I must be mental
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by menbay12 on Monday, August 13, 2007 and has 21 replies.
I have the worst luck picking out guys!! I am a real idiot!! Are there any half way normal guys out there..
yep..im settling for halfway normal now...
yep..im settling for halfway normal now...
Hi menbay! How have you been? Have you caught yourself another cancer? haha they're so irresistable! although.. I AM giving mine the silent treatment. heh.
Yea cancer sucks! ughhhhhhh.. i'm leaving to go home, i was at his house and i decided to leave cuz it was late. HE JUS LAYED there without getting up. NO kiss or anything and gave me the biggest attitude. What the fuck was that???? I swear!!! GRrRrRRRRRRRR
Summer hello!
I don't want to offend you by no means. You are recieving alot of negative responses from your Cancer boyfriend but do you realize that you could be part of the continuation of this pattern through your negative beliefs or expectations about him. He could be consistently responding negatively to you in part because you consistently believe that he is that way and it translates through some of your actions. A suggestion....Maybe try being more positive in your approach and he may in return start behaving differently towards your expectations.
I don't want to offend you by no means. You are recieving alot of negative responses from your Cancer boyfriend but do you realize that you could be part of the continuation of this pattern through your negative beliefs or expectations about him. He could be consistently responding negatively to you in part because you consistently believe that he is that way and it translates through some of your actions. A suggestion....Maybe try being more positive in your approach and he may in return start behaving differently towards your expectations.
Hi krobe,
no you didn't offend me. I don't understand though how is his actions reflected by my actions. For example, tonight I whispered in his ear "ok i'm leaving, its kind of late" in a calm way letting him know i'm ready to go home cuz it's late. He was the one to tell me before I leave he wanted to lay down with me. I was going to leave earlier like around 10pm but ended up leaving almost 12am. So anywayz i don't know why he just didnt attempt to give me a kiss or anything.
no you didn't offend me. I don't understand though how is his actions reflected by my actions. For example, tonight I whispered in his ear "ok i'm leaving, its kind of late" in a calm way letting him know i'm ready to go home cuz it's late. He was the one to tell me before I leave he wanted to lay down with me. I was going to leave earlier like around 10pm but ended up leaving almost 12am. So anywayz i don't know why he just didnt attempt to give me a kiss or anything.
So anywayz i don't know why he just didnt attempt to give me a kiss or anything.
Did you ask him for a kiss or are you taking him for granted feeling like he is the one who owes you a kiss?
Did you ask him for a kiss or are you taking him for granted feeling like he is the one who owes you a kiss?
I didn't ask him for a kiss or attempt either because he gave me an attitude when I was telling him i was leaving. Like he is annoyed that I'm leaving.
or he is annoyed that I woke him up or something maybe?! I mean i didn't ask him why cuz i don't want to start arguments but those kind of moments i don't understand. HE just snaps and I have no idea what I did or didn't do.
Can I ask you why do you get so wrapped up in his emotions? Why does his emotions bring you down? If he is pissed, just let him be pissed and give him a kiss that he is probably dying for anyways. Then you could just go on about your business and quit expecting him to give you some sort of negative outcome.
hay crude...
nope my pisces prince turned out to be a pill addict..not a fun month it has been
how are you?
nope my pisces prince turned out to be a pill addict..not a fun month it has been
how are you?
SD SS! turns out mines the exact same.. cept pill to psycho and addict to.. b*tch.
what great luck we have in finding such flawed used to be potential partners.
what great luck we have in finding such flawed used to be potential partners.
lol crude Im with you. Im not with an addict, ok let me lay it down, he's borderline alchoholic, but that's not even the problem....he's...I can't even figure out where to go with him emotionally. He wouldnt say he was my man but he acted like he was going to act like it, so I expected him to act like it then when he didnt act like it I said let's just be friends so now he's acting all hurt when he was the one that wasn't doing the things to be more. How he's acting like I hurt him so bad I don't even think that he realizes how down I am that we aren't where I thought we would be. And now he's "running from me" and I dont know whether to chase because I'll look like a damn fool or to just leave him be which would probably hurt him more cuz Im not chasing him so he'll be thinking I dont want him. Maybe I should ask him if it would be worth it look like a fool for him. I bet that would at least make him smile. I feel like Im dealing with a woman, with myself lol this is SO weird.
I feel like Im dealing with a woman, with myself lol this is SO weird.
LMFOA! Yeah I feel you. I feel you Sweets. LMOA! I can't chase because that is not in my nature. I need some help here because chasing a man is not one of my top priorities. If I have to pursue, then I guess I don't want him that dayum bad. LOL! I just can't do it. Pursue a man. No, not me. I give up for right now. I give up.
LMFOA! Yeah I feel you. I feel you Sweets. LMOA! I can't chase because that is not in my nature. I need some help here because chasing a man is not one of my top priorities. If I have to pursue, then I guess I don't want him that dayum bad. LOL! I just can't do it. Pursue a man. No, not me. I give up for right now. I give up.
He wouldnt say he was my man but he acted like he was going to act like it, so I expected him to act like it then when he didnt act like it I said let's just be friends so now he's acting all hurt when he was the one that wasn't doing the things to be more.
