How to be there for a Cancer Man going through personal family matters and addiction?

How to be there for a Cancer Man going through personal family matters and addiction?

Posted by BlueStar

Wait for him to reach out and be there if he does but otherwise let him spend his energy on himself and his family.

But don't cancers love attention and affection?

I basically said I he needs space and time alone.

I think we all need that when we are going through so much in our heads and feelings.

I almost feel like me being there in any sucky situation isn't appreciated though or is that a Cancers demeanor when someone is trying to console them through anything emotional or family matter?

Posted by BlueStar

Posted by misslibrascorpio

I basically said I he needs space and time alone.

I think we all need that when we are going through so much in our heads and feelings.

I almost feel like me being there in any sucky situation isn't appreciated though or is that a Cancers demeanor when someone is trying to console them through anything emotional or family matter?

Helping people means asking them what they need to feel support. Choosing to support people in the way you feel is best is centering their problem around yourself and is no help at all.

Is there any reason you can’t just ask him about it?

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I guess I don't really know how to be there for others now that I think about it. I mean I genuinely care for his emotions and the pain he is feeling. I just said a couple of encouraging words and suggested therapy to help the triggers. I am not being pushy and I am also not trying to be overly caring.

I don't know what's on his mind I can just feel the way his responses are through text are one word and that Indicated he needs his space. He just said he's going to work on something in his room and be alone and I responded to take this time for himself, we all need it time to time.

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

I don’t understand why does anyone with a child would even entertain possibility living with an addict who had ‘personal family issues’ - whatever it is..? Because you as a mother want your child to be exposed to people who using drugs? That’s very child friendly environment...NOT!

I later learned of his addiction and the fact that he is in denial of his substance abuse hence why I moved out and distanced myself.

You don't know me or the details of my child's life. My child has nothing to do with it and she has both her biological dad and I in her life.

Entertain...that's very immature and I don't live or want to live with him .

I came on here to ask how I can be there for someone I care for and want the best for.

It looks like you just came in here to start judging peoples concerns or questions.