If you tell a cancer to fxxx off
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by poeticsounds on Friday, May 18, 2007 and has 50 replies.
if you tell a cancer you never want to talk to him again, will be come back ? I know it seems lame, but what do you guys think? I cant really get him out of my head.
Yeah,
He will, however, give him some space. He will come back when HE is ready 2 come out of his shell, not when U want him 2. And yes, it will take some time. Just leave him alone. Don't call or text him and give him time 2 "think". He is probably laughing about if anyways because U let him C that he has control of U, since U texted him that. Next time, don't let him control U. U control Yourself and once he notices that U have control of yourself. Yeah, he will come back, and open up alot more. If he did it 4 kicks, he is tripping, if he really liked you, he is bruised. It will B nothing U can do or say 2 get him out of that shell until he is ready to come out.
He will, however, give him some space. He will come back when HE is ready 2 come out of his shell, not when U want him 2. And yes, it will take some time. Just leave him alone. Don't call or text him and give him time 2 "think". He is probably laughing about if anyways because U let him C that he has control of U, since U texted him that. Next time, don't let him control U. U control Yourself and once he notices that U have control of yourself. Yeah, he will come back, and open up alot more. If he did it 4 kicks, he is tripping, if he really liked you, he is bruised. It will B nothing U can do or say 2 get him out of that shell until he is ready to come out.
Hmm well, I didnt text him, or anything, we were suppose to do something last night, and im still sort of bummed we didnt.
Are you a cancer? whats your moon sign?
Are you a cancer? whats your moon sign?
No, I am not a Cancer.
However, I am some of everything in the zodiac LOL! I think it is in Gemini. I think. I think I mentioned it before. I have personally noticed that IF I call my Cancer friend and he does not answer, I leave him alone. I don't try to get him 2 come out of his shell. I either just wait 4 him to come around and ask me 2 call or if I call him back, I space out the intervals. I Call only 1 time. I only text 1 time. I have noticed that if I do it only one time, he calls back. If I text only 1 time, he may not do it right then and there however, he texts back. I just don't pressure him or complain alot. He is who he is. I have to accept that or just disappear. And he usually does not let that happen.
However, I am some of everything in the zodiac LOL! I think it is in Gemini. I think. I think I mentioned it before. I have personally noticed that IF I call my Cancer friend and he does not answer, I leave him alone. I don't try to get him 2 come out of his shell. I either just wait 4 him to come around and ask me 2 call or if I call him back, I space out the intervals. I Call only 1 time. I only text 1 time. I have noticed that if I do it only one time, he calls back. If I text only 1 time, he may not do it right then and there however, he texts back. I just don't pressure him or complain alot. He is who he is. I have to accept that or just disappear. And he usually does not let that happen.
i am cancer and good luck! i wouldn't hold my breath waiting for him to come back because like krobe03 said we will be back if or when we want to come back. krobe03 pretty much nailed it on the head. if someone told me to f off i would probably do what they asked and be done with them.
Yeah,
I agree, I have done some awful things myself and he is still around! SO just let him B.
I agree, I have done some awful things myself and he is still around! SO just let him B.
i guess those guys are ones who have not learned to let go..haha
Oh Cansir,
Now, Now, U know U men R attracted 2 beautiful women. LOL! Beautiful women captivates U.
Now, Now, U know U men R attracted 2 beautiful women. LOL! Beautiful women captivates U.
krobe03 you are very correct..see you do have us figured out :-)
yah, i told off my cancer male friend, and then a week later ic laled ot apologize, and he flipped on me, saying he sover it, he doenst give a shit, doenst wnat to tlak to em ever again, etc, he went on and on about how he doesnt give a shit bout me, i said what i said and hes over it.
i would call him, for a week straight, no answer. finally i jus gave up. i didnt call him for a week, and wasnt planning on ever tlaking to him again. but then one day he stopped me in the streets.and told me to wiat. then we were cool again. he said hes moddy, and i need ot chill n give space. basiclaly everything krobe has said.
i would call him, for a week straight, no answer. finally i jus gave up. i didnt call him for a week, and wasnt planning on ever tlaking to him again. but then one day he stopped me in the streets.and told me to wiat. then we were cool again. he said hes moddy, and i need ot chill n give space. basiclaly everything krobe has said.
"He is probably laughing about if anyways because U let him C that he has control of U, since U texted him that. Next time, don't let him control U. U control Yourself and once he notices that U have control of yourself. Yeah, he will come back, and open up alot more. If he did it 4 kicks, he is tripping, if he really liked you, he is bruised. It will B nothing U can do or say 2 get him out of that shell until he is ready to come out."
Is that why they're laughing at you? Mine keeps laughing at me as if she's making fun of me! But once upon a time when I almost gave up on cancer because of her moodiness, Cancer did come back around when I started to show that I had control over my own life. Now cancer is acting as if nothing happened, why do you all play games. I'm stopping with cancer for a bit, hope cancer will come back around. I have a letter written and I'm going to give it to her eventually when the time is right.
Is that why they're laughing at you? Mine keeps laughing at me as if she's making fun of me! But once upon a time when I almost gave up on cancer because of her moodiness, Cancer did come back around when I started to show that I had control over my own life. Now cancer is acting as if nothing happened, why do you all play games. I'm stopping with cancer for a bit, hope cancer will come back around. I have a letter written and I'm going to give it to her eventually when the time is right.
we are not laughing at you..we laugh because we have a great sense of humor..haha..
katica, a cancer will not do what you want when you want it. we do things on our time and we definitely do not like being told what to do. if you tell us to do something we will probably do the opposite. we have a rebel streak and we hate being confined inside the box...wait maybe that is just me lol..
and I am like that too...my way or the highway usually...lol...but I'm not like that with him though...cause I realise it gets me no where...lol
Yeah, it will. Just keep your foot down long enough and have patience. Yeah, he will return I promise.
