I have a crab problem. Clueless Virgo.
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by miniature_asian on Tuesday, August 15, 2017 and has 8 replies.
Here's a blast from the past, there's this girl that I met way back during my freshman year of college. She lived on the floor above me. I always got a different vibe from her, but I really never put much thought into it. It's a lovely habit of mine to over analyze, plus I always assumed she was straight haha. Apparently she found me insanely attractive. Here I am dense as hell lol.
Fast forward, 5 years she admitted to me if she knew I had a slight inkling for her she would've acted on it. That literally opened up a side of her I never knew. She flat out told me that she's intensely attracted to me, and wanted to sit on my face and thought of me when she gets off. I asked her what made her contact me afterall these years, she said it was from me leaving a nice birthday message on her FB. Out of all of the messages she's gotten mine meant and stood out the most, telling me that people don't typically do that, show that they care. We've been talking a lot, she wanted to FaceTime me a few times and called me. Asked me to come see her, or whenever we finish talking for the night she'd tell me that she just wants to drive to me. I've been pretty understanding, accepting and sweet to her to where she's told me that she feels comfortable telling me things. I took all of this as signs that it was okay for me to turn up the charm, I might've over done it lol. I asked her if she wanted to be my date for an upcoming event and she thought I was joking, but I was serious lol. She asked me if I wanted to go to a concert and stay with her for a few days. I took her up on it hopefully I'll get to come see her. Shortly after, one of our conversations I picked up that she was maybe jealous because I wanted to send her a special kind of picture, she responded with "lol, not just me but your other suitors too." I wonder if she thinks I talk to other people like this...? Not to be conceited, I do have a lot of people that are interested in me but I don't pay of those people any attention. I guess for her she thinks that she's just another notch on my belt since I'm sociable and flirty.
All of the sudden she drops off the radar, although she could be busy too. I've noticed if I leave her alone she eventually comes around. The sudden distancing, hot and coldness has got me confused. I don't know if I scared her off to where she's overwhelmed and retreating to her shell? For now I'm going to give her space, but I've never dealt with a Cancerian before. I'm very direct, and upfront with my feelings. I like this girl a lot, she rocks my world and I want her around me.
Virgo with hella Arian influence.
Fast forward, 5 years she admitted to me if she knew I had a slight inkling for her she would've acted on it. That literally opened up a side of her I never knew. She flat out told me that she's intensely attracted to me, and wanted to sit on my face and thought of me when she gets off. I asked her what made her contact me afterall these years, she said it was from me leaving a nice birthday message on her FB. Out of all of the messages she's gotten mine meant and stood out the most, telling me that people don't typically do that, show that they care. We've been talking a lot, she wanted to FaceTime me a few times and called me. Asked me to come see her, or whenever we finish talking for the night she'd tell me that she just wants to drive to me. I've been pretty understanding, accepting and sweet to her to where she's told me that she feels comfortable telling me things. I took all of this as signs that it was okay for me to turn up the charm, I might've over done it lol. I asked her if she wanted to be my date for an upcoming event and she thought I was joking, but I was serious lol. She asked me if I wanted to go to a concert and stay with her for a few days. I took her up on it hopefully I'll get to come see her. Shortly after, one of our conversations I picked up that she was maybe jealous because I wanted to send her a special kind of picture, she responded with "lol, not just me but your other suitors too." I wonder if she thinks I talk to other people like this...? Not to be conceited, I do have a lot of people that are interested in me but I don't pay of those people any attention. I guess for her she thinks that she's just another notch on my belt since I'm sociable and flirty.
All of the sudden she drops off the radar, although she could be busy too. I've noticed if I leave her alone she eventually comes around. The sudden distancing, hot and coldness has got me confused. I don't know if I scared her off to where she's overwhelmed and retreating to her shell? For now I'm going to give her space, but I've never dealt with a Cancerian before. I'm very direct, and upfront with my feelings. I like this girl a lot, she rocks my world and I want her around me.
Virgo with hella Arian influence.
Sometimes cancer come on strong and disappear it's normal if she's interested she'll be back around once she realizes that she likes you. Maybe a week or two at most so just make yourself available.
That's what I figured what I should do, give her space. The last thing I want to do is to come off desperate and needy.
Posted by miniature_asianYou don't have to downplay the needy part it's what will help pull a cancer in to you feeling wanted.
That's what I figured what I should do, give her space. The last thing I want to do is to come off desperate and needy.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeCarmalizedCoffee, she very well could be and what do you suggest on how I go about that?
she sounds insecure ...make her secure
Posted by NINETYNINEI can tell, but it's hard to gauge at times whether she likes me or not but hey it's okay.Posted by miniature_asianCancer loves people who are into them, just do it in a warm and genuine manner.
That's what I figured what I should do, give her space. The last thing I want to do is to come off desperate and needy.click to expand
Posted by CrabNextDoorI'm not shy when it comes to letting my affections show, but if that's what reassures her then it'll work in my favor.Posted by miniature_asianYou don't have to downplay the needy part it's what will help pull a cancer in to you feeling wanted.
That's what I figured what I should do, give her space. The last thing I want to do is to come off desperate and needy.click to expand
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI've been the one that's been initiating contact which I don't mind, but she hasn't been really all that responsive. To me there's no point of spamming someone that doesn't seem like they want to talk. Then again she does get antsy when she hasn't heard from me for a day or at most.Posted by miniature_asianbe there more often, contact her more often, seem consistentPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeCarmalizedCoffee, she very well could be and what do you suggest on how I go about that?
she sounds insecure ...make her secureclick to expand
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