I think there is something wrong...

When I came home from work yesterday my cancer guy seemed as if there was something wrong. Let me explain: On Wedsnday my boyfriend called me and said that he was coming over and I was excited (didn't show it) because I hadn't seen him in a few days. So he came over and instead of greeting me with a hug he just said "hey" and then he went on to his computer (which he left at my house so he can play his games) to check his e-mail. Once he was done he was lying down and I kissed him, the way he was kissing me seemed like he didn't really want to. So I asked him "why are you kissing like that" and he made a comment that I am always complaining. So then after that he fell asleep, now his plan was not to spend the night, he said that he was going to spend a few hours with me before it was time to pick his mom up from work at 2am. So anyway he ended up staying over.

Since I had to go to work the next morning I asked him if he was going to stay while I was at work. So he did; when I returned from wotk I did the usual things that I do when returning home from work like clean, shower etc. So after all of that I started to kiss him and give him attention, and he told me he was "free" thinking so I asked him if he wanted me to leave him alone, and his response was yea I'm just relaxing and thinking right now. These two days that he's been at my house he's been like this. I asked him if there was anything wrong he said "no", and I told him if he wanted to talk that I am here to listen. But I have a gut feeling that it is something. And I am not use to him being this way. I wonder what I should do? I don't like to see him like this, it's like I am sitting here at work thinking of all the things I can do to make him feel better. Because I know sometimes I have my moment where I want to be left alone and something is bothering me and I don't reveal it. Perhaps he could be having his moment now. But what shall I do, I don't want to sit there like I don't care because I do. What do you guys think?

I wouldn't worry about it Misscancer. It's probably like you said, he is just like everyone else and needs his thinking space.

However, I do see something else in his actions that perhaps is the most important of all . . . he obviously needs his safety net, where he can ponder his life and where he feels safe is with you and your house. You make him feel warm, comfortable and safe. That is the writing on the wall - when he needs to escape, crawl into his shell - he comes to you, to where he feels cared for.

I know, you're worried and upset, but, I feel joy for you, instead of concern. You've made him feel . . . he's yours, luv.