Yeah, it will. Just keep your foot down long enough and have patience. Yeah, he will return I promise.
Krobe03 Any ideas ? If it was ME, I wouldn't. U need 2 B PATIENT! He is attracted 2 slow moving people. DON'T B the average female here. U want 2 stand out above the rest! U want 2 be the one who stays on his mind, not away from it. Do him like he did U. C, I USED to have that problem, egh, a little bit. I move back quick. C the AVERAGE female would just keep going, and going. This is a man's trapping method. U understand. A man likes 2 use your feelings against U, because we as women R weaker than me, when it comes 2 feelings. U have 2 "Act like a man". If he did not text U back, I would not text him. He will eventually C that U ain't playing this BS!
What would you do ? Do him the same way he did me and say F him! I am telling U, it works, however, I would not directly say it 2 him. I would act like the sweetest woman alive on the face of this earth! However, my actions would let him know, U not going 2 B playing me like I am a toy.
Given the fact that the week that he had deleted me I had sent him texts everyday (yeh bad mistake I know) and a few emails proclaiming how much he meant to me (he already new I loved him long ago so no new news to him) and sorry for being clingy...What R U sorry 4. U need 2 get rid of your feelings. Does he show U his true feelings! I bet NO, because he is a Cancer. They have 2 really feel U, before they totally open up, so with this advice quit trying 2 please him and convince him, and just b yourself. I know I don't want NO man playing me like this, and I usually don't allow it. The more U play games, I am going 2 play triple times, and then that usually makes him stop.
then I had enough and like I said sent him a pissed off email saying I'm 'taking back' my 'heart' and 'love' I gave him and said 'I was done with him' which got him to re-add me...and I stopped the texts and emails since last thursday...If U R pissed off, leave him alone. U need space to breathe. That is Y they call it space, not just for him, but 4 U to. He will come around, just quite making him "think" that U want him, he will use that against U, if U show 2 much feelings 4 him.
What would you do ? Do him the same way he did me and say F him! I am telling U, it works, however, I would not directly say it 2 him. I would act like the sweetest woman alive on the face of this earth! However, my actions would let him know, U not going 2 B playing me like I am a toy.
Given the fact that the week that he had deleted me I had sent him texts everyday (yeh bad mistake I know) and a few emails proclaiming how much he meant to me (he already new I loved him long ago so no new news to him) and sorry for being clingy...What R U sorry 4. U need 2 get rid of your feelings. Does he show U his true feelings! I bet NO, because he is a Cancer. They have 2 really feel U, before they totally open up, so with this advice quit trying 2 please him and convince him, and just b yourself. I know I don't want NO man playing me like this, and I usually don't allow it. The more U play games, I am going 2 play triple times, and then that usually makes him stop.
then I had enough and like I said sent him a pissed off email saying I'm 'taking back' my 'heart' and 'love' I gave him and said 'I was done with him' which got him to re-add me...and I stopped the texts and emails since last thursday...If U R pissed off, leave him alone. U need space to breathe. That is Y they call it space, not just for him, but 4 U to. He will come around, just quite making him "think" that U want him, he will use that against U, if U show 2 much feelings 4 him.
"But why is it...when we get angry (without swearing directly at the person) and say we are 'done' with them and don't want to be added to the msn list again...he does a 360 and re-adds me ?? But wouldn't when I was being polite...nice...apologetic for being clingy and asking him to re add me ??"
Mine did the exact same thing when i asked her if she never wanted me to bother her again, and in a pretty rude manner she said yeah leave me alone. So I go off and detach myself emotionally and a week later she comes running back.... cute but frustrating!
Mine did the exact same thing when i asked her if she never wanted me to bother her again, and in a pretty rude manner she said yeah leave me alone. So I go off and detach myself emotionally and a week later she comes running back.... cute but frustrating!
Can anyone shed some light.....
I am a aries and have met a cancer man....I still have him in my head but I refuse to let him win......
This is my story.....met him at work....he was a client....have never crossed any lines before but he was giving all the signals I thought....went on for 2-3 months....figured it was time to figure out what was going on so I made the first move and asked him to dinner....my reply was as follows...."straightup....why" as he caught me off balance I replied "because I like you" he then said "do you want a yes or no answer or can I get back to you" I said "sure...you can get back to me" needless to say he never did and when I saw him the following week I pretended like I never saw him....I figured you reap what you sow.....Well the look on his face was one of "I don't understand what is happening here" and then I saw it actually click in....needless to say I never called him and he never called me....then I happened to be in the same bar as him and the next day got a call at work from him....well its work so what could I do....I called him back and made like no problem what can I help you with....its like it never happened and I'll be damned if I will bring it up and he is never going to......I see him here and there and each time he stares at me as if he is wanting to break me into submission....thats the only way I can describe it....and I will not break....however I can't stop thinking about him and I think he could be the one....
So am I completely insane and is there any hope in breaking him!
I am a aries and have met a cancer man....I still have him in my head but I refuse to let him win......
This is my story.....met him at work....he was a client....have never crossed any lines before but he was giving all the signals I thought....went on for 2-3 months....figured it was time to figure out what was going on so I made the first move and asked him to dinner....my reply was as follows...."straightup....why" as he caught me off balance I replied "because I like you" he then said "do you want a yes or no answer or can I get back to you" I said "sure...you can get back to me" needless to say he never did and when I saw him the following week I pretended like I never saw him....I figured you reap what you sow.....Well the look on his face was one of "I don't understand what is happening here" and then I saw it actually click in....needless to say I never called him and he never called me....then I happened to be in the same bar as him and the next day got a call at work from him....well its work so what could I do....I called him back and made like no problem what can I help you with....its like it never happened and I'll be damned if I will bring it up and he is never going to......I see him here and there and each time he stares at me as if he is wanting to break me into submission....thats the only way I can describe it....and I will not break....however I can't stop thinking about him and I think he could be the one....