Dayum Sweets he is devastated because you dumped the poor crab. You were his security blanket. You know he is not going to come out and tell you exactly how he feels. LOL!
Dayum Sweets he is devastated because you dumped the poor crab. You were his security blanket. You know he is not going to come out and tell you exactly how he feels. LOL!
well how am I supposed to know what to do from here. I need to know how he feels to know if I should even try to clean up the mess. I was imagining I would just tell him "I want things to go back to when we were talking and joking and laughing, tell me what I can do to help us get back to that place"...you think that would work?
well how am I supposed to know what to do from here. I need to know how he feels to know if I should even try to clean up the mess. I was imagining I would just tell him "I want things to go back to when we were talking and joking and laughing, tell me what I can do to help us get back to that place"...you think that would work?
Nope. You have been intimate with him. Cancer men hide their feelings deep down inside and they distance themselves from intense emotional feelings. We believe men should show their feelings and tell us things we want to hear to keep us secure, but unfortunately it just does not turn out to be quite what we want in a relationship. I try to tell you the more you hold your feelings inside with a Cancer man, the more you get him to come around. If you start expressing feelings for him, he is gone and he will leave you broken hearted. It is very, very complex and disturbing to even mention that if you don't consistently call him even when he ignores your calls, then he feels like you don't want him anymore. Oh so complex. But, No he really likes you but you have a Cancer male with a Leo moon. Oh girl, you are talking double secretive and extra sensitive. OMG!
Nope. You have been intimate with him. Cancer men hide their feelings deep down inside and they distance themselves from intense emotional feelings. We believe men should show their feelings and tell us things we want to hear to keep us secure, but unfortunately it just does not turn out to be quite what we want in a relationship. I try to tell you the more you hold your feelings inside with a Cancer man, the more you get him to come around. If you start expressing feelings for him, he is gone and he will leave you broken hearted. It is very, very complex and disturbing to even mention that if you don't consistently call him even when he ignores your calls, then he feels like you don't want him anymore. Oh so complex. But, No he really likes you but you have a Cancer male with a Leo moon. Oh girl, you are talking double secretive and extra sensitive. OMG!
Sweets
He may have some of his own insecurities that is causing him to distance himself from you. Don't assume that you are the reason for his withdrawals. He could be in his shell for some extra thinking time or for some time to think how he could fit you into his schedule. I wouldn't assume that he is running because he is scared of you.
He may have some of his own insecurities that is causing him to distance himself from you. Don't assume that you are the reason for his withdrawals. He could be in his shell for some extra thinking time or for some time to think how he could fit you into his schedule. I wouldn't assume that he is running because he is scared of you.
You know crude, I get so frustrated sometimes with this guy. He is soooooo different then any other guy I have ever been with. He is a very sweet guy with a heart of gold, That steals my sh.t. How totally messed up am I not to RUN!!!!Sometimes I hate being a stupid cancer can't let'em go gal!! I am so much smarter then this! My head and my heart are struggling...
I must say I am a little suprised you are sticking around...still having issues?..Sucks that we are such sexy women doesn't it?
I must say I am a little suprised you are sticking around...still having issues?..Sucks that we are such sexy women doesn't it?
Sweet I know how frustrating it can be when someone says they'll be with you but doesnt act like it, I think I am quite guilty of that myself, which is why my cancer went all psycho on me and said I played too many mind games.
For me, if I was in the situation you were in, I'd give it some time to think my next move to make sure what you say next will not scare cancer away. Yeah, cancers ARE such drama queens, man or woman. lol.
Oh and menbay, love is SO blind.. I would never stay with someone if he or she stole from me, UNACCEPTABLE. I have been avoiding cancer for a couple of days now, the wound is still actually pretty fresh, their words can cut you like no other! OUCH.
For me, if I was in the situation you were in, I'd give it some time to think my next move to make sure what you say next will not scare cancer away. Yeah, cancers ARE such drama queens, man or woman. lol.
Oh and menbay, love is SO blind.. I would never stay with someone if he or she stole from me, UNACCEPTABLE. I have been avoiding cancer for a couple of days now, the wound is still actually pretty fresh, their words can cut you like no other! OUCH.
lol Crude I went on and sent him on his way. It seems like everything I do just makes it more complicated so Im just going to give us time to see what happens when we release the flow
lol Crude I went on and sent him on his way. It seems like everything I do just makes it more complicated so Im just going to give us time to see what happens when we release the flow
Yeah Sweets,
That is a good idea. Just give him a little space. I am with a Cap now and you Cancer has a Leo moon and you have a Cap moon. You will have some struggles until someone bows down. Nine times out of ten, he is not going to do it too much. Someone is going to have to humble down to the rubble. Complicated, difficult match indeed. But after some years and time you will be a match made in heaven.
Yeah Sweets,
That is a good idea. Just give him a little space. I am with a Cap now and you Cancer has a Leo moon and you have a Cap moon. You will have some struggles until someone bows down. Nine times out of ten, he is not going to do it too much. Someone is going to have to humble down to the rubble. Complicated, difficult match indeed. But after some years and time you will be a match made in heaven.
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