Left cancer man and Im hurting..

Two weeks ago I decided to leave my boyfriend now ex of a year because the relationship consisted of lies from the beginning to end. He continued to keep contact with an ex, atleast I thought she was; a woman who tried to attack me on two occasions, she disrespected him in so many different ways, his family and he just continued to lie to me about their contact with eachother, he told me I had nothing to worry about but it was so hard to believe him because he had lied to me about this once before. At one point he after allowing him to use my cell phone because he didn't have one he would contact her and soon enough she had my telephone number and continued to harrass and tell me they were together etc. while he lied and claim he doesn't know how she got the number. He never once wanted to prove to me that nothing was going on. I have been through so much, the things that I have mentioned is the least. I told him in the beginning that I was afraid of getting hurt, and that's exactly what happened. Even though he lied about so many things I stayed with him giving him a chance. I hadn't had a chance to trust him because he betrayed me from the very beginning with situations with other women including his ex (so I thought she was). It was really bad, I had suffered from a great deal of anxiety while in this relationship. All I wanted was to be with someone that was ginuine,and honest and I ended up with a broken heart. I decided after arriving at his house an early monday morning realizing he wasn't home and had spent the night out, noticing the last number dialed on the house phone was to his ex, even though he told me he doesn't talk to her. I realized at that point I couldn't take the pain anymore, so I decided to write a note telling him it was over since I had no other way to contact him and hadn't spoken to him in two days for some reason.
Now I feel all alone, and sad; I often regret that I left him, even though I know leaving was the best decision. I feel that now he's living his life not caring which has always been his attitude towards me and the relationship. He may be having the time of his life. I want him to hurt the way he hurt me. Since breaking up with him I have changed my number, unfortunately I had to cut off contact with his family (they loved me, we were close)because it's the only way I feel I can get over this fast and easily. Its not as easy as I thought though.

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Glad to see I'm not the only one that believes in karma =) That's what kept me going with every single breakup I had with a Cancer man. Since they had such a nonchalant, uncaring attitude about the whole situation I felt like I was never loved by them in the first place. But I think that perhaps that that is just a front to cover up how they're truly feeling. Like I said in the last email I sent you when you treat others good, good things will come your way that are three times as great. When you're trifling and do others wrong you'll get it three times worse and the pain will be tripled. Have faith that one day he'll get what he deserves.

By the way, I wish I could change my number because out of the blue, guess who called last night?

Beautiful:
What you did was best and I know it hurt and hurts bad. You will come through this though. Just like everyone said, he will get payback for what he has done in some way. You have a lot to give, give it to someone WORTHY. I can relate because the man I'm with now also tried to pull something similar like this to me and it burned me up so bad that I told him that if he kept any contact with her whatsoever, it was over and he knew I meant business. My story is also similar because he too had been mistreated by her so there's was no way I was going to put up with him still allowing her to dangle him while with me.

You're going to make it through this🙂

OMG You would not believe it. My ex called my close friend, I forgot when we were together I typed up a resume for her (my close friend) and I left it on his pc, so that's how he got her telephone number. He called begging her to tell me to call him; So first it started off as us calling him on three way but he didn't want my friend to see the not so macho side. So I called and he tells me he's miserable without me, he can't focus, he's been distancing himself from others. He realized that I treated him so good and he f--ked up and he's sorry. And the thing with him is I think he knows the right things to say to get me. He told me that it will be no more restrictions, he will take me any and every where no matter what; as far as his ex he cut her off completely last week realizing that she was part of the problem and he know he was wrong. He says he realizes that after all this time that he really loves me and he's ready to be open with me and not hold anything or hide anything from me, he wants to let it all out, and be totally committed. Now the thing about it is this is not him, he's usually the one who is always nochalant remember just a few days ago I was saying "he's probably having the time of his life" and it seems like it's the total opposite. I'm scared and me being a cancer doesn't help, we are weak when it comes to things like this and I am right back in the trap, I am scared as hell that he will hurt me again. I told him that he will have to show me a lot and really fast because I am not waisting anymore time. He tells me he's willing to prove any and everything to me no matter what it takes, no matter what obstacles. I am still in shock and a lil disappointed because I was ok not talking to him even though I was hurting and it wasn't as bad as sitting back and being afraid of getting hurt again. I wonder what's in store now? I told him that he need to get his act together fast, the new year is right around the corner and I refuse to take old drama into the new year I want to start fresh. I love him and it's only been two weeks so this is really hard.

I hope everything works out for you.

It is hard to fall in love with someone and discover that they are being unfaithful...Whether directly or indirectly. Give things some time and if you feel as though he is not honoring his word. Then you have to "man-up" so to speak and distance yourself. That is the best way

I hope he does right by you. I hate to hear of emotional suffering...

Good Luck

Ok now that he went through calling my friend to get contact with me and I decided to give him another chance, it's as if it never happened. He's basically acting like we were together all along, like nothing ever happened. It's like dealing with a totally different person, just the other day he was oh so miserable a man with feelings and now he's back to having a nochalant attitude again.

Beautiful69,

I know too well how these men of many moods react. The only men that ever caught my attention and held it were Cancerians. Yes, they will adore you, charm, flatter, look at you like there is no other! Then BAM! They run in the opposite direction when the emotions are too overwhelming! They like to retreat and have "alone" time. When you do your own thing, they tend to crawl back with caution. I have wondered about this bahavior for years. I do see the patterns. If you are really in love with him, please don't come on too strong. He has to be the one to show you his love and devotion! Good luck!