So am I completely insane and is there any hope in breaking him!
cheeky if i am reading this rigth yall never had dinner? if this is the case it could be he might have decided not to mix business with pleasure. he might not be doing anything else to try and maybe lead you on plus us cancers are not very direct so you will probably never get a direct answer from him. oh and to answer you question, until HE is ready to go out or have dinner with you. you will not break him!
That is correct....we never had dinner....but its weird cause I can see something in his eyes and it is totally screwing with my head....but I am stuborn also and I won't give anymore....when I do see him he just stares and sometimes tries to bait me.....its almost like he wants me to say something nasty so that it can be my fault....but my momma didn't raise any dummy and I won't go there....I will play his little game....when he talks I talk.....when he acknowledges me I acknowledge him....
He had said he isn't into game playing but that seems to be all he is about....he wants to
crawl inside my head but when it comes to him answering questions....forget about it
He also comes off as such a nice shy guy who wouldn't hurt a fly.....but it just isn't so...he is stuborn and hard and wants it to be all about him....
What can I do to get inside his head and beat him at his own game?
Any thoughts or ideas....you know us aries we hate to lose a challenge and can give as good as we get....
and again for some strange reason I think he is the one....
He had said he isn't into game playing but that seems to be all he is about....he wants to
crawl inside my head but when it comes to him answering questions....forget about it
He also comes off as such a nice shy guy who wouldn't hurt a fly.....but it just isn't so...he is stuborn and hard and wants it to be all about him....
What can I do to get inside his head and beat him at his own game?
Any thoughts or ideas....you know us aries we hate to lose a challenge and can give as good as we get....
and again for some strange reason I think he is the one....
So do you think by copying his actions and just giving what you get....that makes him want you more and see you as a challenge?
There are moments when I think he would really like me to be mean/mad at him and then like I said the power will shift back to him because I will be the one who can't control
their emotions....and like I have read here....it seems all to be about control
Its total bizarre....they want you then you submit and they don't want you....you get cold and they try to break you down again...
So other that mimicing there actions any other ideas to totally make him crazy for me?
There are moments when I think he would really like me to be mean/mad at him and then like I said the power will shift back to him because I will be the one who can't control
their emotions....and like I have read here....it seems all to be about control
Its total bizarre....they want you then you submit and they don't want you....you get cold and they try to break you down again...
So other that mimicing there actions any other ideas to totally make him crazy for me?
I don't want to know everything but you cancers could try to answer at least one easy question.....
So cancerbuddy, give me some insight to how your reasoning works.....with women....what does someone do to drive you crazy?
So cancerbuddy, give me some insight to how your reasoning works.....with women....what does someone do to drive you crazy?
redrovertoo yes i am from the south. do you like southern men ? i am sure you picked that up with my use of yall all the time :-)?
i think cancerbuddy is right on with his assessment. it is all a process and it is about us feeling you and the situation out. we usually ask more questions than we will answer because we are getting to know you. we will not reveal anything about ourselves until we are sure you are going to be there for us and we can trust you. well that might not be true because there are things about me my parents don't even know. but most people think i am a pr!ck when they first meet me because i am rather reserved. i stay quiet just listening and observing the situation. the truth is i am checking to see if you are someone i can get along with and to see if i can trust you as a friend. all of my closest friends will tell you that i am not easy to get to know but the moment i felt safe with them i am the most loyal person they know. i will fight the devil himself for the people i care about.
i think cancerbuddy is right on with his assessment. it is all a process and it is about us feeling you and the situation out. we usually ask more questions than we will answer because we are getting to know you. we will not reveal anything about ourselves until we are sure you are going to be there for us and we can trust you. well that might not be true because there are things about me my parents don't even know. but most people think i am a pr!ck when they first meet me because i am rather reserved. i stay quiet just listening and observing the situation. the truth is i am checking to see if you are someone i can get along with and to see if i can trust you as a friend. all of my closest friends will tell you that i am not easy to get to know but the moment i felt safe with them i am the most loyal person they know. i will fight the devil himself for the people i care about.
So do you think by copying his actions and just giving what you get....that makes him want you more and see you as a challenge? The hard 2 get challenge. This is what I mean by move slow. They don't like fast moving women who want 2 just give them thier hearts at the beat of a drum! They think they do, however, a smart woman knows that love takes time and patience. U get what U put into it. Something easy 2 get is not worth waiting 4.
There are moments when I think he would really like me to be mean/mad at him and then like I said the power will shift back to him because I will be the one who can't control
their emotions....and like I have read here....it seems all to be about control
Being mean! Y? He is just being himself if U can't tell. I must say so MYSELF, and I thought I would never say this...This is a complex man indeed. Me I like complex things and men so that is Y I have the patience for this. I know if I get mad about something. I give up some space. Not just 4 him, but 4 me 2. This man will drive U crazy on a daily basis. I B like, bye, see ya when U get back! However, dear U need 2 B in control of yourself and not let any man control YOUR feelings. U R confident! Confidence is remaining cool in ALL situations and having a hold on your feelings. I am not saying don't express any. However, I would not express 2 many esp when it comes 2 letting a man know he has gotten 2 me.
Its total bizarre....they want you then you submit and they don't want you....you get cold and they try to break you down again...Not really. A test. They want 2 make sure they can trust U. They want 2 make sure that U R not going 2 just give up on them and walk away with their hearts! If U stick around and don't let him read U, he will open up. If U don't like trails and tribulations move on. Me personally, My whole life including the job I work is very complex. SO he fits in indeed!
