Love or fling with a CANCER MAN!

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by LovelyLeeLeo88 on Thursday, February 21, 2013 and has 19 replies.
Around thanksgiving I was just getting over a one sided friendship with a guy I cared about. Anyway in short time after I met my cancer man online. We talked for a few weeks, mostly about how some dont want a real relationship and how things are the same now a days. He asked me to be his girlfriend and because of the last guy I declined and ask to keep things online, he didnt let up on that. Matter of fact he kept on trying, I gave him all my bad traits as a LEO woman. Even just bad personal things but he wouldnt take no as an answer. I gave in after a week and it was ok. He begged for my trust and love and I slowly gave in to it. Then I seen something questionable but small online between him and another girl. We went back and forth for a week and again he reassured me that it was nothing and he want to make things work with me. The sex was great and we always felt so comfortable with each other. From then he deleted all social network profiles and spent every other day with me. Everything was great and i found out a lot about his exes and family which made me love him and want to help him find healing in his past. His brother came and moved in for a week and cause nothing but trouble. He stalked bout how my cancer use to be and all the bad things he did to his exes and his family. I could tell that it was very much bothering my cancer but he started to shut down on me. He wouldnt talk to our spent time with me like we did. Every time i shared my feelings and look for comfort in him he wasnt there for me or he was rude and disrespectful. There was times we had differences and i would tell him that it hurt my feelings and he would not understand why i was hurt and blame it all on me. The more he said his family was treating him bad he treat me bad. One day he sat me down and told me he was a mean person and he knew he was a terrible boyfriend cause thats what his exes and family said. And also was telling me that i shouldn't and he doesn't want me to cater to him anymore. That he would stop trying to be my prince charming. I seen female glasses in his car and he rudely and disrespectfully broke up me for a small thing. I am beyond hurt for loving my cancer but oddly want him back. Was it just crap from the beginning or was our love just fell apart??? I cried for weeks and yet i think it could be a lie i feel in love with him but want him back. He doesnt answer my calls, text or emails
HELP ME PLZ!!!
I forgot about helping him cause it really had got to the "omg why are you talking bout that" point with us. When it was great it was great. I miss the good times and all the imaginary issues that came spun me in circles. Im a leo you dont tell us that we are insecure cause we surely are not and you dont break our prides. With that he is on my bad side but i want to love him from a far cause he is very unstable.
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Posted by xxnightbynightThey can't be helped by anyone else other than themselves... and maybe their mothers. ;-p


Ouch!! Low blow...Tongue
Posted by incandescentcancer
Wall of text, didn't read...


For this to be effective it really should be
"tl;dr"
Big Grin
But I guess it was more about format than length. Soooo - be neverminding me.
Posted by deezie
Posted by incandescentcancer
Wall of text, didn't read...


For this to be effective it really should be
"tl;dr"
Big Grin
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Ok Ms. Virgo Tongue
hahahah it was a very Virgo thing to do, wasn't it?
And a Pisces thing to do: thread derailment!

Posted by deezie
And a Pisces thing to do: thread derailment!



Random GIFs check in thread derailment.....Tongue. Now totally unconnected pics of fishes or the ocean are due Tongue.
hahah - don't take away from the relevancy of the gif!! It's not THAT random. There is DEEP, deep symbolism there. Appreciate! Also... the unconnected fish pics and stuff.... nahhh not my style . My personal derailments are their own breed.

thankyouverymuch!
Posted by deezie
hahah - don't take away from the relevancy of the gif!! It's not THAT random. There is DEEP, deep symbolism there. Appreciate! Also... the unconnected fish pics and stuff.... nahhh not my style . My personal derailments are their own breed.

thankyouverymuch!


You must teach me this symbolism Tongue Tongue. Oh I do give you credit for having your own brand of everything Winking

Well i was looking for real help here.
Posted by xxnightbynight
let it go, lovely... let it go.
He will come back if and WHEN he's ready... but honestly, is it HIM that you want or the idea of FIXING/HELPING him?
You can't. He needs to do that on his own. I had similar issues w/ a cancer... lol. They can't be helped by anyone else other than themselves... and maybe their mothers. ;-p


Real help....
Posted by LovelyLeeLeo88
With that he is on my bad side but i want to love him from a far cause he is very unstable.


You know what you want to do, and how you feel about the situation.... so what kind of real help do you need here?
I'm confused at what you still need/want to hear.
Posted by LovelyLeeLeo88

Well i was looking for real help here.


Try again in paragraphs...smile
Hey lovely Leo. All you can really do in this situation is tell him exactly how you feel and how much you care about him, and let him know that you will be there for him. Then you have to accept the fact that it might not work out after all and you have to start doing your own thing. If he wants you he will come back around. Good Luck
thank u seeing stars
Posted by Poisson
Posted by incandescentcancer
Posted by LovelyLeeLeo88

Well i was looking for real help here.


Try again in paragraphs...smile


LOL! People underestimate the power of visual breaks when it come to writing. When I see a big chunk of texts my eyes are already tired even before I start reading...
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I can't read it at all, it means nothing to me. No useful information is ever conveyed like that....but you're right most people underestimate the value of visual breaks. *sigh*

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