How much space should I give?

I talked about my very close Cancer friend who I ended up being slightly intimate with in a past post. Now I'm totally confused. She's was sick for about a week. At the beginning of that time she was telling me things that she only told her best friend and parents. I tried to keep contact with her so she knew I cared about how she was feeling, but also tried not to be too up in her face. Now she's acting extremely cold to me. I saw her at an event I went to and brought snacks to share, she partook in the snacks but didn't seem to want to talk to me. I texted her later saying it was nice to see her and she responded as if my text was stupid. I don't know if she's trying to avoid me and any feelings she might have or if she hates me for some reason. I also don't know if I should give her time to deal with whatever she's feeling or just come straight out and ask her if she's done being even my friend. Any suggestions?

Maybe since you guys were kinda intimate she was expecting more from you—
You were trying to keep in contact with her while she was sick but not to be too much in her face... she is a Cancer I don't think she would mind constant attention, girls in general when we are intimate with a guy, and is in the very early stages of a relationship need LOTS of reassurance, maybe you weren't doing enough in her eyes and now he she is hurt... I am not saying she is right, but sometimes Cancers get offended and hurt very easily and they do like attention even if she doens't show it and acts cool...
I would talk to her, explain she is constantly in your minda, especially when she was sick but you were thinking too much about not wanting to seem too eager and be too much in her face, tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels about you... either way at least you will know and act accordingly.

good luck 🙂

Posted by MuchLovetoGive
I talked about my very close Cancer friend who I ended up being slightly intimate with in a past post. Now I'm totally confused. She's was sick for about a week. At the beginning of that time she was telling me things that she only told her best friend and parents. I tried to keep contact with her so she knew I cared about how she was feeling, but also tried not to be too up in her face. Now she's acting extremely cold to me. I saw her at an event I went to and brought snacks to share, she partook in the snacks but didn't seem to want to talk to me. I texted her later saying it was nice to see her and she responded as if my text was stupid. I don't know if she's trying to avoid me and any feelings she might have or if she hates me for some reason. I also don't know if I should give her time to deal with whatever she's feeling or just come straight out and ask her if she's done being even my friend. Any suggestions?

It's time to be straightforward, it there's anything wrong she won't come out and say it so just ask her if you've said or done anything to offend her. If she says no then it's possible that she regrets getting so intimate with you, maybe she was feeling vulnerable and did it in a moment of weakness. Maybe she just wants you as a friend and is feeling awkward about what happened. Who knows? you won't know unless you ask her. If she wont' say anything then just let her be, give her space. If she wants your company she'll seek you out.

I did end up talking to her almost immediately after I posted this. She was slightly irritated with me and it stemmed from feeling sick. We ended up doing all the things that we normally do as friends in the evening and everything, friendship wise, is okay. It seems that she's in a place where she does need a little space, so I'm trying to give it to her. I guess it's hard for other signs to have the patience to let a cancer open up to them in their own time. I'm going to do my best to not worry so much and hopefully everything will be good.

🙂 Artemis. I think she's trying to understand her own feelings. Patience, patience, patience...for me.

I dont do well with space. I guess I am in the minority when it comes to that.

I need space, if I don't get it I actually break out into hives.

LunarMaiden, that sounds similar to her. So if someone was half friend/half more, what would you need from them? I'm torn between leaving her completely alone until she comes back around or saying stuff to her occasionally so she knows I still care. I mean, I've told her how I felt, maybe not the full depth though, so I would expect she knows I'm here to stay, but I don't want to completely ignore her if she needs reassurance that I'm not going anywhere. I do see her multiple times a week because we're involved in the same activities and she does respond to me if I need to talk to her about something, because she is my closest friend locally, but I'm definitely confused as to what she might need from me. Also, I don't want to burden her by asking her what she needs from me. What worries me is should I invite her to things that we usually would like to do together or just give her complete freedom to come back around when she's ready.