shy libra dealing with a shy cancer. Tell me how not to lose her?
Posted by Rezzaldo

@Aquamoon21908 @o110 @Weeds

I'm the libra and honestly I'm stuck. She hinted on some post with exact wording that I mean a lot to her so it couldn't be so bad that she doesn't want me back? Yet i had no direct contact paths except facebook now. I tried to re-add her and she just leaves my request hanging. I plan to message her on her coming birthday through fb messenger and hope it doesn't go to the spam. I was proactive and still she thinks I'm inconsistent. So how can i be more consistent?
You have to go the friend route... unfortunately it's like starting all over.

In the friend route she will test how geniune you are and reason your purpose in her life (if she thinks you have one).

If you start the message off brand new.

(Hi my name)

Don't bring up the paste keep it as clean as you can unless she brings it up.. and she will.

@Vicktoria i did. She doesn't respond directly but leaves indirect hints though. I think there's still a 50/50 chance since she doesn't reject my fb request. That's the only direct way i could contact her now.
Posted by Rezzaldo

@Vicktoria i did. She doesn't respond directly but leaves indirect hints though. I think there's still a 50/50 chance since she doesn't reject my fb request. That's the only direct way i could contact her now.
You don’t answer to several people about who initiated breakup and how old are you and if you are so attentive in rships she might be right to be silent!

Also all this assumptions you think about might be just your vivid imagination.
Her

Cancer Sun/unknown Rising/Aquarius Moon/Cancer Mercury/Taurus Mars/Leo Venus

I think I can help you decipher how she feels...

Me

Cancer Sun/Aquarius Rising/Aquarius Moon/Cancer Mercury/Aries Mars/Leo Venus

As a Libra, you probably had a perfectly logical reason for not including her in the project you were working together on and probably tried explaining that to her to no avail. She doesn't understand logic.

She's hurt and somewhere in the back of her mind she feels used and discarded and questioning that perhaps you hurt her on purpose. She blocked you as a reaction to feeling hurt. Her feelings are on a rollercoaster right now and she doesn't know how to process them. She's not going to "come to her senses" and come back to you on her own either.

You'll have to pull out all the romantic, mushy stops you can think of to get her back. If you haven't apologized yet for hurting her, do so now. Tell her you miss her. Send her flowers. Dedicate a romantic song to her.

Just make her feel like she matters to you and that you're hurt too without her (even if you're not hurt per se cuz Leebs don't have feelings -.- but just sad)

I would come back if a man I loved unintentionally hurt me but then showed me that he does care and misses me. I think she'll come back too.

Good luck smile
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Posted by MissScruffs

Her

Cancer Sun/unknown Rising/Aquarius Moon/Cancer Mercury/Taurus Mars/Leo Venus

I think I can help you decipher how she feels...

Me

Cancer Sun/Aquarius Rising/Aquarius Moon/Cancer Mercury/Aries Mars/Leo Venus

As a Libra, you probably had a perfectly logical reason for not including her in the project you were working together on and probably tried explaining that to her to no avail. She doesn't understand logic.

She's hurt and somewhere in the back of her mind she feels used and discarded and questioning that perhaps you hurt her on purpose. She blocked you as a reaction to feeling hurt. Her feelings are on a rollercoaster right now and she doesn't know how to process them. She's not going to "come to her senses" and come back to you on her own either.

You'll have to pull out all the romantic, mushy stops you can think of to get her back. If you haven't apologized yet for hurting her, do so now. Tell her you miss her. Send her flowers. Dedicate a romantic song to her.

Just make her feel like she matters to you and that you're hurt too without her (even if you're not hurt per se cuz Leebs don't have feelings -.- but just sad)

I would come back if a man I loved unintentionally hurt me but then showed me that he does care and misses me. I think she'll come back too.

Good luck smile
She's got an aqua moon

What you described sounds so watery
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Scary how her placements are identical to mine except Mars.

Hopefully he'll take my advice as it would 100% work on me. I'd eat up the romance and completely forget why I was mad in the first place. lol Should be easy for him if he channels his Libra charm.

Curious to see if there really is something to this astrology stuffs after all when he updates us.
Posted by Rezzaldo

One year ago, she made the first move, but she was quite insecure and I think doubts and misunderstanding weighed a lot in the deterioration of our long-distance relationship. More than half a year ago, she blocked my instagram and whatsapp and in return, I blocked her facebook. She has then deleted her ig and created a new one 3 months ago with the bio intended for me (don't ask how, just believe).I did not follow her and soon she deleted it again. Not long afterwards, I unblocked her facebook because I wanted to chat directly with her. However, she neither accepted nor rejected. I can conclude from her public posts that she still loves me. I knew that because previously she often sends out cryptic messages that I knew were directed to me. One was verified under my 'investigation' so you can be assured that I wasn't putting too much thought into the seemingly maniacal guess.

So my questions are: how long will she ignore me and how to get into her inner circle again? I'm always longing to talk to her directly instead of reading all these unidirectional cryptic messages.