So other that mimicing there actions any other ideas to totally make him crazy for me? Mines told me 2 just B yourself! Don't change nothing about U just 4 him. So me the typical I am know that I am not perfect. So Y act like it. I am just as complex acting as he is. LOL!
There are moments when I think he would really like me to be mean/mad at him and then like I said the power will shift back to him because I will be the one who can't control
their emotions....and like I have read here....it seems all to be about control
Being mean! Y? He is just being himself if U can't tell. I must say so MYSELF, and I thought I would never say this...This is a complex man indeed. Me I like complex things and men so that is Y I have the patience for this. I know if I get mad about something. I give up some space. Not just 4 him, but 4 me 2. This man will drive U crazy on a daily basis. I B like, bye, see ya when U get back! However, dear U need 2 B in control of yourself and not let any man control YOUR feelings. U R confident! Confidence is remaining cool in ALL situations and having a hold on your feelings. I am not saying don't express any. However, I would not express 2 many esp when it comes 2 letting a man know he has gotten 2 me.
Its total bizarre....they want you then you submit and they don't want you....you get cold and they try to break you down again...Not really. A test. They want 2 make sure they can trust U. They want 2 make sure that U R not going 2 just give up on them and walk away with their hearts! If U stick around and don't let him read U, he will open up. If U don't like trails and tribulations move on. Me personally, My whole life including the job I work is very complex. SO he fits in indeed!
So other that mimicing there actions any other ideas to totally make him crazy for me? Mines told me 2 just B yourself! Don't change nothing about U just 4 him. So me the typical I am know that I am not perfect. So Y act like it. I am just as complex acting as he is. LOL!
I am turning U ladies into demons LOL!
I decided to follow Krones advice and a short while later I needed to speak with him about work. I purposely slowed my walk down (I normally walk fast, and have alot of energy. I also talk alot and I am witty in real life :-))I slowed my speech and did not make any sudden moves. I spoke supportively to him in a friendly, fun way but I didn't break into a comedy routine. He responded to me in a very relaxed way, even though I knew he was in a bad mood (so what's new?)He was soft.
Hey Redrovertoo, U know I love U! Hey, have U decided what U really want from Mr. Cancer yet? Do U want 2 continue with the rollercoaster start looking at creating something more. If so U have 2 know how 2 move 2 the next level. If U need advice on this text me. I make 2 many women mad because they just don't understand how men R different from women.
Hey Redrovertoo, U know I love U! Hey, have U decided what U really want from Mr. Cancer yet? Do U want 2 continue with the rollercoaster start looking at creating something more. If so U have 2 know how 2 move 2 the next level. If U need advice on this text me. I make 2 many women mad because they just don't understand how men R different from women.
U didnt make me mad Krobe
me neither
btw: are you a leo? @Krobe...if not, then what? just curious
Yeap,
I am a Leo! I just know how 2 contain my fire LOL!
I am a Leo! I just know how 2 contain my fire LOL!
Its total bizarre....they want you then you submit and they don't want you....you get cold and they try to break you down again...Whoever wrote this...
U know I have 2 add my 2 cents. No submit, he is just trying 2 feel U out and see what type of person U R. Don't do everything that he wants U 2 do. Hold off on something! Since he is emotional anyways, U will make him "think" about his feelings. Most men don't connect 2 feelings remember. So thinking about his feelings will help him "think" about U. Just show some love, a little and back off. Like give out a pinch of love and back off and move slow. When he comes back, next time say NO. Then he will get mad. Him being mad will make him realize that he has feelings. Men hide their feelings remember. Don't give a man everything he wants. Don't give away all your goods in one big whop! SLowly give out your goods. How else will he stick around if U give out everything all at once. Tag his ass along.
U know I have 2 add my 2 cents. No submit, he is just trying 2 feel U out and see what type of person U R. Don't do everything that he wants U 2 do. Hold off on something! Since he is emotional anyways, U will make him "think" about his feelings. Most men don't connect 2 feelings remember. So thinking about his feelings will help him "think" about U. Just show some love, a little and back off. Like give out a pinch of love and back off and move slow. When he comes back, next time say NO. Then he will get mad. Him being mad will make him realize that he has feelings. Men hide their feelings remember. Don't give a man everything he wants. Don't give away all your goods in one big whop! SLowly give out your goods. How else will he stick around if U give out everything all at once. Tag his ass along.
hahahha Krobe, U are good!
Redrovertoo,
U know I don't bite my tongue. I will give U some GOOD advice. However, it is up 2 U to follow it. I need help sometimes with this complex creature and I don't usually say that about men LOL! Yeah, I have 2 admit myself. He is like no other. U just have 2 know how 2 handle him.
U know I don't bite my tongue. I will give U some GOOD advice. However, it is up 2 U to follow it. I need help sometimes with this complex creature and I don't usually say that about men LOL! Yeah, I have 2 admit myself. He is like no other. U just have 2 know how 2 handle him.
Girl,
B patient! Patient! U argued with him. He is now more cautious with his actions and U. U have 2 have control of yourself. Don't take everything so personal. When I first met my Cancer friend. I was an emotional mess. He would come up 2 me and B like I need $ $ $ . I would B like WTF! going off. So he would distance himself. He would come around about two weeks later, and say, I ain't with all those attitudes. So everytime he thought I would get mad he would ask me 4 $ $ $ $ . I just started not saying anything 2 him and ignoring his calls and not answering him until he chased me down and said he was just playing. I would get offended by that. All he is trying 2 do is get the feel of U. So U just get the feel of U.
