If you are talking about the same Cancer dude who the other thread was about then No, don't tell him anything. Don't tell him you love him any more. He knows that already and he already said he didn't want to be with you so now you must be strong and get the hell away from him. If you can't do that, then at least walk with dignity and stop telling him all your feelings.
If he doesn't want a relationship with you then that means he wants to be in a friends with benefits situation where he could do whatever he wants and not commit to you. If you are cool with that then keep telling him all your stuff but if you want to have boundaries then you should protect yourself and walk away. If a relationship is important to you then don't ever settle for less unless you're cool with it being undefined for an indefinite time.

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Omg no is it eck about him lol no I let my friend use my account her partner is a cancer and shes been with him a year now I think I told her this site gives pretty good advice so she could use my account, trust me I like my cancer but don't love him!! And he didn't rejected me I upset him and he was giving mixed messages and we are fine now! Thanks

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Posted by geminibunny
If you are talking about the same Cancer dude who the other thread was about then No, don't tell him anything. Don't tell him you love him any more. He knows that already and he already said he didn't want to be with you so now you must be strong and get the hell away from him. If you can't do that, then at least walk with dignity and stop telling him all your feelings.
If he doesn't want a relationship with you then that means he wants to be in a friends with benefits situation where he could do whatever he wants and not commit to you. If you are cool with that then keep telling him all your stuff but if you want to have boundaries then you should protect yourself and walk away. If a relationship is important to you then don't ever settle for less unless you're cool with it being undefined for an indefinite time.

If this is true, why tell the guy you love him? Is it in the belief that someone it will change his mind? I think any guy, if he's not interested and gets this, is either do the FWB thing or run in the opposite direction. It's not really a zodiac thing.

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No it's not at all about him omg not even been with him that long to love him jeez!! I let my friend use my account bloody hell wish I'd not now lol

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Usually am taken aback if it's too early.
But I love a man who isn't afraid to express himself, show his feelings and verbalize them as well.

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I used to kick it with a Cancer when i was younger around my teen years, and told him i loved him first, he didn't act funny towards me or anything, I think he was very sweet and understanding about it because we were friends above all else, and he genuinely cared about me. Even though he was very sweet and stuff, he didn??t say it back for years. I mean years in literal terms. However once I said it, he wanted to hear it all the time. Sometimes we??d go months or weeks without speaking, and then reconnect somehow and the first thing he??d want to know is if I still felt like I loved him. I think he wanted to make sure I really meant it before he said it back. That continued all the way up until our 21 birthday, by then we??d known one another for about 9-10 yrs, and he finally said ???I love you too??. I was like, WOW that didn??t take long at all -__-. Be patient with these ones. If you want to hear it back, I suggest you let him say first. Surprisingly though it didn??t even hurt my feelings that my Cancer didn??t say it back, it showed that he loved me back by his actions, he was just scared to actually confirm it with words I guess.

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If she says, "I love you thecontender" before I do I'm either going to be confused, creeped the fuck out or doing the jig that our level of investment in the relationship isn't one sided.

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That's why I'll never say it first. Why make everything uncomfortable?

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Posted by Scorsagian21
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If she says, "I love you thecontender" before I do I'm either going to be confused, creeped the fuck out or doing the jig that our level of investment in the relationship isn't one sided.

So are you saying as a cancer man, you would rather tell the woman first you love her?
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not that i would "rather" but that's just more or less how it usually plays out.

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