is this scorpio done with me?
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by cuppycakesxo on Sunday, October 5, 2008 and has 15 replies.
so i broke up with my scorpio boyfriend a week ago
because he was always telling me i didnt care about our relationship.. when i really did. and he was flirting too much. so i ended it
i was angry at the time and he told me he wanted to be friends, and i completely shut him down. i said some hurtful things like leave me alone, etc. i was basically treating him like sht.
so a few days later (today)
i text him saying sorry and i really meant it i felt so bad and i was being sincere and telling him i still think we should be friends..
he text me back saying "whatever, im done with your sht"
then i text him again telling him that i tried, and i dont know what else to do.
he didnt reply, so are things over for good?
also, before we broke up he opened up to me and told me things
he told me how he was in love with me and wanted to be with me forever, so why would he say he wanted to be friends?
im a cancer btw.
because he was always telling me i didnt care about our relationship.. when i really did. and he was flirting too much. so i ended it
i was angry at the time and he told me he wanted to be friends, and i completely shut him down. i said some hurtful things like leave me alone, etc. i was basically treating him like sht.
so a few days later (today)
i text him saying sorry and i really meant it i felt so bad and i was being sincere and telling him i still think we should be friends..
he text me back saying "whatever, im done with your sht"
then i text him again telling him that i tried, and i dont know what else to do.
he didnt reply, so are things over for good?
also, before we broke up he opened up to me and told me things
he told me how he was in love with me and wanted to be with me forever, so why would he say he wanted to be friends?
im a cancer btw.
yea things over for gud Scorpios r very resentful i did sumthing to my friend and he never talk to me again so yea u did it it takes a very long time for them to forgive ppl
he was using reverse psychology on you to get you to end the relationship. Now you're convinced you weren't showing him enough love and affection, and he looks like he loved you so much and tried so hard but you were just too much to handle and didn't care enough about him.
I had the same problem a couple of years ago with my scorpio mate. When Scorpions say it's done, it's done. He might call for sex just because they love sex with Cancers like that. Trust me, I know. That sorry sht doesn't work with them. Cuppycakes go on with ur life I know ur hurtin, but u really have to live ur life.
dear cuppycakesxo,
there are 2 possibilities here:
1.if he is not mature enough then his pride will be in the way of getting back to you in any shape or form so do not be suprised if he will give you the cold shoulder....you hurt him and now he needs to regain back his confidence, which can be one of the resons that made him flirt(he could have had a personality complex when it came to the two of you being together);and
2.if he is mature enough then he will come back after a while and try and patch things up
the way you can tell what stage he is at.....is by the way he will act...if he will be waiting or let's say try to get revenge then reffer to situation no.1!!!
i hope i could help somewhat
good luck
there are 2 possibilities here:
1.if he is not mature enough then his pride will be in the way of getting back to you in any shape or form so do not be suprised if he will give you the cold shoulder....you hurt him and now he needs to regain back his confidence, which can be one of the resons that made him flirt(he could have had a personality complex when it came to the two of you being together);and
2.if he is mature enough then he will come back after a while and try and patch things up
the way you can tell what stage he is at.....is by the way he will act...if he will be waiting or let's say try to get revenge then reffer to situation no.1!!!
i hope i could help somewhat
good luck
I disagree.
If the Scorp told you he loved you and wanted to be with you forever, he really meant it. We are too serious and responsible to f**k with people's hearts like that.
The mistake you made was to shut him out. He completely opened his heart to you, and you slammed the door. He will never trust you again.
Cancer, there's only one thing I don't understand about you. It's like -- everything is relative when you get pissed. You say anything, do anything, and then you feel like you can crawl back in a few days. But we Scorps take words seriously. If one day you say you don't like us, then say "I want to be friends" a few days later, we will not feel like we have ground to stand on.
You blew it.
If the Scorp told you he loved you and wanted to be with you forever, he really meant it. We are too serious and responsible to f**k with people's hearts like that.