B patient! Patient! U argued with him. He is now more cautious with his actions and U. U have 2 have control of yourself. Don't take everything so personal. When I first met my Cancer friend. I was an emotional mess. He would come up 2 me and B like I need $ $ $ . I would B like WTF! going off. So he would distance himself. He would come around about two weeks later, and say, I ain't with all those attitudes. So everytime he thought I would get mad he would ask me 4 $ $ $ $ . I just started not saying anything 2 him and ignoring his calls and not answering him until he chased me down and said he was just playing. I would get offended by that. All he is trying 2 do is get the feel of U. So U just get the feel of U.
the feellllll he he why u want cancer feel u he he he u love dat feeling
Yeah BK,
My man needs 2 feel me.
My man needs 2 feel me.
Hey,
Katica,
Um, I would quit the texts 4 now all together. Shoot! He is not doing anything 2 earn your texts or your attention. Make his arse work 4 your attention. A couple of texts in 1 week is too much love showing. LOL! If he is really into U, he will B doing this 2 follow up. He knows U feed off these texts. SO 2 twist his arse around. Don't do it. 1 time here or there just 2 show a little interest! But, pull way back. Its like, yeah U like MY texts. U like MY time, (because texts show that U have available time) then U better straighten your arse up. Or U get nothing! Period. Then U will have appeared 2 dump HIM and Cancer men hate 2 B dumped. LOL! Personally, I don't think having sex 1 time mattered. But let me ask U, did U do it without making him earn it?
Katica,
Um, I would quit the texts 4 now all together. Shoot! He is not doing anything 2 earn your texts or your attention. Make his arse work 4 your attention. A couple of texts in 1 week is too much love showing. LOL! If he is really into U, he will B doing this 2 follow up. He knows U feed off these texts. SO 2 twist his arse around. Don't do it. 1 time here or there just 2 show a little interest! But, pull way back. Its like, yeah U like MY texts. U like MY time, (because texts show that U have available time) then U better straighten your arse up. Or U get nothing! Period. Then U will have appeared 2 dump HIM and Cancer men hate 2 B dumped. LOL! Personally, I don't think having sex 1 time mattered. But let me ask U, did U do it without making him earn it?
I have made him really angry and pissed off...and he has told me to 'treetr*nk off' in the past when I pissed him off and still he comes back...why oh why ? why not just get rid of me once and for all if he just wants me as friends and nothing more ???
Here's the problem. U pissed him off! LOL! U did good by making him have contact with his feelings however, he will not let U completely in his life until U stop pissing him off! Oh, and bye the way, Cancer men DON'T believe in the let's B friends BS either. It is ALL or nothing. It is a radar. He is feeling U out with this. If U do things 2 back track, like tell him your feelings, then he is using it against U. He knows U want more than a friendship from him. SO he is using a control mechanism 2 make U live up 2 your words, however, U R going against them by telling him your feelings chasing him.
Let me ask U, if U feel he is not treating U well. Y DO U CHASE HIM! He senses U like 4 him 2 act like this. This is the way he has 2 communicate with U. If a man is treating me the way I don't want 2 B treated. Then U need 2 get the hell on. Bye. However, if U do this, he will come back with improvements. U 2 should both just B trying 2 feel each other out right now. U have 2 pick up on his clues or he is going 2 play U 4 what it is worth. Attention! He seeks it, he gets it. Without little effort I must add. Yeah, he is coming back, because he knows he can do a little charm thing and HE has your attention back. But, ME on the other hand. U MAY get attention 1 once every 1.5 months LOL! I have even ignore him and looked him dead in his face smiling 4 this long. At least until he comes crying 2 every dam body asking Y I treat him like this. If he is not going 2 act right. B less available with your time.
Here's the problem. U pissed him off! LOL! U did good by making him have contact with his feelings however, he will not let U completely in his life until U stop pissing him off! Oh, and bye the way, Cancer men DON'T believe in the let's B friends BS either. It is ALL or nothing. It is a radar. He is feeling U out with this. If U do things 2 back track, like tell him your feelings, then he is using it against U. He knows U want more than a friendship from him. SO he is using a control mechanism 2 make U live up 2 your words, however, U R going against them by telling him your feelings chasing him.
Let me ask U, if U feel he is not treating U well. Y DO U CHASE HIM! He senses U like 4 him 2 act like this. This is the way he has 2 communicate with U. If a man is treating me the way I don't want 2 B treated. Then U need 2 get the hell on. Bye. However, if U do this, he will come back with improvements. U 2 should both just B trying 2 feel each other out right now. U have 2 pick up on his clues or he is going 2 play U 4 what it is worth. Attention! He seeks it, he gets it. Without little effort I must add. Yeah, he is coming back, because he knows he can do a little charm thing and HE has your attention back. But, ME on the other hand. U MAY get attention 1 once every 1.5 months LOL! I have even ignore him and looked him dead in his face smiling 4 this long. At least until he comes crying 2 every dam body asking Y I treat him like this. If he is not going 2 act right. B less available with your time.
Oh and Y R U done with him? Explain this.
2 me when U TELL him U R done, LOL! Sorry, U R closing the door. And you wonder Y he is not opening up and letting you in? He knows he is complex! Period. I HAVE 2 admit. He is complex. He knows he gets misinterpreted and he gets shut out! That is Y he uses his protective mechanisms. 2 let everyone who just wants 2 rush into his heart out. U cannot rush. He is not playing games with U, he is protecting himself. U should have some type of sheild over your heart 2 let him know that U don't give your heart away so easily either. However, it is plain and simple. DEAL WITH IT! It is a part of HIM. If you can get past that he is protecting his heart, then U can deal with him and go with the flow. He is PROTECTING his heart. U R saying he is playing games, however, U may B rushing with and he senses this through U telling your feelings and texting him. No harm, but U R being 2 easy!
