Is he out for blood? Cancer Man seeking revenge on Aries Intern?

Hi i met this cancer man who is 7 years older than I am at his job. I am on an internship with a company that his company closely works with. He's 27 and i am 20 yrs old. He was quite charming and relentless in asking me for a date which we went on. During the date, things were going great. I started making a few jokes and in turn he got upset surprisingly. He ended it abruptly, said i was mean to him, started walking away and told me never to contact him again. I started shouting in the restaurant at him and i think i embarrassed him more. When i went to his workplace again after the incident, he would push me out of the way without saying excuse etc. When i was going up to another floor, he came into the elevator and another female was inside. He started flirting with her right in front of me and he asked her what she was doing this weekend.

Although i tried to act tough, his actions hurt me as i really liked him. What is bothering me is that i am feeling extremely uncomfortable with his behaviour being an intern.I have a bad feeling that he will continue and maybe even intensify his actions to hurt me, even physically. As an Aries, i don't mind warring but i hate fighting with people that i care about (even if it's a little). It's starting to get exhausting because i don't hold grudges for long.

Should i quit my internship? Everybody loves him as he has been there for long and to be honest, he is a nice guy to people on his good side. I just feel like his mind in on revenge and that bothers me.

Being cancers,can you advise me on what i should do? I don't want to apologize as he really hurt me whether he knows it or not, but, i just want peace between us.

What were the jokes?

This isn't a Cancer question...this is a life question...

you need to protect yourself first... ..then you need to make sure this internship helps propel you in your career (in that you do what you can to make sure this does not hurt you in any way)

He's petty...irrational...immature...mean-spirited...among other things I'm sure.

Can you enlighten us on what the conversation was about where he flew off the handle?

If he's entering an elevator to purposefully flirt with another woman in front of you, he doesn't seem approachable to discuss this.

Is there a long-time employee there, possibly a woman, who you can approach to ask for help/insight? I wouldn't bring this up but it would be wise to start making real friends and connections there. You don't have to go into detail regarding the incidences, but they might help you address it so you're not walking on eggshells.

Although he's 7 years older than you he sounds quite immature. I wouldn't want to be involved with him after this incident. My advice to you, is do a really good job at your job so that your skills speak for itself and hope that he isn't going around saying bad things to others about you. I'd hate for your future career opportunities to be bashed based on office politics.

Posted by Piscis_Hominis
This isn't a Cancer question...this is a life question...

you need to protect yourself first... ..then you need to make sure this internship helps propel you in your career (in that you do what you can to make sure this does not hurt you in any way)

He's petty...irrational...immature...mean-spirited...among other things I'm sure.

Can you enlighten us on what the conversation was about where he flew off the handle?

If he's entering an elevator to purposefully flirt with another woman in front of you, he doesn't seem approachable to discuss this.

Is there a long-time employee there, possibly a woman, who you can approach to ask for help/insight? I wouldn't bring this up but it would be wise to start making real friends and connections there. You don't have to go into detail regarding the incidences, but they might help you address it so you're not walking on eggshells.

I have no issues with somebody being romantic but he was just trying to hard to woo me by saying he sees his future In my eyes and a lot of other dramatic things. I don't know if it's my Aries nature, but I don't like too much flattery. I simply told him he's a lot to handle as in he was being too dramatic. I didn't even say it in a rude manner. When I realized he was offended I then told him sorry if my roughness offended him. I guess he thought I meant he wasn't manly enough to handle me... IDK. However, today when I went by his work place, I didn't know he was there. He only came out when I was leaving. When I saw him I turned my back. He then came into my space by acting like he was being helpful to someone else. Before I left again he came back but I saw him coming through the glass door so I turned my back and then when that happened, the company vehicle arrived to take me back to my work...sooooo I really don't know. However, I am relieved that there was no verbal or physical interaction today.

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Posted by Piscis_Hominis
This isn't a Cancer question...this is a life question...

you need to protect yourself first... ..then you need to make sure this internship helps propel you in your career (in that you do what you can to make sure this does not hurt you in any way)

He's petty...irrational...immature...mean-spirited...among other things I'm sure.

Can you enlighten us on what the conversation was about where he flew off the handle?

If he's entering an elevator to purposefully flirt with another woman in front of you, he doesn't seem approachable to discuss this.

Is there a long-time employee there, possibly a woman, who you can approach to ask for help/insight? I wouldn't bring this up but it would be wise to start making real friends and connections there. You don't have to go into detail regarding the incidences, but they might help you address it so you're not walking on eggshells.

I have no issues with somebody being romantic but he was just trying to hard to woo me by saying he sees his future In my eyes and a lot of other dramatic things. I don't know if it's my Aries nature, but I don't like too much flattery. I simply told him he's a lot to handle as in he was being too dramatic. I didn't even say it in a rude manner. When I realized he was offended I then told him sorry if my roughness offended him. I guess he thought I meant he wasn't manly enough to handle me... IDK. However, today when I went by his work place, I didn't know he was there. He only came out when I was leaving. When I saw him I turned my back. He then came into my space by acting like he was being helpful to someone else. Before I left again he came back but I saw him coming through the glass door so I turned my back and then when that happened, the company vehicle arrived to take me back to my work...sooooo I really don't know. However, I am relieved that there was no verbal or physical interaction today.

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Be pleasant and cordial to him. You don't have to go out with again...nor should you...but you do have to work with him...dont hang out with him at work...just be polite...be more mature than him...don't be too nice...but don't be avoiding him as long as he's not being rude or bothering you.