I'm a Scorpio and I've been talking to this cancer guy for like a month and half
And everything was good but now its like he's distant and he isn't cute or like he seems he's not Interested but then he will reassure me that he is and be affectionate for a day or so.
Like I get that when they first like you they flirt and very affectionate and then when they realize they have serious feelings for you is when they put their guard up and become hot and cold! Is that true?
I like him a lot but I hate this feeling of like he's not into me but he says he is, like sometimes I don't wanna eat. But then he reassured me and it makes me feel better but for how long?
Is it worth it? Should I keep trying??
I already made a promise with that we wouldn't talk to other people so I don't wanna go behind his back and talk to other people and I don't wanna tell him I take it back either.
I'm just puzzled and don't know what to do?
Honestly I feel like I'm more in this than you
And honestly it's making me upset.
Him: :/ I don't know what to tell you. I think it's just my personality and you don't understand.
So you arent into it huh
Him: No that's not what I'm saying
Then what?
Him: You mistake my not being super chatty for disinterest and that's just not the case
Well you use to be and now it's less and less
Him: It's because I'm comfortable with you. That's seriously all it is.
I'm trying to understand you and be patient but how am I suppose to get to know you more
Him: I'll tell you whatever you want to know and text you whatever you u want me to but I'm bad at opening up unless I'm prompted
Like I said I'm not rushing you into anything your not comfortable with, and I am willing to wait for however long it takes but you have to realize you're making me feel like your not interested. So I guess we both just need to communicate better
Him:
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Oct 24, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 2706 · Topics: 56
Dude..just relax..take a step back and stop pressuring him...let him think about shit for awhile, that's what they do. Mine does they all do. If he comes back and is into you, great, if not..screw him.
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Oct 24, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 2706 · Topics: 56
Also it sounds like he's being completely honest so just back off a bit and have faith. Be happy he digs you.
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Oct 24, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 2706 · Topics: 56
^faceroll nailed it. I'm not sure what he's not giving you, but he seems to be answering yr questions very honestly. Any more and you're gonna be way high maintenance in his eyes...drop it. Let it breathe and just see what happens now..hopefully you'll continue hanging out n being happy together...
I'm sorry i think I'm allowed to ask because I didn't know where we stand
How am I suppose to know
He use to text me be all affectionate and reassuring all the time
If you like someone you don't stop texting them
How am I suppose to know
I mean I can see if we were in a long term but I'm still getting to know the guy and how am I suppose to know if he doesn't hang with me or texts me hardly
Actions speak louder than words
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Oct 24, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 2706 · Topics: 56
There is nothing wrong with asking where you stand!! But he gave you the answer...i would recommend just being ok where yr at. And if you're not then get away from him, if he's not giving you what you need! Its ok to just chill and see what happens....its still early..
I am a Scorpio woman myself and I have been in two very serious relationships with Cancer men. I understand how frustrating it can be when they act as if they cannot get enough and then they all of asudden pull away. I feel they are very shy at times and they do tend to go into their shells to hide. My advice is just be patient and give it time. My first love was a Cancer and it took him four months to ask me out. It drove me absolutely crazy because I didn't know where I stood with him. I believe that they take their relationships very seriously and so they tend to proceed with caution in order to protect their hearts. I think that us Scorpios are very dominant and when we know that we want someone, we don't want to waste any time. With Cancers it's just different though. I think they tend to step back from a situation in order to truly process it. That way they can figure out what they want. So just try your best to relax, even though I know that it can be easier said than done. And just try to give him some space and do not push him anymore. I feel like that will definitely give you the opposite results of what you want. Hopefully it all works out, because I honestly feel that Cancers and Scorpios can make for one amazing match.
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Jul 07, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 234 · Topics: 39
Just dissappear for a while. He will be back
It has only been a month so I would suggest keep talking to him for a few more months and if he is still hot and cold and it makes you uncomfortable then seek to find another person. Speaking to other people shouldnt hurt if you are not in a commitment. One thing I can say as a Cancer woman I myself am hot and cold. I personally do not like Cancer men because of this trait so I only date men who are not bothered by the change in my temperatures, in fact it turns them on. Some men like the challenge but me personally I am not into men who share this trait with me. It up to you and how it makes you feel. I would say if hang on a bit more and if it doesnt work then let it go. who can give you what you are looking for,
Oh dear. Lol.
My only advice is to back off. That’s hard I know, but you have to. I’ve read an experienced (even though my endings with this sign was not good, there were good parts) the more you push the more they clam up. Cancers cannot be pushed. You push they move slower. They move at their own pace.
I don’t do well with Cancers anyway to be frank, I simply don’t have the patients. However I will say they are very sweet, and always lovey dovey AT FIRST. I had one like that, and he was long distance. For the first few weeks, he was like a cupcake, soft and sweet and full of love. The next thing I knew he just backed off. I panicked a little, tried to ask him what was up, he gave me some blown off answer so me being the Libra I am, I took his nonchalant, calm, cooled off behavior as a need for space. So I gave him some. I backed off, and he freaked out. Started calling and texting, and became a little fussy over me. At first it was cute, but then it came off insecure. I flat out told him dude, if you wont open your mouth, I have no choice but to read your actions and your actions said you needed space so that’s what I gave you. He promptly told me, you read wrong and I don’t want space!
I laughed, and told him to get on a flight to come see me. Sheesh, they can be crybabies. You’re a Scorp tho so I’m sure you’ll love every minute of it.