2 me when U TELL him U R done, LOL! Sorry, U R closing the door. And you wonder Y he is not opening up and letting you in? He knows he is complex! Period. I HAVE 2 admit. He is complex. He knows he gets misinterpreted and he gets shut out! That is Y he uses his protective mechanisms. 2 let everyone who just wants 2 rush into his heart out. U cannot rush. He is not playing games with U, he is protecting himself. U should have some type of sheild over your heart 2 let him know that U don't give your heart away so easily either. However, it is plain and simple. DEAL WITH IT! It is a part of HIM. If you can get past that he is protecting his heart, then U can deal with him and go with the flow. He is PROTECTING his heart. U R saying he is playing games, however, U may B rushing with and he senses this through U telling your feelings and texting him. No harm, but U R being 2 easy!
I don't fall in love with anyone but when I met him I being a pisces felt a 'connection' with him immediately and over time it grew stronger...that's why I haven't let up on my feelings for him or given up on him...I do feel he is the one for me...and when he treated me wrong...mainly just said nasty things when I made him angry I took it as he was just being angry and didn't mean it...that's why I put up with it...
Yeah, however, U can change your ways. And if U need some help text me. I will help U and point out some areas that I can C U R weak with. However, text me. OK? I like 2 keep private conversations private.
But, your problem here is that U R captured into the connected feelings that U have. U need 2 let go of those connected feelings! Period. U R holding onto nothing. I am blunt however, I don't mean 2 say things in a mean way, just make U look at a different perspective. Don't EVER get caught up into a "connection" feeling. And yes, he knows this. U 2 should B compatible. And Pisces R usually not jealous. U should have the if U cheat I won't compete attitude. If U want these girls. They can have U. U can't have ME and them. Pick your choice. But, U R a pisces, and U the foremost thing that I see here when U say this is that U have low self esteem, low self confidence in yourself. He knows that U can't LET GO of that connection. And that may B the problem that he is not giving his time 2 U. Because instead of focusing on the connection that U 2 feel. U should B focusing on building up your level of self confidence. He will notice the change. I promise he will. Right now, he does not think U R ready. He likes U, because like Cansir stated, when Cancer men respect U, they put U on reserve. So U R on reserve right now. However, U put yourself on reserved. At least until U get yourself together. Don't worry about him. He will "FIX" himself, good 2 I must add, when U "fix" U.
Yeah, however, U can change your ways. And if U need some help text me. I will help U and point out some areas that I can C U R weak with. However, text me. OK? I like 2 keep private conversations private.
But, your problem here is that U R captured into the connected feelings that U have. U need 2 let go of those connected feelings! Period. U R holding onto nothing. I am blunt however, I don't mean 2 say things in a mean way, just make U look at a different perspective. Don't EVER get caught up into a "connection" feeling. And yes, he knows this. U 2 should B compatible. And Pisces R usually not jealous. U should have the if U cheat I won't compete attitude. If U want these girls. They can have U. U can't have ME and them. Pick your choice. But, U R a pisces, and U the foremost thing that I see here when U say this is that U have low self esteem, low self confidence in yourself. He knows that U can't LET GO of that connection. And that may B the problem that he is not giving his time 2 U. Because instead of focusing on the connection that U 2 feel. U should B focusing on building up your level of self confidence. He will notice the change. I promise he will. Right now, he does not think U R ready. He likes U, because like Cansir stated, when Cancer men respect U, they put U on reserve. So U R on reserve right now. However, U put yourself on reserved. At least until U get yourself together. Don't worry about him. He will "FIX" himself, good 2 I must add, when U "fix" U.
Oh, YES!
The texts and going online is still letting him know that U R seeking attention. Y do U need 2 seek attention from texts and emailing. If U do, fine, but he does not need 2 know anything about your cards. Keep everything closed off! Don't let your secrets out so easily. U know what I mean. B a mystery. Keep things locked in the dark! It is like OK, U can change yourself. Then once U do make a change. Dangle it 2 him. 1 time. 1 time ONLY. That means if he wants that in his life. He better open up and let U in or he can forget it. And when U R out, if he is getting hugs from other women. Then U get hugs from other men. And don't sweat it. Yeah, when I say easy, I live in a different part of the country so let me clarify this" emotionally 2 available, not challenging enough, attention seeking blah...blah.... He should not have 2 give U attention. If U want it, find other things 2 do with your time with things that satisfy U. B distant and aloof. What I mean is B in your own little world doing this 4 U. That way he will know that U do other things with your time instead of seek attention just from him.
The texts and going online is still letting him know that U R seeking attention. Y do U need 2 seek attention from texts and emailing. If U do, fine, but he does not need 2 know anything about your cards. Keep everything closed off! Don't let your secrets out so easily. U know what I mean. B a mystery. Keep things locked in the dark! It is like OK, U can change yourself. Then once U do make a change. Dangle it 2 him. 1 time. 1 time ONLY. That means if he wants that in his life. He better open up and let U in or he can forget it. And when U R out, if he is getting hugs from other women. Then U get hugs from other men. And don't sweat it. Yeah, when I say easy, I live in a different part of the country so let me clarify this" emotionally 2 available, not challenging enough, attention seeking blah...blah.... He should not have 2 give U attention. If U want it, find other things 2 do with your time with things that satisfy U. B distant and aloof. What I mean is B in your own little world doing this 4 U. That way he will know that U do other things with your time instead of seek attention just from him.
when cancer men like you they put you on reserve? okay that is a very interesting line, please explain.
kat i sent you an email.
when cancer men like you they put you on reserve? okay that is a very interesting line, please explain.
