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Much Needed Advice on how to deal w. this Particular Cancer Guy!
Any & all advice would be much appreciated on how to deal w. this particular Cancer guy. I say "particular" b.c of the simple fact that he's from what I know of in a stressful, 3yr long distance (5,000 miles) relationship. I don't know his star details besides the fact his birthday is June 29th. Btw, I'm a Taurus/Gemini cusp (May 21).
I'll try to make the story of how I met him & the stage that I'm now in as short as possible.
Met the guy....let's call him "B" about a yr & a half ago through a friend at a company party. After a few drinks, let's just say I was clearly attracted to him & had no problem being bit of the aggressor, which he didn't seem to mind. After finding out that he was in a relationship that clearly didn't deter him from talking to me & getting my # by the end of the night.
The next day my friend that had invited me told me B asked her if she's "ever cheated before." At first I said, "ok, maybe B is secretly interested in you," but my friend assured me that wasn't the case as B knows she's in a serious relationship of her own & was asking b.c he didn't know whether to act on my flirty behaviour.
In any case, we both kept in touch w. innocent txting here & there getting to know eachother, but naturally it grew less & stopped (he was going to see his gf for a few days & I had gotten back w. an ex). Mind you, the txts were mostly him asking the questions & me getting vague answers from my questions to him, which I hear is a typical Cancer trait.
Fast forward....a yr later, I'm newly single. I was casually seeing someone at the time, but nothing serious. My friend again, invites me to their annual company party & I tag along not caring that I would see B again. When getting there everyone had recognized me from the yr before & was teasing me on how B should be coming shortly.
Not long after, B arrives & we both just say "hello" to eachother & keep it moving. As the night progressed people kept trying to get B & I together whether it was pushing me towards him or having us dance w. eachother. At one point, my friend kept telling me how B would constantly look at me w. out me noticing, but that was hard to believe since he seemed pretty distant throughout the night.
I ended up leaving early & by the time I got home my phone was dead. After charging it for a bit I turned it on to a pleasant surprise.
I had received several txts & missed calls from my friend saying how B keeps txting her to get me to come back to the party. She then told me she told him to ask me himself since he should still have my #. Which brings me to the next txt I saw from a foreign number asking "same #?" I naturally deleted his # when the txting stopped a yr ago, but w. an obvious txt like that from a distinct area code...it was obvious it was him. & after a long night of drinking I stupidly continued txting him that night & up until now.
The reason y I even decided to rebuild the contact was b.c he surprised me remembering things I've told him in the past e.g. fear of flying, food favorites & that really struck a chord w. me.
But I have to say he is one confusing Cancer to say the least. I know they're hardly upfront w. anyone they have feelings for & will rarely make the first move, not to mention one of the most loyal signs in the zodiac especially if they're taken!...but then y hit me up everyother weekend asking if i'm out & if we do happen to meetup be so attentive & touchy! Are the things people telling me true? Is he growing feelings for me?
My main concern is that we're gonna go through the same cycle of losing contact yet again & I don't want that this time around. The Taurus in me would normally take the reigns & initiate something, but he's still w. his gf! His coworker & our mutual friend keeps telling me they're relationship has been a real struggle due to the distance & he's about had it w. her supposedly immature personality, butttt that still doesn't change the fact that they're still together. Nothing will pump my brakes more if the guy is taken.
Does my cancer guy even like me or am I just some sort of temporary distraction while his gf is 5,000 miles away? I've read several topics on here about how Cancer guys aren't just going to reach out & wanna rekindle staying in touch w. just any girl without feeling a way towards them. Is he ever gonna break things off w. his gf? Lastly, am I fooling myself & should I stop contacting him altogether??
I'll try to make the story of how I met him & the stage that I'm now in as short as possible.
Met the guy....let's call him "B" about a yr & a half ago through a friend at a company party. After a few drinks, let's just say I was clearly attracted to him & had no problem being bit of the aggressor, which he didn't seem to mind. After finding out that he was in a relationship that clearly didn't deter him from talking to me & getting my # by the end of the night.
