Is he interested or we are just FWB?

I'm so confused right now.. I need everyone's opinion especially from crab men 🙂

I've met this crab guy from a dating website almost 2 months ago...
I'm 30 and he just turned 39
We emailed couple times before he asked me out for a dinner
but then we ended up hanging out at his place and so did the next couple times
he either cooked for me or we ordered take out, and I did bake him a cake in return
Never been to a real dinner date but been to movie once... and that was it...
I understand that he has a busy schedule (he works for a very big company)
and has different work hours as mine, but he would still make time to meet me.
we never had a chance to hang out on weekends.. but was talking about planning one...

I would expect our relationship was just FWB, because he initially came on very strong
Then I thought, ok.. he's meeting me just for sex.. so I didn't expect much from him
but he would ask me to stay over, text me through out the day, never lost touch for one day
asked me to send him my photos and would send me his daily life pics, etc etc.
sometimes it bothers me that he asks for my sexy pics
to me, isn't that the bf/gf thing.. or I'm making a big deal out of it? lol

However, he never calls me. I know he's not a talkative person... plus it's still early stage of dating, so I shouldn't expect he opens up just yet? And maybe that's why he has little interest of how my life is? (which is a red flag, I know..) and also he still checks his dating profile (yes.. the evil active within 24 hours or online now)

He recently goes on a business trip in Europe but still keep in touch with me on a daily basis..
should I see that as a sign that he's interested or he's just keeping me stringing to be FWB?
I know it takes time for a cancer man to open up, but I would like to know.. is it worth to be patient with him or should I move on (with all the things that I pointed out)?

Sagi girl

There's nothing wrong with being a cheap distraction if that's what you want.

You're not a priority in his life. That means FWB unfortunately. If you're fishing for a real rela, you really don't want to be getting intimate with a man before getting to know them and developing an emotional connection. You harpooned your chances of getting to know him better by getting intimate too soon. But he's not the only fish in the sea. Cut bait and swim. Live and learn. That's what we're all doing.

I think he has a GF. He is most likely doing the same thing to her, and has the online profile to keep his options open. He's prob gotten so used to having two women, that even if he likes her (the GF) a lot, he needs the duality of having two. An outlet, if you will. Which is where you come in. He's spending his weekends with her, and they don't live together, so that's why he has you over, and only texts.

The next question is, why are you going to a guy's house that you just met online and only emailed a few times? No way girl! Meet him somewhere, have dinner, talk, let him see how fabulous you are, then get in your car and drive away. If he likes you, he'll reach out again, rinse, repeat. I'm not old fashioned by any means, but going to his house right off probably sent him the message that YOU wanted FWB. And why would you balk at sending him pics, yet sleep with him? Seems a bit backward.

I admit that I made the wrong decision by hanging out at his place on first date.
We were supposed to go out to a dinner, and I asked him where to park
(he lives in Jersey City and it's difficult to find a parking space) so he gave me his address..
But it was damn hot that day.. I remember it was 95 or something, so we agreed to order some take out
and that's how it ended up in his place.. It wasn't my intention.. but what's done is done..
Just for the record, we did not have sex at that time, although he tried...

I know I'm not his priority.. He put his work, family and friends before me
and I get it, because I'm the same way.. I wouldn't put a guy that I just met on first place
I'm not sure if he has a gf.. or he just lied to my face from the beginning
I asked him flat out on first date and he clearly stated that it's been a while since last relationship
of course I won't trust him blindly.. I've been hurt before and I don't wanna go through that again
I questioned him.. a guy like him shouldn't have any problem finding a girlfriend
and he said that work has been taking most of his time and he has same group of friends
so there's no really a good way to meet new girls
Whenever I text him at nights, he always text me back.. so I assume he's not dating other girls
or he's just being an a**hole not care about texting in front of them
At least when we were together, he's not texting anybody, only playing "words with friends"

However, I agree that we need a talk to see where we stand..
Although he seems to be a genuine guy and takes good care of me when we are together,
but you never know what's in his head unless we discuss it..

Now.. I know it's a silly question.. but is there any chance I can still turn the table around?
or I should just move on with no hesitation. Thanks!

Sagi Girl