Is this a cancer thing?
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Klh1203 on Monday, January 13, 2020 and has 9 replies.
Hi guys, so I have a new love interest only been seeing him for 3 weeks. So far things have been going really well but I’m finding it hard to get him to open up so it’s making me very paranoid like he doesn’t like me enough.
He’s affectionate with me which is great and all, but communication wise our conversations aren’t long lasting enough for me like he doesn’t open up at all. He’s very intelligent and we can definitely talk for long but I am struggling to figure him out which makes me uncomfortable because I want to know his motive with me.
He has explained before that he isn’t looking for a relationship and he’s focused on his career but if he does find a relationship he’s open to it but he doesn’t want a woman who isn’t as hard working as him and constantly will cause stress or unnecessary arguments to his life.
So anyway we are currently seeing how things go but my problem is is that now we had sex for the first time, I’m starting to feel myself get attached and I feel like he’s just being the same as he was before we had sex towards me except he’s very very affectionate and more intimate with me now.
So I checked up his chart and he is a cancer, with an Aquarius moon and Leo mercury.
Is he a typical cancer or would it be his moon and Venus that is having an impact on this?
He’s affectionate with me which is great and all, but communication wise our conversations aren’t long lasting enough for me like he doesn’t open up at all. He’s very intelligent and we can definitely talk for long but I am struggling to figure him out which makes me uncomfortable because I want to know his motive with me.
He has explained before that he isn’t looking for a relationship and he’s focused on his career but if he does find a relationship he’s open to it but he doesn’t want a woman who isn’t as hard working as him and constantly will cause stress or unnecessary arguments to his life.
So anyway we are currently seeing how things go but my problem is is that now we had sex for the first time, I’m starting to feel myself get attached and I feel like he’s just being the same as he was before we had sex towards me except he’s very very affectionate and more intimate with me now.
So I checked up his chart and he is a cancer, with an Aquarius moon and Leo mercury.
Is he a typical cancer or would it be his moon and Venus that is having an impact on this?
Posted by MesquiteI’ve dated a cancer before and from the first week he knew he loved me lol but this one is holding back a lot
He's still not sure about you yet. You need more time to incubate the relationship.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by Klh1203Posted by Mesquite
He's still not sure about you yet. You need more time to incubate the relationship.
I’ve dated a cancer before and from the first week he knew he loved me lol but this one is holding back a lot
So you believe a more rational man will tell you he loves you within a week, yet think there’s something wrong with a guy that hasn’t said that after 3?click to expand
No it’s not that, in fact I would probably trust this new guy more than my ex. My ex was all words and went off whatever he was feeling at that present moment. My new guy friend is much more subtle and doesn’t like to make the first move unless you do.
Also I was comparing them both because they are both cancers. My experience with one cancer has been different to this cancer.
Posted by Arielle83My ex was the biggest liar ever, he apparently loved me and I was the best girl he’s ever dated (ended up cheating on me and stalked me after the break up for a year)Posted by Klh1203Posted by Arielle83Posted by Klh1203Posted by Mesquite
He's still not sure about you yet. You need more time to incubate the relationship.
I’ve dated a cancer before and from the first week he knew he loved me lol but this one is holding back a lot
So you believe a more rational man will tell you he loves you within a week, yet think there’s something wrong with a guy that hasn’t said that after 3?
No it’s not that, in fact I would probably trust this new guy more than my ex. My ex was all words and went off whatever he was feeling at that present moment. My new guy friend is much more subtle and doesn’t like to make the first move unless you do.
Also I was comparing them both because they are both cancers. My experience with one cancer has been different to this cancer.
Ya cancers love bomb. But that’s usually when they want something.
New guy doesn’t want a relationship. Sounds like he has his job as priority and dates to find his equal.
I get what he says when he wants someone to be as successful as him or have finances.
Cancer needs security and stability and won’t parent an adult.click to expand
This new one is very much like me, he’s independent and career focused which is exactly how I am. The only thing is I’m a Pisces so I wasn’t looking for love at all but then when I got involved with him sexually I kind of got distracted. He likes that I’m independent and I am always busy but now I feel like I have to keep that up when really all I want to do is just be cuddled up with him all day and call in sick from work. I know I need to get a grip lol. I just hope that this one works out because I really do like this one he’s very much like me and I know if I don’t rush things and give it time he will appreciate it so let me just go with the flow and enjoy
Posted by Arielle83Posted by Klh1203Posted by Arielle83Posted by Klh1203Posted by Arielle83Posted by Klh1203Posted by Mesquite
He's still not sure about you yet. You need more time to incubate the relationship.
I’ve dated a cancer before and from the first week he knew he loved me lol but this one is holding back a lot
So you believe a more rational man will tell you he loves you within a week, yet think there’s something wrong with a guy that hasn’t said that after 3?
No it’s not that, in fact I would probably trust this new guy more than my ex. My ex was all words and went off whatever he was feeling at that present moment. My new guy friend is much more subtle and doesn’t like to make the first move unless you do.
Also I was comparing them both because they are both cancers. My experience with one cancer has been different to this cancer.
Ya cancers love bomb. But that’s usually when they want something.
New guy doesn’t want a relationship. Sounds like he has his job as priority and dates to find his equal.
I get what he says when he wants someone to be as successful as him or have finances.
Cancer needs security and stability and won’t parent an adult.
My ex was the biggest liar ever, he apparently loved me and I was the best girl he’s ever dated (ended up cheating on me and stalked me after the break up for a year)
This new one is very much like me, he’s independent and career focused which is exactly how I am. The only thing is I’m a Pisces so I wasn’t looking for love at all but then when I got involved with him sexually I kind of got distracted. He likes that I’m independent and I am always busy but now I feel like I have to keep that up when really all I want to do is just be cuddled up with him all day and call in sick from work. I know I need to get a grip lol. I just hope that this one works out because I really do like this one he’s very much like me and I know if I don’t rush things and give it time he will appreciate it so let me just go with the flow and enjoy
Ya do that.
Get distracted when you’re away.
Then soon he’ll be the one to seek you.click to expand
This works sometimes. But once we have goals and we steadfast in it forget all dat lovey dovey shit. If you really interested in him support him in what he doing. Cancers love dat once u genuine . If he was really into u he would check up on u and take u out. Romance u. But he being cautious, very cautious.
Posted by Generous_LibraVenus is Gemini , and his Mars is cancer
What's his Venus and Mars?
Sounds like he's getting his needs met but you aren't 🤦 Interesting. But, he has also expressed that he's not interested in a relationship. So, why be confused? Seems he may be leaving the in-depth dialogue for someone whom he DEVELOPS an in-depth relationship with.
Posted by CancerAquaSaggYeah I can see that happening him being a playerPosted by Klh1203Posted by Generous_Libra
What's his Venus and Mars?
Venus is Gemini , and his Mars is cancer
I got Venus in Gemini too but men who have Venus in Gemini are players imo.click to expand
Khl 1203 all I can say is you decide what you want. Sometimes when you move on and forget it's better. If you were a priority he would move heaven n earth for you just to see u n make it serious.
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