The next day my friend that had invited me told me B asked her if she's "ever cheated before." At first I said, "ok, maybe B is secretly interested in you," but my friend assured me that wasn't the case as B knows she's in a serious relationship of her own & was asking b.c he didn't know whether to act on my flirty behaviour.
In any case, we both kept in touch w. innocent txting here & there getting to know eachother, but naturally it grew less & stopped (he was going to see his gf for a few days & I had gotten back w. an ex). Mind you, the txts were mostly him asking the questions & me getting vague answers from my questions to him, which I hear is a typical Cancer trait.
Fast forward....a yr later, I'm newly single. I was casually seeing someone at the time, but nothing serious. My friend again, invites me to their annual company party & I tag along not caring that I would see B again. When getting there everyone had recognized me from the yr before & was teasing me on how B should be coming shortly.
Not long after, B arrives & we both just say "hello" to eachother & keep it moving. As the night progressed people kept trying to get B & I together whether it was pushing me towards him or having us dance w. eachother. At one point, my friend kept telling me how B would constantly look at me w. out me noticing, but that was hard to believe since he seemed pretty distant throughout the night.
I ended up leaving early & by the time I got home my phone was dead. After charging it for a bit I turned it on to a pleasant surprise.
I had received several txts & missed calls from my friend saying how B keeps txting her to get me to come back to the party. She then told me she told him to ask me himself since he should still have my #. Which brings me to the next txt I saw from a foreign number asking "same #?" I naturally deleted his # when the txting stopped a yr ago, but w. an obvious txt like that from a distinct area code...it was obvious it was him. & after a long night of drinking I stupidly continued txting him that night & up until now.
The reason y I even decided to rebuild the contact was b.c he surprised me remembering things I've told him in the past e.g. fear of flying, food favorites & that really struck a chord w. me.
But I have to say he is one confusing Cancer to say the least. I know they're hardly upfront w. anyone they have feelings for & will rarely make the first move, not to mention one of the most loyal signs in the zodiac especially if they're taken!...but then y hit me up everyother weekend asking if i'm out & if we do happen to meetup be so attentive & touchy! Are the things people telling me true? Is he growing feelings for me?
My main concern is that we're gonna go through the same cycle of losing contact yet again & I don't want that this time around. The Taurus in me would normally take the reigns & initiate something, but he's still w. his gf! His coworker & our mutual friend keeps telling me they're relationship has been a real struggle due to the distance & he's about had it w. her supposedly immature personality, butttt that still doesn't change the fact that they're still together. Nothing will pump my brakes more if the guy is taken.
Does my cancer guy even like me or am I just some sort of temporary distraction while his gf is 5,000 miles away? I've read several topics on here about how Cancer guys aren't just going to reach out & wanna rekindle staying in touch w. just any girl without feeling a way towards them. Is he ever gonna break things off w. his gf? Lastly, am I fooling myself & should I stop contacting him altogether??
Any & all advice would be much appreciated on how to deal w. this particular Cancer guy. I say "particular" b.c of the simple fact that he's from what I know of in a stressful, 3yr long distance (5,000 miles) relationship. I don't know his star details besides the fact his birthday is June 29th. Btw, I'm a Taurus/Gemini cusp (May 21).
I'll try to make the story of how I met him & the stage that I'm now in as short as possible.
Met the guy....let's call him "B" about a yr & a half ago through a friend at a company party. After a few drinks, let's just say I was clearly attracted to him & had no problem being bit of the aggressor, which he didn't seem to mind. After finding out that he was in a relationship that clearly didn't deter him from talking to me & getting my # by the end of the night.
The next day my friend that had invited me told me B asked her if she's "ever cheated before." At first I said, "ok, maybe B is secretly interested in you," but my friend assured me that wasn't the case as B knows she's in a serious relationship of her own & was asking b.c he didn't know whether to act on my flirty behaviour.
In any case, we both kept in touch w. innocent txting here & there getting to know eachother, but naturally it grew less & stopped (he was going to see his gf for a few days & I had gotten back w. an ex). Mind you, the txts were mostly him asking the questions & me getting vague answers from my questions to him, which I hear is a typical Cancer trait.
