HOW STUBBORN!!!
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by fallinslowly on Thursday, April 9, 2009 and has 23 replies.
Help!!! Any ideas how to make the crab come out of it's shelf? He wouldn't answer my calls nor text and it's driving me insane. Should I just surprise him in person???? We got into a "text message" fight and I said something that hurt his feeling...now i'm regretting it and I apologized but he just totally ignored me ...erghhhhhhh!!!
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You should leave him alone and let him come out when he is ready to. The more you push him, the less likely he will come out of his shell and the less likely he will want to forgive you. Do not surprise him in person.
...that's sound advice.
Hunny he'll get over it. He might be pouting now 
. If not to hell with him.
. If not to hell with him.
Oh man, cancer males can be TOO stubborn, it gets to me b/c I'm equally stubborn, lol. I love them for that and at the sametime hate them for that!!! urghh....And yeh, leave him and his feelings alone....give him time to think...he'll come around...
yeah the fuck with him. I don't go around and beg him to come back. He'll know it's his lost. It might also be a sign that God is telling me to stay away from this sucker. Ever wonder if you try so hard and things still dont work out the way YOU wanted? Well, it's because it's not god's will and plan. Tks for the help though.
Posted by fallinslowly
yeah the fuck with him. I don't go around and beg him to come back. He'll know it's his lost. It might also be a sign that God is telling me to stay away from this sucker. Ever wonder if you try so hard and things still dont work out the way YOU wanted? Well, it's because it's not god's will and plan. Tks for the help though.
LOL....
fallinslowly
lol...i got into the same fucked up situation...and now reading your post....just loved it...finally i am managing to let go and stop+ being a miserable thing that couldnt survive without his attention....
its been over a month....and after finding a thousand excuses to his fucked up behaviour,....i was like...fuck the fucker...if he doesnt talk..its cause he doesnt want...so he can go fuck himself....
geeeeee....i feel so much better now...still in love with him thou:p
lol...i got into the same fucked up situation...and now reading your post....just loved it...finally i am managing to let go and stop+ being a miserable thing that couldnt survive without his attention....
its been over a month....and after finding a thousand excuses to his fucked up behaviour,....i was like...fuck the fucker...if he doesnt talk..its cause he doesnt want...so he can go fuck himself....
geeeeee....i feel so much better now...still in love with him thou:p
Frag, YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM. Think here for a minute. YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH THE CHALLENGE this DIFFICULT man HAS PRESENTED to you. LOL! Sorry but it is TRUE. You showed this man neediness and he ran, like all commitphobic men do. YOU LET HIM CONQUER you by giving him your heart when he did NOTHING to deserve it.
If you would have stayed with YOUR baby's daddy and KEPT him on the SIDE, he would have LOVED your dirty drawls (TRUST ME I KNOW THIS). But you were ALL IN, wanting to give him EVERYTHING YOU THOUGHT he wanted. I just want YOU to know that this particular type of MAN is not attracted to a good faithful woman. She is BORING, not EXCITING and you will BORE him to death being MS. NICE wife. He loves a HOOD rat, a just like me, a woman who will say FU@@ you MF and LEAVE him for ANOTHER man in his face.
He does NOT TRUST a faithful "wife" acting woman. His mind does NOT work in that mentality. He is attracted to women WHO throw him off guard. Women who only want to USE him for something and if he is not with "it", she will let him KNOW he can get the fu@@ out of her face. Period. He loves women who ONLY want HIM for something but not NEED him for nothing if you "know what I mean!"
If he won't do what this woman wants( WHEN SHE WANTS IT) she will walk. Period, NEXT him on for the NEXT man that can do better and she WILL NOT WASTE her time or ENERGY on him while he is in his do "nothing" mode. If he wants to "act bad", misbehave- FINE but she will let HIM KNOW he CANNOT HAVE HER. SHe will NOT lay down saying here, you can have me I am ALL yours to yourself without making QUALIFY himself to HER standards.
This is a very HARD to get, UNAVAILABLE woman who has other men to date and not even "think" about his behavior because she will LET him KNOW with her actions that if he is not stepping up to the plate, somebody else will do what she needs to be done WITHOUT NO DRAMA.
So, I KNOW you feel sad and I wish I could give you a hug but you are addicted to the CHALLENGE of CAPTURING THIS man's heart and his OBJECTIVE is to not give it too you.
Solution, DON'T GIVE HIM YOURS! Fu@@ him. Bye. Next man who is willing and ready to step up to the plate gets dessert.
If you would have stayed with YOUR baby's daddy and KEPT him on the SIDE, he would have LOVED your dirty drawls (TRUST ME I KNOW THIS). But you were ALL IN, wanting to give him EVERYTHING YOU THOUGHT he wanted. I just want YOU to know that this particular type of MAN is not attracted to a good faithful woman. She is BORING, not EXCITING and you will BORE him to death being MS. NICE wife. He loves a HOOD rat, a just like me, a woman who will say FU@@ you MF and LEAVE him for ANOTHER man in his face.
He does NOT TRUST a faithful "wife" acting woman. His mind does NOT work in that mentality. He is attracted to women WHO throw him off guard. Women who only want to USE him for something and if he is not with "it", she will let him KNOW he can get the fu@@ out of her face. Period. He loves women who ONLY want HIM for something but not NEED him for nothing if you "know what I mean!"
