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Oct 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 130 · Topics: 22
"i straight up told my cancer in the beginning...hey, i am interested in checking this out for a real relationship....not just a casual dating situation...so either you are n or out...either way....and i let him decide.."
did you really do that? i wouldn't have the courage too, lest i loose him
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''Just met the cutest Cancer guy. He's mature, has a sense of humor and we enjoy each other's company. The flirting has started getting heavy now, so was wondering is it a good match?''
Cancer dont overly flirt with women they are genuinely interested in. He probably does like you as a person.
Cancer men are great charmers and very good with words. Dont judge him by what he SAYS, but by his ACTIONS.
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Oct 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 130 · Topics: 22
That last tip really helps me, I quite easily believe what people say, take things at facevalue. Something which made me hang on my taurean for 16 months before realizing how he was all words and nothing more. And from a taurean to cancer. Pattern for wrong men?
I' have kind of backed away from this guy now (althou i still really like him), and he keeps calling all the time for random chats, he knows nothing about my knowing about his gf in states (something I found out from facebook). He mentioned his GF's name the other day, saying its a really close friend in new york I should meet when I'm there( which is next week).
There is a shift in our talks now, he used to blabber non-stop earlier, he's quieter now and listens alot!
P.S. - He doesn't share any damn thing! Its all jokes, and laughter, and things which would make me smile etc etc. And i don't wanna seem obvious and intrusive, by asking personal questions indirectly. He would understand, and that would leave me a little vulnerable =)
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Jan 09, 2008Comments: 0 · Posts: 563 · Topics: 10
Cancer men like joking around making people laugh. From the Cancers in my life and my partner who is Cancerian - he loves to talk a lot. I mean a LOT. About anything and everything,. He loves interaction.
Im sure your friend obviously likes you and enjoys your company if hes talking to you a lot.
Does he or has he shared any of his emotions/feelings with you?
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Or since I have become quite a closed shelf lately, he gets the idea that I'm disinterested?
If he has a girlfriend, then YOU should be disinterested. Why give your heart to another woman's man and YOU KNOW about her. He is obviously hiding it from you because he is after YOUR heart. I KNOW you have better things to do than to let a man who obviously is not living up to the plate capture your heart. Don't do it. He is in it for the thrill of capturing YOU not because he really wants you and you don't have time for that. Don't let him have your heart until he earns every bit of it or he will label you as easy.
Should I test him with jealousy?
Yeap, he has a woman so what do you have to lose. Leokitten I agree with you on some things but this one I DON'T. Don't purposely DO nothing to play games with him and MAKE him jealous. Do it because you don't have times for no male friends in your life who is only after your heart to feed his own ego.
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Oct 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 130 · Topics: 22
Okay so its gotten really weird since the last time I wrote in, and i honesty had no idea what to even write back in about which led to this gap.
I decided to back off for a while emotionally, just play along 'if' something happens. Meanwhile this boy has moved to london now, and he's started with his job. I graduate after four months. We still talk an insane lot, joking, if i'm not online or speak to him once a day he starts with all the questions about where the hell was i bleh bleh.. no time for him.
He still doesn't share much, although when I ask questions he answers them truthfully, but not willingly. He's got some issues with his sister, he dodged the question to what but the fact that he told me there 'are' issues and he's not close to her seemed like progress? lol ... please tell me, am I wasting time with this guy?
He still flirts, but i know tat doesn't mean anything, its just things he says for the heck of it.
Doesn't seem like we're headed anywhere, and honestly I'm not looking for friendship. And i'm tired of going on like this.
I've been advised by you ladies to not initiate anything, thus i DONT.
Else by now i would have prolly asked him out, got it all clear and done with, but I think that might scare a cancer off.. worked with an aries though lol.
I'm losing patience, what to do?
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Oct 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 130 · Topics: 22
Just one more thing to add - he does give me undivided attention, always has!
and that gf thing in states, turns out she's seeing someone else there so i KNOW that is over.
Is he just being the slow cancer that they are? Or he just wants to be friends?
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Oct 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 130 · Topics: 22
I'm in cardiff so we're basically just two hours apart.
Besides you told me to let him do the emotional declarations first, even if I got there months before him. Maybe i should just give it another week or so, and then be upfront about things, cause I don't wish to hang around things.
How do you tell if a cancer actually likes you and isn't just being a typical cancer?