The mistake you made was to shut him out. He completely opened his heart to you, and you slammed the door. He will never trust you again.
Cancer, there's only one thing I don't understand about you. It's like -- everything is relative when you get pissed. You say anything, do anything, and then you feel like you can crawl back in a few days. But we Scorps take words seriously. If one day you say you don't like us, then say "I want to be friends" a few days later, we will not feel like we have ground to stand on.
You blew it.
The real message was: he felt you didn't care about the relationship.
Your response SHOULD have been: what can I do to convince you that I really do care?
Then the flirting would have stopped.
You might have brainstormed some ideas, some strategies: keep Saturdays only for us, plan a weekend away every three months, etc. etc.
Instead you chose to get angry, but not say why, leaving him completely in the dark. Indirectness does NOT work in relationships! If you Cancers were not so darned good, when you're good, no one could stand you!
Your response SHOULD have been: what can I do to convince you that I really do care?
Then the flirting would have stopped.
You might have brainstormed some ideas, some strategies: keep Saturdays only for us, plan a weekend away every three months, etc. etc.
Instead you chose to get angry, but not say why, leaving him completely in the dark. Indirectness does NOT work in relationships! If you Cancers were not so darned good, when you're good, no one could stand you!
What happened to this whole scenario?
I am a Scorp woman so curious to know.
Once someone screws me over/breaks up/plays mind games...it is OVER. Keep changing your mind and wanting me back, back and forth, it will only make it worse, I will despise you more.
If you tell me something bothering you straight up...I will try and fix it and listen.
I am a Scorp woman so curious to know.
Once someone screws me over/breaks up/plays mind games...it is OVER. Keep changing your mind and wanting me back, back and forth, it will only make it worse, I will despise you more.
If you tell me something bothering you straight up...I will try and fix it and listen.
well we were together for about three months? and in those 3 months i never saw him.. but we've known eachother for a long time. we never saw eachother because we live in different cities.
He continued to cheat. That's why things ended. He thought i was an idiot or something.
And the proof was right in my face. i saw the comments and things online, he didn't even bother to hide it.
and we would always fight. he always thought i liked two of my good guy friends, which i never did.
he was just paranoid.
i posted that entry a couple months ago but things have happeneed since then..
after i text him (from previous entry) he kept texting me every few days saying "i love you"
i wouldnt reply and he once told me he missed me and just said oh cool
then for another few weeks, i got nothing.
then out of the blue he texts me after all these long weeks and tells me he loves me
and that's when i tell him that i dont love him lke that (by that time i already got over him and the whole situation)
he always thought he was the victim and when we would argue, he would always bring up my faults and try to distract the confrontation.
we haven't spoken since, and i doubt we ever will.
He continued to cheat. That's why things ended. He thought i was an idiot or something.
And the proof was right in my face. i saw the comments and things online, he didn't even bother to hide it.
and we would always fight. he always thought i liked two of my good guy friends, which i never did.
he was just paranoid.
i posted that entry a couple months ago but things have happeneed since then..
after i text him (from previous entry) he kept texting me every few days saying "i love you"
i wouldnt reply and he once told me he missed me and just said oh cool
then for another few weeks, i got nothing.
then out of the blue he texts me after all these long weeks and tells me he loves me
and that's when i tell him that i dont love him lke that (by that time i already got over him and the whole situation)
he always thought he was the victim and when we would argue, he would always bring up my faults and try to distract the confrontation.
we haven't spoken since, and i doubt we ever will.
Hi Cuppy, went together for 3 months but never saw him?
You told him you didnt love him, you shut the door...time to move on.
Believe me, Scorps hate rejection so that's why he gave you dribs and drabs (the TM's in between). He'll be back just to see if he "can get a response". The best thing to do this time...don't reply, not even a "thats cool" or "I don't love you".
You told him you didnt love him, you shut the door...time to move on.
Believe me, Scorps hate rejection so that's why he gave you dribs and drabs (the TM's in between). He'll be back just to see if he "can get a response". The best thing to do this time...don't reply, not even a "thats cool" or "I don't love you".
yeah.. i never did see him.