If he won't do what this woman wants( WHEN SHE WANTS IT) she will walk. Period, NEXT him on for the NEXT man that can do better and she WILL NOT WASTE her time or ENERGY on him while he is in his do "nothing" mode. If he wants to "act bad", misbehave- FINE but she will let HIM KNOW he CANNOT HAVE HER. SHe will NOT lay down saying here, you can have me I am ALL yours to yourself without making QUALIFY himself to HER standards.
This is a very HARD to get, UNAVAILABLE woman who has other men to date and not even "think" about his behavior because she will LET him KNOW with her actions that if he is not stepping up to the plate, somebody else will do what she needs to be done WITHOUT NO DRAMA.
So, I KNOW you feel sad and I wish I could give you a hug but you are addicted to the CHALLENGE of CAPTURING THIS man's heart and his OBJECTIVE is to not give it too you.
Solution, DON'T GIVE HIM YOURS! Fu@@ him. Bye. Next man who is willing and ready to step up to the plate gets dessert.
ur cool, krobe, but i just can't read ur stuff anymore. the way u use the caps to emphasize the points ur making hurts my head. i literally hear the way ur writing it and there's a lot of YELLING and FORCE.
YELLING and FORCE.
Don't read it. I am not FORCING you to read anything I post. I enforcing to Frag with caps some things she may be doing to push her man into run mode but you don't have to read what I post.
Don't read it. I am not FORCING you to read anything I post. I enforcing to Frag with caps some things she may be doing to push her man into run mode but you don't have to read what I post.
Posted by fragm3nt3d_mind
fallinslowly
lol...i got into the same fucked up situation...and now reading your post....just loved it...finally i am managing to let go and stop+ being a miserable thing that couldnt survive without his attention....
its been over a month....and after finding a thousand excuses to his fucked up behaviour,....i was like...fuck the fucker...if he doesnt talk..its cause he doesnt want...so he can go fuck himself....
geeeeee....i feel so much better now...still in love with him thou:p
LOL, I feel exactly the same way when I got into the same exact situation..whew, cancer men really can be tricky sometimes...
I feel so much better now too but still ( a little ) inlove with him though...(sigh....)
what's your sign fragm3nt3d mind?
Posted by krobe03
YELLING and FORCE.
Don't read it. I am not FORCING you to read anything I post. I enforcing to Frag with caps some things she may be doing to push her man into run mode but you don't have to read what I post.
I love YELLING and FORCE, shakes us and keeps us on our toes...
keep em coming krobe...
= p
LOL!
Well some women come on here and LOVE arguements.
Well some women come on here and LOVE arguements.
LOL! I know, that's why I love these threads, you learn and get amused at the same time...then there are those threads that makes u feel grateful that u've gone through the mess the others are still going through and it made u a better person...That's why I always go back here, better to learn from other people's mistake, than going through the same bullshit over and over again...
True! So very true! I have been there done that before and it is not going being put in a begging, clingy, desperate position with ANY man. That feeling sucks.
Geeee KROBE thank you a million for the advice??_yeah its been a while now??_.i havent even been around here, just came to today to check hows everyone doing heheheh??_.seriously thank you !!!
I am over him ( sort off) not that I wouldn??t want him crawling to me??_but im over it??_ I reckon telling myself how fucked up he was and all the THINGS HE DIDN??T DO, helped me getting over him!!!
Hey Phoenix,??_.im a Taurus/Gemini cusp with sag moon??_I guess??_ahuahuahua a hell of a big mess and pretty much a big fuck up!!!!
Thank you all for the opinion??_.
and KROBE.... you were right all along....and the things you wrote on CAPS....damn right!!!!!
I am over him ( sort off) not that I wouldn??t want him crawling to me??_but im over it??_ I reckon telling myself how fucked up he was and all the THINGS HE DIDN??T DO, helped me getting over him!!!
Hey Phoenix,??_.im a Taurus/Gemini cusp with sag moon??_I guess??_ahuahuahua a hell of a big mess and pretty much a big fuck up!!!!
Thank you all for the opinion??_.
and KROBE.... you were right all along....and the things you wrote on CAPS....damn right!!!!!
Well Frag, I only know this man' hoe card from experience.
lol finally got over it...heheh FINALLY...i realized that I WAS actuallyu too gor for him...and the only good thing at the end of this story is that i became a better and stronger person...and goin tru that, made me valorize something greater than a good looking crab!!!
Simply send a message back saying "Nevermind, you are not the sweetheat i thought you were, glad i found out, have a nice life sweety, i will miss you!" Than ignore him for a day. I know... he will definately miss you and think to himself, what did i do? omg i am dumb! lol... than he will b putty in your hands that next day, with flowers and yummy make-up sex! *wink*
Posted by fragm3nt3d_mind
lol finally got over it...heheh FINALLY...i realized that I WAS actuallyu too gor for him...and the only good thing at the end of this story is that i became a better and stronger person...and goin tru that, made me valorize something greater than a good looking crab!!!
that's good to hear...cancer guys can be so addicting sometimes. I was finally able to let go of mine.whew! good to know there's cure for addiction, lol.
Ignoring is an indirect hint from a Cancer that they aren't interested/want to be left alone...
If he really wants you, he'll be impatient and come back...
If he really wants you, he'll be impatient and come back...
Leave him the hell alone! LOL.. Sorry, the more you beg,plea and pry,. the further way he will go. Leav him alone, you obviously gave him the message and he got it, he will call when he is ready.
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