What I mean is Cancer men R attracted 2 women who R on reserve. Period. Not rushing him, no emotional messes, a lady he could B a future mate with, however, he is not ready 2 give it up yet! So instead of U wasting your time waiting around from him, U R distant and aloof- which means living in your own world doing other things instead of worrying about him. Men like women that R into something other than them. That way, U could B off getting a degree in college, taking up things that interest U, and going on with your daily routine without noticing that he is not noticing U. If U need more help. I will clarify this. However, this also means that your sex is reserved, your space and time is reserved and in order 4 him 2 get it. He has 2 earn it. So U reserve U, don't let him reserved U.
What I mean is Cancer men R attracted 2 women who R on reserve. Period. Not rushing him, no emotional messes, a lady he could B a future mate with, however, he is not ready 2 give it up yet! So instead of U wasting your time waiting around from him, U R distant and aloof- which means living in your own world doing other things instead of worrying about him. Men like women that R into something other than them. That way, U could B off getting a degree in college, taking up things that interest U, and going on with your daily routine without noticing that he is not noticing U. If U need more help. I will clarify this. However, this also means that your sex is reserved, your space and time is reserved and in order 4 him 2 get it. He has 2 earn it. So U reserve U, don't let him reserved U.
problem! some people can't go long periouds "putting sex on reserve".....ummm....you know?
That is what I mean by being distant and aloof. If U had other things 2 do with your time, U will not notice that he is not paying attention 2 U. U will B wrapped up into your own little world, while he is wrapped up into U. LOL!
That is what I mean by being distant and aloof. If U had other things 2 do with your time, U will not notice that he is not paying attention 2 U. U will B wrapped up into your own little world, while he is wrapped up into U. LOL!
but....i guess if you really like the "cancer type" and want them to find you attractive you have to kind of be hard to get
Real hard 2 capture. We R talking about a pro hear. He is not amateur LOL! He knows his game well and U have 2 know how 2 pick up and stay way ahead of him, so he can see some value in you. LOL! U have 2 bet him out of his own magnetic brain. Very hard complex individual. However, U can beat him if U pay attention 2 detail and throw it back lopsided at him. LOL!
Real hard 2 capture. We R talking about a pro hear. He is not amateur LOL! He knows his game well and U have 2 know how 2 pick up and stay way ahead of him, so he can see some value in you. LOL! U have 2 bet him out of his own magnetic brain. Very hard complex individual. However, U can beat him if U pay attention 2 detail and throw it back lopsided at him. LOL!
The texts and going online is still letting him know that U R seeking attention. Y do U need 2 seek attention from texts and emailing. If U do, fine, but he does not need 2 know anything about your cards. Keep everything closed off! Don't let your secrets out so easily. U know what I mean. B a mystery. Keep things locked in the dark! It is like OK, U can change yourself. Then once U do make a change. Dangle it 2 him. 1 time. 1 time ONLY. That means if he wants that in his life. He better open up and let U in or he can forget it. And when U R out, if he is getting hugs from other women. Then U get hugs from other men. And don't sweat it. Yeah, when I say easy, I live in a different part of the country so let me clarify this" emotionally 2 available, not challenging enough, attention seeking blah...blah.... He should not have 2 give U attention. If U want it, find other things 2 do with your time with things that satisfy U. B distant and aloof. What I mean is B in your own little world doing this 4 U. That way he will know that U do other things with your time instead of seek attention just from him.
Dayum Krobe you just put it down with this and I have done this very thing and it works
Oh ladies you will go through withdrawals because attention seeking ie emailing, texting, calling is something that comes naturally for us so breaking the habit will be hard at first but the benefits from it is HUGE, you can't buy it, I keep my time occupied with other things, I read, work out, work my second job, talk to other friends/family, do things that nourish my mind and soul.
voila he's texting or calling, seeking me out.
Dayum Krobe you just put it down with this and I have done this very thing and it works
Oh ladies you will go through withdrawals because attention seeking ie emailing, texting, calling is something that comes naturally for us so breaking the habit will be hard at first but the benefits from it is HUGE, you can't buy it, I keep my time occupied with other things, I read, work out, work my second job, talk to other friends/family, do things that nourish my mind and soul.
voila he's texting or calling, seeking me out.
Just looking for some objective thoughts on how to proceed.....I just noticed that the cancer I am interested in is now on line at plentyoffish.....so he is obviously looking around....I thought he had a girlfriend but it must be over.....
Given that info should I use it to my advantage to make contact with him? call it fate/destiny but I have the info and want to proceed correctly.....
I am afraid that if I do and we meet and he realizes its me it could go 1 of two ways....one he will realize it is fate/destiny or he might think that I am not the kind of person he would want if he found me on a internet dating site......
So can any male cancers out there give me a hand on how to go forward.....thanks again!
I figure if he likes a challenge I could give him one!
Given that info should I use it to my advantage to make contact with him? call it fate/destiny but I have the info and want to proceed correctly.....
I am afraid that if I do and we meet and he realizes its me it could go 1 of two ways....one he will realize it is fate/destiny or he might think that I am not the kind of person he would want if he found me on a internet dating site......
So can any male cancers out there give me a hand on how to go forward.....thanks again!
I figure if he likes a challenge I could give him one!
kateinkansascity,
Thanks for the info....you are right given cancers nature they never really let go....Just to give you some back ground....I think I was in the picture before her but we never dated....he swam around and around and dropped many hints so I finally asked him and got the following reply..."straight up....why" I said being the naive aries that I am "because I like you" he then said do you want a yes or no answer or can I get back to you....I said you can get back to me....he didn't and I never called him and figured screw me no screw you and just ignored him....he tried to get my attention but I didn't waiver and now when I see him he just stares at me to try to un-nerve me or to try to make me mad (I think) but still have not responded in anyway except to be courteous.....and yes you are right about plenty of fish....the 3 guys I met before I figured it out were not who they appeared to be and of lower quality shall we say......
