Me & My CANCER EX Recently Forgive Each Other

Do you still remember the Cancer guy who made me cry and so broken when we separate? I posted a long thread about him here.
Last week..suddenly I saw his name online..after 4 months of no communications, and I feel all the hurt I felt back in March 2011 when we separated. So I sent him a text..saying that I am still angry at him and that I can't forgive him.
We texted back and forth and he called me, listened to my anger..and he said that if I keep being like this, he wouldn't want to talk to me anymore.

I feel a big burden being lifted after I let out my anger burst at him verbally. Suddenly a text came in...a text that made me cry..
"Kristal, please don't think that you're the only one who's hurting, because I am hurting too, every single day..I still remember everything until now..I can't forget us. Everything is my mistake. I am sorry"
The text made me cry..I cried for awhile..and decided that it's ENOUGH to be angry. I want to be at peace, I want to remember him as a fun, caring loving guy..which he was. We had amazing memories and he always made me laugh.

So, I texted him "I want to stop being angry. I have been angry too long. Let's forgive each other and be friends."

Then he called me again. He said, he already forgive me long time ago. He also said that he's in a new town now, and starting his life from zero. We were talking like best friends on the phone and I feel a warm fuzzy feeling in my heart. A burden has been lifted, pain was healing. He said that he miss me, and he missed us, but now we both have to focus on our goals in life, which I agreed.

I don't want him back as my boyfriend, though..because I've changed. But I am glad that we both forgive each other and are in good terms. It feels good.
I just want to share this with you all. In spite of all the hurt I felt when we separated, I have to admit that Cancers are very sweet and thoughtful inside.
Now I can look back and remember us with a smile 🙂 instead of the usual frown 😢

Good for you! That's great, it's a huge breakthrough! Well done. I'm glad you have a smile instead of a frown. This is a great post! (Ignore the nay-saying insulters).

Excellent post! This is the way it should be at the end, but rarely is. You have done something that I would love to do but there has been too much water under the bridge. One day I hope to find peace with the situation.

Cancers sometimes get jealous of Aries because u all have a natural confidence in yourself and we don't. We sometimes enjoy exposing your weak spots when we are angry at you so just take it as that.We can be really cruel with Aries sometimes because we so desperately want you knock you down a peg.

@NZAqua--thanks! Yes..it feels so much better & what a relief knowing that this anger is dissolving..

Moonbeam--I wish you can also have a peaceful solution..it definitely feels much better than keeping the anger and hurt..but yeah..I was carrying the anger and hurt for a long time..and everytime it made me cry & emotional..up to a point that I got so tired..I don't want to feel those emotions anymore.

Hightide -- haha..LOL yea the break up was very painful for me..thanks for the insight regarding Cancer-Aries..I admit we both are opposite elements..fire & water 😉

Cancerianclaw -- you're welcome *hugs*

UPDATE

Well..apparently..forgiving each other..is the pathway to getting back together..:o
Life is so full of surprises...damn..I am still amazed!
I used to be a person of grudge, I always burn bridges with my ex lovers..I keep anger and resentment inside me..
For the first time in my life.., with Mr.Cancer..I realize that..I am TIRED of keeping this anger and grudge and I just want to forgive and forget and remember him as the good person he is...

Honestly..it feels so good to let go of that grudge & anger..