How to win back a Cancer
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by bobby25 on Friday, August 11, 2006 and has 30 replies.
What do we say to apologise to a cancer? or make them feel that we want them more then ever?
I know it is very difficult to approch a cancer woman when she is pissed,this can go on for months.She wont even pick up your calls,and if she did,she will claim that she is busy.The only way i guess is to text message her...
So,if i wanna be back with her,what will i say?there must be a way to soften her shell and say that i still care for her..,i dont think if is adviseable to talk about love or whatever....just make them her special and wanted.any cancers here can advice?
I know it is very difficult to approch a cancer woman when she is pissed,this can go on for months.She wont even pick up your calls,and if she did,she will claim that she is busy.The only way i guess is to text message her...
So,if i wanna be back with her,what will i say?there must be a way to soften her shell and say that i still care for her..,i dont think if is adviseable to talk about love or whatever....just make them her special and wanted.any cancers here can advice?
bobby ive read ur story in ur previous posts! - why do u wanna get back to that cancerian women who treated u so bad?
and WHY do u wanna apologise to her?
i must say ur not at all like the aries men i know............ in all ur previous posts u have said how shabbily she treats u, and now u are going back...
please find a nice leo or sagitariua girl for urself
though my man is a capricorn, i still feel ariens and leos and saggis are a great team!
but dont beg ur cancer women im sure thats what she wants u to do.
and WHY do u wanna apologise to her?
i must say ur not at all like the aries men i know............ in all ur previous posts u have said how shabbily she treats u, and now u are going back...
please find a nice leo or sagitariua girl for urself
though my man is a capricorn, i still feel ariens and leos and saggis are a great team!
but dont beg ur cancer women im sure thats what she wants u to do.
I have to agree with Inqo - Bobby!
You've bent over backwards to help Cancerlady - every which way and what have you got in return - nothing but a broken heart.......and this lady appears to be thriving.
You have a choice to make, Bobby, keep bending over backwards until you "collapse" onto your back, hands and feet scrambling in the air like a pathetic little puppy........or proudly and with dignity you decide to exit this particular lady's life and become THE man and attract the lady you truly deserve. Don't be the "forever chaser" - 9 years hard graft have gone into this......how much longer does it take for you to realize that another 9 will almost surely still yield the same result.....
Wishing you the best.......
Alana
You've bent over backwards to help Cancerlady - every which way and what have you got in return - nothing but a broken heart.......and this lady appears to be thriving.
You have a choice to make, Bobby, keep bending over backwards until you "collapse" onto your back, hands and feet scrambling in the air like a pathetic little puppy........or proudly and with dignity you decide to exit this particular lady's life and become THE man and attract the lady you truly deserve. Don't be the "forever chaser" - 9 years hard graft have gone into this......how much longer does it take for you to realize that another 9 will almost surely still yield the same result.....
Wishing you the best.......
Alana
ignoring her will make her think youve moved on... she will prolly get worred and call you after a few days.. then brag about a new girl (make up a name) tell her how shes better.. compare her and then say "i gotta go! shes at the door!" then hang up very quikly. she will prolly call you right back and try to stop you. dont answer her calls for a couple hours. then return her calls after about 2 or 3 hours, simply say "you called so many times! what did you want?" she will prolly either have sum lame made up excuse or shell say "PLEASE COME BACK!" if she doesnt say "please come back" you can always comtinue to lie about the girl for a week or so then call her up and just ask to be friends with her and tell her that you want to come over to just see "her" alone. then tell her that you dont like this new girl so mcuh. tell her why you like her more than the new girl and that you'll stay with the new girl until somebody else decides to pick you up.
you have to make her jealous and trust me cancers are jealous. they cant let got of the past either. they are sooo clingy!
i wouldnt play that game too long on her though. GOOD LUCK!
.::~*Liz*~::.
you have to make her jealous and trust me cancers are jealous. they cant let got of the past either. they are sooo clingy!
i wouldnt play that game too long on her though. GOOD LUCK!
.::~*Liz*~::.
Bobby.
The only girl i've ever wanted to marry ... was a cancer female.
I'm heinously picky. Had plenty of long term relationships. NEVER EVER told a girl id think of marrying her and having a family ....cuz that's something i really, really want to get right.
the ONLY GIRL i EVER IN MY ENTIRE LIFE said that too was a Cancer.
She and I split in Aug. 04.
I have been single ever since.
I have not met anyone who can compare to her.
it's sad.