Also please rate our compatibility:

Me

Libra Sun/Capricorn Rising/Cancer Moon/Scorpio Mercury/Virgo Mars/Libra Venus/Taurus Saturn/Pisces Jupiter

Her

Cancer Sun/unknown Rising/Aquarius Moon/Cancer Mercury/Taurus Mars/Leo Venus/Pisces Saturn/Scorpio Jupiter
how long your relationship lasted? have you ever met in person? how many times?
@Marai @MissScruffs

Thank God two cancers in aqua moons appeared! No she blocked my whatsapp, has no ig but only facebook messenger. I have tried to call her through fb messenger but no response. I did make an apology through my ig story though because a lot of people knew our incident (it wide-spreaded to the people we know) and she responded through a third-party that my apology was not sincere enough. So i decided to apologise again on her birthday coming this june and invite her to join my project to feel included. Yes, I think actions > words is normal for everyone but not just aqua moons, so I am really starting a project. Hope she reads my message though.

If you blocked someone on other platforms and don't accept his friend request on facebook, will you still read the messenger's messages though? She has once told me that she blocked me because I was toxic to her yet she still loves me? I'm confused.
Thank you @peaceandtranquility_96 , this means a lot. I really love her very much or else this long distance relationship could not have happened/worked.
@Pandora101 it lasted about one year. We met in a summer exchange program and that's all but she was very into me during the programme (e.g. keeps staring at me from far away with a smile [that kind of butterflies in her stomach for falling in love the first time], following behind me even though i was not following the team during social programmes), just that I was insensitive that time. But she was still eager to pursue me after we return to our home countries so we clicked.
Posted by Rezzaldo

@Marai @MissScruffs

Thank God two cancers in aqua moons appeared! No she blocked my whatsapp, has no ig but only facebook messenger. I have tried to call her through fb messenger but no response. I did make an apology through my ig story though because a lot of people knew our incident (it wide-spreaded to the people we know) and she responded through a third-party that my apology was not sincere enough. So i decided to apologise again on her birthday coming this june and invite her to join my project to feel included. Yes, I think actions > words is normal for everyone but not just aqua moons, so I am really starting a project. Hope she reads my message though.

If you blocked someone on other platforms and don't accept his friend request on facebook, will you still read the messenger's messages though? She has once told me that she blocked me because I was toxic to her yet she still loves me? I'm confused.


Oof -.- That's not a good sign. However, barring abuse (of any kind) and/or cheating I'd like to believe you still have a chance and should try one more time.

I suggest you don't wait until her birthday to make a romantic heart felt apology. Do it now. I gave you some suggestions on how to be romantic in my previous post.

Her birthday only comes once a year. Showing her you care only then is inconsistent. Since you're in an LDR, you'll have to show her romance and affection through words and actions that cannot be expressed physically. Also, if she comes back to you, don't wait until she's mad at you or special occasions to show her your romantic side. Do it at least once a month if not more often.

You also asked in your initial post if you're compatible. Sadly, you're kind of not : / Libra men are friendly and flirty but... you're like that with everyone. If you want it to work with her, you'll have to consistently show her she's special to you and you feel differently about her than you do towards everyone else. Being nice and her best friend is not enough.

Apologize again now. As in today. Speak from your heart and dedicate a love song to her (yes she's reading your messages and posts even if she's not replying). Also make amends by inviting her to join your project.

For her birthday, send her flowers and a mushy love letter. Go at her like a wrecking ball with the romance. The cheesier the better. Take a leap of faith and trust me. She'll love it.

My advice is based on the assumption you haven't said or done anything irreparable to her but if she still responds negatively after this (or doesn't respond at all) then just leave her alone and move on. It's not salvageable : /
@Marai @MissScruffs

About her saying I was toxic was something said months ago. Recently, I have started off my project and she hinted that she was excited. She didn't mention I was toxic anymore. I think things are getting easier and she's recovering as my project launched and hopefully including her can completely reconcile our relationship. At the same time, she insinuated that I am her most favourite person to have sex with (not that she's had sex with others but imagination only), does that usually mean she's into me because she just wants to f*ck me or it's an addition to her love (i.e. She likes to f*ck someone she loves)?
Posted by Rezzaldo

@Marai @MissScruffs

About her saying I was toxic was something said months ago. Recently, I have started off my project and she hinted that she was excited. She didn't mention I was toxic anymore. I think things are getting easier and she's recovering as my project launched and hopefully including her can completely reconcile our relationship. At the same time, she insinuated that I am her most favourite person to have sex with (not that she's had sex with others but imagination only), does that usually mean she's into me because she just wants to f*ck me or it's an addition to her love (i.e. She likes to f*ck someone she loves)?


Being an LDR I'd assume her comment is an extension of her love since you can't have sex very often. Personally, I would only complement a guy on his performance in person in the middle of the deed so I don't know for sure what she meant.

Good to hear she's excited about your project but bear in mind business-y and friendly gestures aren't enough. You have to be romantic. She has to feel special and know that you care about her on different level than you do about everyone else.