I know what I am going to do....and that is be me and if he wants me... he knows where he can find me and if he doesn't then I am better off and its his loss...
Thanks for your candor....I definately do not need that in my life
Thanks for the info....you are right given cancers nature they never really let go....Just to give you some back ground....I think I was in the picture before her but we never dated....he swam around and around and dropped many hints so I finally asked him and got the following reply..."straight up....why" I said being the naive aries that I am "because I like you" he then said do you want a yes or no answer or can I get back to you....I said you can get back to me....he didn't and I never called him and figured screw me no screw you and just ignored him....he tried to get my attention but I didn't waiver and now when I see him he just stares at me to try to un-nerve me or to try to make me mad (I think) but still have not responded in anyway except to be courteous.....and yes you are right about plenty of fish....the 3 guys I met before I figured it out were not who they appeared to be and of lower quality shall we say......
I know what I am going to do....and that is be me and if he wants me... he knows where he can find me and if he doesn't then I am better off and its his loss...
Thanks for your candor....I definately do not need that in my life
I am not saying I am packing it in....I am simply for once going to let nature takes its course and let things play out as they will......I have never second guessed my actions until lately and maybe my natural instincts have been the right ones and I should just go with what my gut tells me....and my gut is telling me no action is the best action...he's a big boy and he has to sort out how he feels
I do think he likes me a great deal but I can't help him with that all I can do is sit and wait until he makes a move....most of the posts say he likes a challenge and likes neglect so really isn't it the smartest play of all....
He has been in my head for over a year now and I don't think that is going to change.....I feel he is the one and my gut tells me he thinks I am the one.....or maybe I should just go on medication at this point(lol)
And actually there is nothing wrong with meeting people on the internet...it just has not worked for me, as in the end people were not who I invisioned and I really think there has to be a chemical/physical connection....you can type and type and build them up in your head and then poof nothing....no spark...but I do have friends who it has worked for and really its just like having a pen pal(lol) I am all for trying all types of different avenues
Appreciate the input and any other info you can give with my situation.....not only is he a cancer but he is the only boy and a twin to boot and is 41 so there are many factors to consider....he once said to me he was looking for a wife or a maid....think he was just looking for a reaction....he didn't get one(lol)
I do think he likes me a great deal but I can't help him with that all I can do is sit and wait until he makes a move....most of the posts say he likes a challenge and likes neglect so really isn't it the smartest play of all....
He has been in my head for over a year now and I don't think that is going to change.....I feel he is the one and my gut tells me he thinks I am the one.....or maybe I should just go on medication at this point(lol)
And actually there is nothing wrong with meeting people on the internet...it just has not worked for me, as in the end people were not who I invisioned and I really think there has to be a chemical/physical connection....you can type and type and build them up in your head and then poof nothing....no spark...but I do have friends who it has worked for and really its just like having a pen pal(lol) I am all for trying all types of different avenues
Appreciate the input and any other info you can give with my situation.....not only is he a cancer but he is the only boy and a twin to boot and is 41 so there are many factors to consider....he once said to me he was looking for a wife or a maid....think he was just looking for a reaction....he didn't get one(lol)
I do think he likes me a great deal but I can't help him with that all I can do is sit and wait until he makes a move....most of the posts say he likes a challenge and likes neglect so really isn't it the smartest play of all....
He has been in my head for over a year now and I don't think that is going to change.....I feel he is the one and my gut tells me he thinks I am the one.....or maybe I should just go on medication at this point(lol) If I were U, don't ever fall into a gut level attraction type of feeling. Alot of times when U do, and when it wears off! That is all U R going 2 get. Period. Nothing fullfulling but circles and circles esp with a Cancer. Would I approach him. Um, if U do, push it and then pull off and distance yourself until the right time. He will reject it if U do though. So if U can't take rejection, I would not do it. However, if he rejects U, ignore him. He will find it fascinating 4 some reason. Oh and don't think U R going 2 get any fast results. If U push and pull U will go with the flow and stay the hell out of the way of the rollercoaster ride. Because U will call the shots.
And actually there is nothing wrong with meeting people on the internet...it just has not worked for me, as in the end people were not who I invisioned and I really think there has to be a chemical/physical connection....you can type and type and build them up in your head and then poof nothing....no spark...but I do have friends who it has worked for and really its just like having a pen pal(lol) I am all for trying all types of different avenues...No it is not. However, gut level attraction is dangerous and men don't feel it like women. They F and keep moving until they find something that can settle them down.
He has been in my head for over a year now and I don't think that is going to change.....I feel he is the one and my gut tells me he thinks I am the one.....or maybe I should just go on medication at this point(lol) If I were U, don't ever fall into a gut level attraction type of feeling. Alot of times when U do, and when it wears off! That is all U R going 2 get. Period. Nothing fullfulling but circles and circles esp with a Cancer. Would I approach him. Um, if U do, push it and then pull off and distance yourself until the right time. He will reject it if U do though. So if U can't take rejection, I would not do it. However, if he rejects U, ignore him. He will find it fascinating 4 some reason. Oh and don't think U R going 2 get any fast results. If U push and pull U will go with the flow and stay the hell out of the way of the rollercoaster ride. Because U will call the shots.
And actually there is nothing wrong with meeting people on the internet...it just has not worked for me, as in the end people were not who I invisioned and I really think there has to be a chemical/physical connection....you can type and type and build them up in your head and then poof nothing....no spark...but I do have friends who it has worked for and really its just like having a pen pal(lol) I am all for trying all types of different avenues...No it is not. However, gut level attraction is dangerous and men don't feel it like women. They F and keep moving until they find something that can settle them down.
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