But you can benefit from my pain....
I don't think Cancer girls hold onto the past.
My ex was over me within a month.
She did like most girls do...went out clubbing, while i spent the next 4-5 weeks after our break up barely eating and/or sleeping (i'm a pisces, cancer rising -- i think that's like the most sensitivity one human being can have).
THERE WAS ABSOLUTELY NO WINNING HER BACK.
I left notes and teddy bears on her car.
I sent her poetry.
I sent her flowers.
I left message after message.
I pretended to be strong long enough to get her on the phone to talk.
It was ONE YEAR AFTER the breakup that i called her one day and TOLD HER
"i'm gonna call you in a few weeks and you're gonna go to dinner with me - i'm not taking no for an answer" ....and she said "okay".
A few weeks passed, the girl had moved from to ARIZONA (from OHIO) and didn't bother to call, warn, or even tell me.
They are vicious dude.
I want another one.......... i just hope my next cancer girl is not so cruel.
So... honestly - i don't think they can be forgiving.
They let go, and that's it.
the more you hold on, the more they laugh.
The only girl i've ever wanted to marry ... was a cancer female.
I'm heinously picky. Had plenty of long term relationships. NEVER EVER told a girl id think of marrying her and having a family ....cuz that's something i really, really want to get right.
the ONLY GIRL i EVER IN MY ENTIRE LIFE said that too was a Cancer.
She and I split in Aug. 04.
I have been single ever since.
I have not met anyone who can compare to her.
it's sad.
But you can benefit from my pain....
I don't think Cancer girls hold onto the past.
My ex was over me within a month.
She did like most girls do...went out clubbing, while i spent the next 4-5 weeks after our break up barely eating and/or sleeping (i'm a pisces, cancer rising -- i think that's like the most sensitivity one human being can have).
THERE WAS ABSOLUTELY NO WINNING HER BACK.
I left notes and teddy bears on her car.
I sent her poetry.
I sent her flowers.
I left message after message.
I pretended to be strong long enough to get her on the phone to talk.
It was ONE YEAR AFTER the breakup that i called her one day and TOLD HER
"i'm gonna call you in a few weeks and you're gonna go to dinner with me - i'm not taking no for an answer" ....and she said "okay".
A few weeks passed, the girl had moved from to ARIZONA (from OHIO) and didn't bother to call, warn, or even tell me.
They are vicious dude.
I want another one.......... i just hope my next cancer girl is not so cruel.
So... honestly - i don't think they can be forgiving.
They let go, and that's it.
the more you hold on, the more they laugh.
Yes,Mecuary
That is exectly they way i feel,i was with woman for 9 years and she treated me like i was someone special,it was only recently that i told her i had feelings for her..and that is when..she rejected me.
I was down,drinking and making a fool out of my self,i begged her to forgive me and said that whatever i ment no offence,but she has shut me out her life completely.
I wonder,is this what i deserve after all that did for her?
So i guess,the bottom line with cancerians is that they always think that they are right and there is no-one above them,they never admit their mistakes and claim that it is always our fault if things go wrong.She blamed me for all her misery.
I am not applying this to all cancerians,but there are some who really have mental problems.
Guys..i am the nicest guy a woman can ever find,i wouldn't even let a scratch come on her and guess what,i respected her and we never even had sex.
If you would have read my previous posts,you may think i am crazy..but this is how i really felt for her.
Now evertime i see her,she treats me cold,she does not talk and she tells her close friends that i am a "love sick" puppy.
Honestly,i feel like dying,i was there every step of ther misreable life,i have put up with her tempers and sarcasm.i have wasted tons of money on her and her family.
Now i hear that she has started to go out with someone else...
Mecuary..I too want to stay single all my life,this incident has really turned my life around and i dont trust women anymore.
That is exectly they way i feel,i was with woman for 9 years and she treated me like i was someone special,it was only recently that i told her i had feelings for her..and that is when..she rejected me.
I was down,drinking and making a fool out of my self,i begged her to forgive me and said that whatever i ment no offence,but she has shut me out her life completely.
I wonder,is this what i deserve after all that did for her?
So i guess,the bottom line with cancerians is that they always think that they are right and there is no-one above them,they never admit their mistakes and claim that it is always our fault if things go wrong.She blamed me for all her misery.
I am not applying this to all cancerians,but there are some who really have mental problems.
Guys..i am the nicest guy a woman can ever find,i wouldn't even let a scratch come on her and guess what,i respected her and we never even had sex.
