Insight please...

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This cancer guy who I've been seeing for a while on/off just cut the conversation dead while we were making plans for a date 3 weeks ago.
My Egois so bruised! Then today out of the blue he sends me a message acting like nothing happened! What's that all about? I just don't get it! I'm so angry lol why rejected somebody and then come back 3 weeks later? I really don't know if I should reply or not cos i can do without playing games like this lol!

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I'm in a very very similar situation, except I'm at the beginning of his disappearance.
I'll get back to you whether or not he contacts me again.

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I'm also an aries haha

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Posted by Claire
Posted by Aries82
This cancer guy who I've been seeing for a while on/off just cut the conversation dead while we were making plans for a date 3 weeks ago.
My Egois so bruised! Then today out of the blue he sends me a message acting like nothing happened! What's that all about? I just don't get it! I'm so angry lol why rejected somebody and then come back 3 weeks later? I really don't know if I should reply or not cos i can do without playing games like this lol!

He should really offer an explanation off his own back I think. Was this while you were actually 'together'?

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No, Off with a view to getting back on... Or so I had thought.
He had asked me if he could come to mine for the weekend about a month previous to this and i explained i had moved back in with my parents to start uni and they are old fashioned so they wouldn't allow him to stay over.. I told him I was going to be in his area a few weeks later and we could meet then and he seemed fine with it but we didn't set any dates. So he was then texting me hinting & flirting about me coming to see him so I gave him the date id be in the area and asked if he was free....He just didn't reply! Then gets in-touch 3weeks later.
I haven't yet wrote a reply to his email from yesterday and now he is texting and poking me on facebook :S I still don't know if I should or if i really want to reply.

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Posted by Claire
It does seem very strange. He asked to stay for the weekend so he must've really wanted that and now this??
I might ignore the email myself but if he kept on texting etc i'd prob ask him right out what he thinks he's doing poking me and such after that weird disappearing behaviour. I'd demand an explanation and he'd better have a good one.
Otherwise that would be just too off-putting, that kind of behaviour with no explanation. I'd feel like I was wasting my time on someone who wasn't returning my dedication .. and I would probably suggest just staying friends so I can date somebody else.

I've seen on his facebook that he has been aboard for 1 week visiting his daughter.He would have been leaving to go on this trip around the dates I wanted to meet.. I don't know the full situation with regards to his ex but i do know he was pretty hurt by her and I know it kills him that his daughter lives in a different country and he hardly ever get to see her.. So I imagine he has been having a hard time lately with this trip coming up... Now I could understand all the above if he had just not kept contact with me,but to flat out reject me? Lol its crazy!

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Posted by Claire
It doesn't really sound that crazy if you were on an off patch. I guess it depends how close you guys are too.

I could understand it if they spilt recent but i think it was around 10 years ago.. Maybe around 5 years since he last saw his daughter
I replied to his message asking why he rejected me and why he feels its ok to email/poke me.
His reply : i didn't reject you, but if you don't want me to talk to you then...
Hmmmmmmmmmm

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Posted by Claire
Ahhh. If he hasn't seen her for 5 years then his head must've been swimming in the whole thing. I would treat it as a really sensitive issue. Maybe he didn't mean to offend you at all.
'Rejected' is quite a strong word to use if somebody just didn't get back to you. Did he actually say he didn't want to see you??

@Aries82 -
Now here comes the real story...
I've got a lot of Aries in me so don't get offended... you are being a self-centered, egotistical bitch. You are not #1 right now, and if you ever want a man to make you #1, you better be ready to make HIM #1 as well.
You are competing and jealous of this guys daughter that he hasn't seen in 5 years. Get the fuck over yourself...

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Posted by shellshocker
Posted by Claire
Ahhh. If he hasn't seen her for 5 years then his head must've been swimming in the whole thing. I would treat it as a really sensitive issue. Maybe he didn't mean to offend you at all.
'Rejected' is quite a strong word to use if somebody just didn't get back to you. Did he actually say he didn't want to see you??

@Aries82 -
Now here comes the real story...
I've got a lot of Aries in me so don't get offended... you are being a self-centered, egotistical bitch. You are not #1 right now, and if you ever want a man to make you #1, you better be ready to make HIM #1 as well.
You are competing and jealous of this guys daughter that he hasn't seen in 5 years. Get the fuck over yourself...
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Lol! I'm not jealous of his daughter. I have been self centred and I do have some apologizing to do ... Thanks for giving it to me straight

lol