But i think i pretty much moved on. It just took longer cause i didn't feel like i really had my closure.
When you say he will be back to see if he can get a response.. what do you mean?
i mean if i told him i don't love him.. shouldn't that make him leave me alone forever?
And one time in between all this (after we broke up)
he did message me telling me he missed me and asked how i was (he was acting like nothing happened) and when i replyed .. he never did.
Did he do this on purpose?
But i think i pretty much moved on. It just took longer cause i didn't feel like i really had my closure.
When you say he will be back to see if he can get a response.. what do you mean?
i mean if i told him i don't love him.. shouldn't that make him leave me alone forever?
And one time in between all this (after we broke up)
he did message me telling me he missed me and asked how i was (he was acting like nothing happened) and when i replyed .. he never did.
Did he do this on purpose?
"yeah.. i never did see him."
Meaning you NEVER SAW HIM (ie: met online but never met) or RARELY saw him?
The back and forth texting from him then *poof* is a sure sign he just wanted to make sure he still can have you on the back burner...it's an ego thing for him. He just makes a mental note, not meaning he wants to get toegther w/ you. If you never replied to his "I miss you how are you"...I betchya he would be hounding you.
Scorps love a challenge. The more you act disinterested, the more Scorps are interested...to a point it will piss us off if you ignore us....then become vindictive...ha!
He will leave you alone for a bit...then text you out of the blue to make sure you will respond. Once you do, the circle will continue...so just IGNORE him.
Meaning you NEVER SAW HIM (ie: met online but never met) or RARELY saw him?
The back and forth texting from him then *poof* is a sure sign he just wanted to make sure he still can have you on the back burner...it's an ego thing for him. He just makes a mental note, not meaning he wants to get toegther w/ you. If you never replied to his "I miss you how are you"...I betchya he would be hounding you.
Scorps love a challenge. The more you act disinterested, the more Scorps are interested...to a point it will piss us off if you ignore us....then become vindictive...ha!
He will leave you alone for a bit...then text you out of the blue to make sure you will respond. Once you do, the circle will continue...so just IGNORE him.
noo we've known eachother for 5 years, but i rarley ever saw him.
a mental note? lol that's a bit sillyy.. why would he want to keep me on the back burner?
i though scorps were serious in their relationships ..hmm
if i never responded to the i miss you thing.. why would he want to hound me if he wasnt trying to get back with me?
but he did text me later after that telling me he loved me (LOL) bi-polar.
lol well from now on, im going to IGNORE.
a mental note? lol that's a bit sillyy.. why would he want to keep me on the back burner?
i though scorps were serious in their relationships ..hmm
if i never responded to the i miss you thing.. why would he want to hound me if he wasnt trying to get back with me?
but he did text me later after that telling me he loved me (LOL) bi-polar.
lol well from now on, im going to IGNORE.
"..... why would he want to hound me if he wasnt trying to get back with me? "
Brcause that's the game men play no matter what sign. Especially one whom has an ego to fill. "Just testing the waters to see if she will bite and then I know I can still have her IF I WANT"
Scorps are serious if thay are in a SERIOUS relationship. If it is something casual, it is what it is. If you rarely saw each other this whole time, it's not so serious.
Good Luck! Ignore Ignore!
Brcause that's the game men play no matter what sign. Especially one whom has an ego to fill. "Just testing the waters to see if she will bite and then I know I can still have her IF I WANT"
Scorps are serious if thay are in a SERIOUS relationship. If it is something casual, it is what it is. If you rarely saw each other this whole time, it's not so serious.
Good Luck! Ignore Ignore!
Eh, idk about his seriousness part. i think he's cheated on every single girl he's been with.
but thank you
i shouldn't of messed with his feelings?
no he shouldn't have cheated on me.
but thank you
i shouldn't of messed with his feelings?
no he shouldn't have cheated on me.
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