If you would have read my previous posts,you may think i am crazy..but this is how i really felt for her.
Now evertime i see her,she treats me cold,she does not talk and she tells her close friends that i am a "love sick" puppy.
Honestly,i feel like dying,i was there every step of ther misreable life,i have put up with her tempers and sarcasm.i have wasted tons of money on her and her family.
Now i hear that she has started to go out with someone else...
Mecuary..I too want to stay single all my life,this incident has really turned my life around and i dont trust women anymore.
bobby25,
I really think that this girl has issues bigger than she knows. She apparently isn't mentally stable, therefore making you go crazy for it. When she realizes how badly she treated you, you will already have moved on to someone more worthy of your love. I truly believe that she is the loser and the stupid one. People generally don't know what they have lost until it is really gone. I hope this helps. I find it to be true in my experiences.
I really think that this girl has issues bigger than she knows. She apparently isn't mentally stable, therefore making you go crazy for it. When she realizes how badly she treated you, you will already have moved on to someone more worthy of your love. I truly believe that she is the loser and the stupid one. People generally don't know what they have lost until it is really gone. I hope this helps. I find it to be true in my experiences.
MAAAAAAAAAAN THAT IS MY SONG!!!! ..(advise follows)
patience my dear! Massage my back while I'm thinking..
Awww bobby25 
I really feel for you dude ...........
I really feel for you dude ...........I'd say... get THE HELL OUTTA THERE!!! But, don't come around here either;
http://www.zangerbob.nl/ (videoclips) (the netherlands are taking over Belgium...)
Cases like David Hasselhof are common around here and it's called MIDLIFE CRISES (david hasselhof.. hmpf it's a cancer also :-o )
Hey Bobby25! Why appologize when you did nothing wrong? It's strange how some people can make us do things we normally wouldn't be doing! (been there done that) But the best thing you can do is...
-> put her on your ignore list (if she cares enough she WILL get jealous!!), DUMP her, don't contact her and last but not least treat her like dirt. It gets me moving e.v.e.r.y. single time
(in fact she's not even worth all that trouble)
http://www.zangerbob.nl/ (videoclips) (the netherlands are taking over Belgium...)
Cases like David Hasselhof are common around here and it's called MIDLIFE CRISES (david hasselhof.. hmpf it's a cancer also :-o )
Hey Bobby25! Why appologize when you did nothing wrong? It's strange how some people can make us do things we normally wouldn't be doing! (been there done that) But the best thing you can do is...
-> put her on your ignore list (if she cares enough she WILL get jealous!!), DUMP her, don't contact her and last but not least treat her like dirt. It gets me moving e.v.e.r.y. single time
(in fact she's not even worth all that trouble)
Bob is not in his MIDlife crisis.. he's got a LIFE!!! crisis
darned it's.. HasselhoFF
LOL, I think the song is cute and alittle catchy 
I admit.. I wrote the song.. He's just too sweet *sigh*
Which song are you talking about? Ow shoot, I wrote them both..
They're very high-standard don't you agree?
They're very high-standard don't you agree?
LOL, yes cancimimi,
The "Hooga Hooga ooga chakka" is very creative
The "Hooga Hooga ooga chakka" is very creative
pretty catchy huh! :p 
:p I could create another one! You do the vocals. We'll start with a piano and you'll be singing about a girl.... let's call her Cathy orrrr Mary... Minnnnnn...MANDY!! That's it!!!!
eg. something like..:
Oh Mandy
Well you game and you came without faking
and I swept you away, oh Mandy
Well I ditched you but (that didn't) stop me from taking
And I need you today, oh Mandy
and then a "grande finale"
It's aaaaaall coming together
Oh Mandy
Well you game and you came without faking
and I swept you away, oh Mandy
Well I ditched you but (that didn't) stop me from taking
And I need you today, oh Mandy
and then a "grande finale"
It's aaaaaall coming together
you won't dare to come back now for sure
But hey.. this was a topic for Bobby25!! (keep us informed honey)
I ... am... (of course) TOTALLY innocent!
If it weren't for me, we would STILL be talking about antibling's SUPERIDOL!
Hoff's his, Heff's mine :p
And if you weren't so selfish Antibling, you'd leave the "grande finale" for Bobby!!
If it weren't for me, we would STILL be talking about antibling's SUPERIDOL!
Hoff's his, Heff's mine :p
And if you weren't so selfish Antibling, you'd leave the "grande finale" for Bobby!!
