Is he just in his Shell?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by shar on Wednesday, October 6, 2010 and has 9 replies.
I need some advice. I was dating a cancer man quiet seriously. I cared about him a lot, but I was a bit hesitant to dive into the relationship as quickly as he was since previous to dating him I had a bad experience with someone. He wanted to get married, but I wasn't ready yet. I ended up breaking-up with him since I needed some more time and space.
After taking some time to myself, I realized that I do want to marry him. I missed him. I tried to start the relationship back-up again, but he was too hurt that things had ended the first time. He seemed to feel crushed that I wasn't as ready as he was. I tried to explain to him that I just needed more time and that I was a little burned from a previous experience, but he wouldn't have it. He told me how much he cared about me, but that he just wasn't emotionally interested.
Later I found out that he decided to take a break from dating anyone for a few months after we had spoke when I tried to start the relationship back up. He also told someone I know that maybe he would reconsider in 6 months.
I don't understand what happened. We never had a bad momemnt, but he seemed so hurt by our break-up. Do I have any chance of getting him back?! What do I do? I don't understand how you crabs work. :/
Help!
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I would never get back with someone who broke up with me or even rejected me.
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Ok for starters bad move on your part I am a cancer girl and being broken up with after saying that they wanted to marry you is like purposely running you over with a car then saying you can call an ambulance your self but reguardless hope is not lost I bet he is just afraid of you hurting him again he is second guessing his feelings for you because if you didnt feel it then how could you feel it now? but again that is most likely how he feel he feels like he knew you and now he is not sure. so what you have to do is ease your way into his life again me personally and a lot of other cancers dont stay mad for long unless it is huge such as cheating. dont throw yourself at him because then he will feel presured and you will push him away more you have to earn his trust back and wait for him to come to you a text or a BRIEF call to see how he is doing in about a week will show him you still care and he will slowly but most certaintly open up to you if he calls you at all for anything you better be that one person who he can rely on! great way to get his trust back. but it is going to take time and if you loose your patience he will go right back in his shell. The best thing you can do is be genuinly sorry and dont bring it up wait for him to open up about it and it might not be for a long time. and when it does you need to make sure he knows that you know you made a mistake. patients is going to be everything it will be hard for him not to see you and not being in your dailey ruteen together. And dont believe his oh i am not dating for six months he is full of crap he is planning on being with you again he just needs time he wants you to prove yourself to him.
good luck let me know how it turns out
Meag
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And please dont not use my advise because of my age I honestly know a lot about astrology and i understand how he feels i have seen and been through many relationships and have read a lot about them. just trust me.
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Posted by meagjones
And please dont not use my advise because of my age I honestly know a lot about astrology and i understand how he feels i have seen and been through many relationships and have read a lot about them. just trust me.


lol, mss all i know cancer chick is here smile
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Thanks meagjones!
He seems so distant. I just wish I could make him understand how much I care about him. He's been on my mind since we first broke-up and I haven't dated anyone else. We'll see what happens.
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Posted by shar

I don't understand what happened. We never had a bad momemnt, but he seemed so hurt by our break-up. Do I have any chance of getting him back?! What do I do? I don't understand how you crabs work. :/
Help!


You asked for help. Here it is:
He wanted you. You chased him away.
Once bitten, twice shy. Bye-bye.
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@ meagjones
Hi ... I'm one of those terribly evil, horrible Scorpio guys people warn you about.
But I think you are beautiful on the inside, too.
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Posted by meagjones
Ok for starters bad move on your part I am a cancer girl and being broken up with after saying that they wanted to marry you is like purposely running you over with a car then saying you can call an ambulance your self but reguardless hope is not lost I bet he is just afraid of you hurting him again he is second guessing his feelings for you because if you didnt feel it then how could you feel it now? but again that is most likely how he feel he feels like he knew you and now he is not sure. so what you have to do is ease your way into his life again me personally and a lot of other cancers dont stay mad for long unless it is huge such as cheating. dont throw yourself at him because then he will feel presured and you will push him away more you have to earn his trust back and wait for him to come to you a text or a BRIEF call to see how he is doing in about a week will show him you still care and he will slowly but most certaintly open up to you if he calls you at all for anything you better be that one person who he can rely on! great way to get his trust back. but it is going to take time and if you loose your patience he will go right back in his shell. The best thing you can do is be genuinly sorry and dont bring it up wait for him to open up about it and it might not be for a long time. and when it does you need to make sure he knows that you know you made a mistake. patients is going to be everything it will be hard for him not to see you and not being in your dailey ruteen together. And dont believe his oh i am not dating for six months he is full of crap he is planning on being with you again he just needs time he wants you to prove yourself to him.
good luck let me know how it turns out
Meag


what happens if a cancer feamle breaks up with you says they need time and space is it over for good? there has been no problems in the realationship
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