IM SCARED

im alittle worried. things were going fine with my cancer friend.... and then i told him i wnated him to come over on saturday, but instead i ended up going away for the weekend and didnt tell him, my phone was left off but i notiCed he sent me a message on sunday aksing wut i was doing. when i got back from camping i txted him back syaing: sup buddy? and i got nothing.. then his sister calls me out and said she needed to talk to me badly.. she told me she had a break thru with her brother. basiclaly she hates him. she told me he called yelling at her for the car, but she came home late,n he left a message syaing: this is why ur a jerk , thisis why ur a bicth this is why i hate u cuz i need the en car. anywayz, finally she stood up to him, and told him off.. syaing hes her rbother but that doenst mean she wnats any sort of relationship with him, he is dad to her, etc etc, and then he came back and apologized to her syaing: well u never tell em wuts wrong, bla bla ( shes an aquarius) anywayz.. they went at it, and she said: i kno for a fact u treat ur firneds liek butter. u dont deserve to kno wut i kno about u. and then he went on aksing who she was tlkaing bout. n now im scared, becuase he knows i talk to her bout him.
so i txted him again this morninga nd called, and no answer. hes into his shell. but im scared he's pissed at me, or maybe hes still dwellin on wut his sister said to him.
im scared i broke his trust.

HOWEVER HE HAS TOLD ME IN THE PAST NOT EVERYTYHING HAS TO DO WITH ME. BUT I DONT UNDERSTAND IF SUMONE IS UPSET ABOUT SUMTHIGN ELSE, Y WONT THEY RESPOND OR TALK TO ANOTHER IF IT HAS NOTHIGN TO DO WITH THEM?

sry i mena she said: hes dead to her ( not dad to her)

lol Merc...he-bitch?

LLT after all this guy has put you through I can't believe you're still worried about it. Is this the guy with the girlfriend?

I wouldn't be so worried about what he's going through with his sister or him knowing that he knows that you talk to his sister about him. If he confronts you with it (which I doubt he will, he'll just think about it and be mad) then tell him the truth about it, that you were confused by his behavior and you needed to vent and ask questions so you went to his sister. He might not like it, but its the truth...

And as far as him not talking to you during shell time whether you created the need or not....there's nothing you can do about that and the most I can say is dont take it personal. That's just what they do. Rather, find a way to accept and deal with it. Don't try to stop it, dont try to change it, DONT stand outside the shell knocking and screaming (aka going to visit, asking 5498737 questions, calling and texting continuously)...I won't say leave him completely alone, I know my cancer appreaciates at least 1 "I was thinking about you" per day, but don't try to pry him out of his shell or even offer sympathy (I got pinched a couple times for that as he insisted "I KNOW how to deal with this" and ushered me away from his shell)

lol dont be too mean yall. I think she knows how to spell because all the right letter are there (most of the time) she just might need to slow down when typing or proof-read before she sends it off. Or she might just be a part of that study that shows that if you type a word with the correct letters as long as the first and last letter are correct it can still be read. For istnace wehn I tpye lkie tihs you're spupoesldy albe to raed it. lol...I don't know.

LLT slow down and proof-read, we can give you better advice and feedback if we know exactly what you're trying to say.

first off, i have dyslexia

thank you for the clarification LLT.

but thanks, i do type too fast and i am too lazy to try and go back to proof read. didnt kno it was a huge issue. i guess i will try harder next time. no problem.

second, thankyou sweetestfatale for your advice. i let it go, and jus carrie don about my day, and found that he had called me back later on this afternoon. so everything is fine.
i was jus curious about how to handle it when they r in their shell, and u helped me out, so thank-you 🙂

no problem, that is why i sometimes apologize for my spelling erros

you're welcome, Im glad I could help. I dont really see a need for you to apologize, I make plenty of spelling and even grammatical errors (as does everyone else), it happens.

but thanks, i do type too fast and i am too lazy to try and go back to proof read. didnt kno it was a huge issue. i guess i will try harder next time. no problem.

second, thankyou sweetestfatale for your advice. i let it go, and jus carrie don about my day, and found that he had called me back later on this afternoon. so everything is fine.
i was jus curious about how to handle it when they r in their shell, and u helped me out, so thank-you

don't worry ladie....everyone wants to say something about someone being so illiterate and all when I find grammical errors in everyones posts only simple people will pick up on simple things.