PASSING the blame is it? As in.. You blamed me FIRST and I didn't put up with it? :-p
And..uhm IIIII'm not sharing, YOU will be the one making a sacrafice! (?videmment)
And..uhm IIIII'm not sharing, YOU will be the one making a sacrafice! (?videmment)
Thats it,i am so through with her,i emailed her last week and practically begged for forgiveness (i know i am stupid),but it did not take any effect,Total ignorance..like i dont even exist anymore..
Nevermind,let the universe handle her,i am tired..wanted to get back for revenge,but thought that i would be putting myself in the same insane level with her.
Let this bitch have her time,i was there when she and her family was in 10th level of hell,pull them out,took care of her,got her sis a scholarship by bribing my close friends,feeding her almost everyday,keeping up with her volitile temper and emotions for 9 years.was there every step of ther way when her dad passed away,listening to her scream at god,i took them to the correct path so they would not sink again..Today..her family is on the top,she has a good paying job,her sis passed all the exams and got a good secure job from the company that offered her the scholership..everything is working out for her and i guess she does not need me to be around to remind her what i did for her.
Seriously guys,i NEVER thought it would end like this,i never knew a woman could be so heartless.Today,she just laughs like a bitch and pretends nothing has happened,i am of no more value to her..
Seriously..there are no words to explain my pain..
She benafited everything..and i got nothing at the end..Guys..never let this happen to you..
Nevermind,let the universe handle her,i am tired..wanted to get back for revenge,but thought that i would be putting myself in the same insane level with her.
Let this bitch have her time,i was there when she and her family was in 10th level of hell,pull them out,took care of her,got her sis a scholarship by bribing my close friends,feeding her almost everyday,keeping up with her volitile temper and emotions for 9 years.was there every step of ther way when her dad passed away,listening to her scream at god,i took them to the correct path so they would not sink again..Today..her family is on the top,she has a good paying job,her sis passed all the exams and got a good secure job from the company that offered her the scholership..everything is working out for her and i guess she does not need me to be around to remind her what i did for her.
Seriously guys,i NEVER thought it would end like this,i never knew a woman could be so heartless.Today,she just laughs like a bitch and pretends nothing has happened,i am of no more value to her..
Seriously..there are no words to explain my pain..
She benafited everything..and i got nothing at the end..Guys..never let this happen to you..
That actually happened to me with a Virgo...but on a MUCH smaller scale....you truly sacrificed. Her isssues sound like more of a deal of low-life values than being a cancer. Most cancers tend to give more than they ask in return unless their value systems are just screwed by their upbringings...
hey bobby, when i read ur post i felt like punching you!! why just WHY do u wan5t to apologise to her?
although uve mentioned most of the details i dont understand why you are apologising? did you do something so horribly wrong ?
although uve mentioned most of the details i dont understand why you are apologising? did you do something so horribly wrong ?
There are really two sides to every story. All we are hearing is Bobby's side or maybe I'm late to the game...i don't know. Honestly it sounds like you should let her "have it" screaming, name calling and cursing! It sounds like she took advantage of you from your perspective. Good Luck with her and Stop contacting that woman! Let her go!
You also sound a little depressed. Don't let it get you down for too long. Who ever said life would be easy?
You also sound a little depressed. Don't let it get you down for too long. Who ever said life would be easy?
Caring is sharing, whoop de de de doo.That happened to me too. We cancers aint selfish at all as some people feel but as with some geminis as well because of our helpful nature and forgiving nature they take advantage of it. Geminis are veeeeeerry helpful and forgiving, (the shit they put up with is amazing at times). u should change that how to pay back a cancer,lol. I'm cancer as well but i do not think is the sign It's the fact she took FULLLLLL advantage of your giving nature.
Bobby,
She sounds like a selfish cow, if we are only to believe your side of the story.
Anyway, your life - your choice.
I do know several successfull Cancer-Aries couples, but it takes two to tango, not just one, like in your case.
I also noticed that Aries, especially men, are hugely attracted to Cancer women, could be this very masculine (Aries), and very feminine (Cancer) polarity.
She sounds like a selfish cow, if we are only to believe your side of the story.
Anyway, your life - your choice.
I do know several successfull Cancer-Aries couples, but it takes two to tango, not just one, like in your case.
I also noticed that Aries, especially men, are hugely attracted to Cancer women, could be this very masculine (Aries), and very feminine (Cancer) polarity.
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