Mimicking and manipulation

My cancer man seems to mimic a lot. He texts things that I text him. He doesn't call me back if I don't call him back on time and so forth.

The one thing that I've noticed that he does is turning my complaints about him around on me. For example, if I say why didn't you call me back, he will say "I'm tired of waiting for you to call". Or if I say that he did something I didn't like, he will tell me that I'm doing it. I'm so confused. Is this typical cancer male manipulation?

Push and pull, manipulation, games, mother.

Sounds about right. Ate you crabs always like this? Is it better if I confront him about this behavior, or should I do I back to him? How does anybody have a good relationship with a cancer man? It a complete mindf**k

I think crabs are hyper-allergic to any form of criticism. Especially from their partner. If you want to be in a happy relationship with a cancer man you gotta dial back the criticisms and coach them in the absolute least critical way. I know I have a hard time with being criticized. I take it way too personally. Still, I go into my shell, think about what was said and do my damnest to do better if I feel there's a valid point there. Bottom line, go gently with criticism. All us crabs hate it!

As for the push and pull, don't know how long you've been together but that's normal behavior in the beginning. It's scary for a man to put his heart out there. If he feels threatened or unsure in any way, he'll retreat. Sometimes he'll retreat just to recharge in the bat cave. Try not to read too much into it unless, of course, it's one of many things that aren't adding up for you in this relationship. Relationships are tough. Good luck!

PS: Mirroring isn't a bad thing. He's trying to go with your flow. Manipulation? Not sure about that. Sounds like he's being overly defensive to criticism. And that's a HUGE weakness for Cancers. I'm seriously NOT exagerating when I say we HATE any form of criticism. Makes us damn hard to live with sometimes. Yeah you prolly got your work cut out for you but we are very loyal and loving partners.

Posted by silentkiller
Mimic? Do you Guys mimic like aaaall the way? If I do something, you do it too, and then multiply it by ten? (or a thousand?😉)

that's kinda my experience; Things get turned around. And then over-done. It makes it very difficult yes, because that Means, that you Guys can make mistakes and get really hurt or angry, if someone points them out, but at the same time, you can be very quick to point out other people mistakes and keep on remembering them and talking about them, and in my personal experience, the cancer even started telling what happened totally different, than what actually happened. It's very weird - and confusing. And tough. (but probably you are the only ones who can make up for it, ??cause you??re so darn sweet sometimes😄)

Are cancers revengefull? When they get over being hurt or in the process of getting over hurt? (as for example scorpio is)

Yes, unfortunately Cancers can be very irrational when hurt. And we get easily hurt. Sometimes that does turn to revenge...the hot under the collar kind that embarrasses the fuck out of you for years. But life is all about growing and evolving. Cancers need to learn how to reign in our feelings and be open to criticism from loved ones as it's inevitable. We're all learning.