Fast forward....a yr later, I'm newly single. I was casually seeing someone at the time, but nothing serious. My friend again, invites me to their annual company party & I tag along not caring that I would see B again. When getting there everyone had recognized me from the yr before & was teasing me on how B should be coming shortly.
Not long after, B arrives & we both just say "hello" to eachother & keep it moving. As the night progressed people kept trying to get B & I together whether it was pushing me towards him or having us dance w. eachother. At one point, my friend kept telling me how B would constantly look at me w. out me noticing, but that was hard to believe since he seemed pretty distant throughout the night.
I ended up leaving early & by the time I got home my phone was dead. After charging it for a bit I turned it on to a pleasant surprise.
I had received several txts & missed calls from my friend saying how B keeps txting her to get me to come back to the party. She then told me she told him to ask me himself since he should still have my #. Which brings me to the next txt I saw from a foreign number asking "same #?" I naturally deleted his # when the txting stopped a yr ago, but w. an obvious txt like that from a distinct area code...it was obvious it was him. & after a long night of drinking I stupidly continued txting him that night & up until now.
The reason y I even decided to rebuild the contact was b.c he surprised me remembering things I've told him in the past e.g. fear of flying, food favorites & that really struck a chord w. me.
But I have to say he is one confusing Cancer to say the least. I know they're hardly upfront w. anyone they have feelings for & will rarely make the first move, not to mention one of the most loyal signs in the zodiac especially if they're taken!...but then y hit me up everyother weekend asking if i'm out & if we do happen to meetup be so attentive & touchy! Are the things people telling me true? Is he growing feelings for me?
My main concern is that we're gonna go through the same cycle of losing contact yet again & I don't want that this time around. The Taurus in me would normally take the reigns & initiate something, but he's still w. his gf! His coworker & our mutual friend keeps telling me they're relationship has been a real struggle due to the distance & he's about had it w. her supposedly immature personality, butttt that still doesn't change the fact that they're still together. Nothing will pump my brakes more if the guy is taken.
Does my cancer guy even like me or am I just some sort of temporary distraction while his gf is 5,000 miles away? I've read several topics on here about how Cancer guys aren't just going to reach out & wanna rekindle staying in touch w. just any girl without feeling a way towards them. Is he ever gonna break things off w. his gf? Lastly, am I fooling myself & should I stop contacting him altogether??
I'll try to make the story of how I met him & the stage that I'm now in as short as possible.
Met the guy....let's call him "B" about a yr & a half ago through a friend at a company party. After a few drinks, let's just say I was clearly attracted to him & had no problem being bit of the aggressor, which he didn't seem to mind. After finding out that he was in a relationship that clearly didn't deter him from talking to me & getting my # by the end of the night.
The next day my friend that had invited me told me B asked her if she's "ever cheated before." At first I said, "ok, maybe B is secretly interested in you," but my friend assured me that wasn't the case as B knows she's in a serious relationship of her own & was asking b.c he didn't know whether to act on my flirty behaviour.
In any case, we both kept in touch w. innocent txting here & there getting to know eachother, but naturally it grew less & stopped (he was going to see his gf for a few days & I had gotten back w. an ex). Mind you, the txts were mostly him asking the questions & me getting vague answers from my questions to him, which I hear is a typical Cancer trait.
Fast forward....a yr later, I'm newly single. I was casually seeing someone at the time, but nothing serious. My friend again, invites me to their annual company party & I tag along not caring that I would see B again. When getting there everyone had recognized me from the yr before & was teasing me on how B should be coming shortly.
Not long after, B arrives & we both just say "hello" to eachother & keep it moving. As the night progressed people kept trying to get B & I together whether it was pushing me towards him or having us dance w. eachother. At one point, my friend kept telling me how B would constantly look at me w. out me noticing, but that was hard to believe since he seemed pretty distant throughout the night.
I ended up leaving early & by the time I got home my phone was dead. After charging it for a bit I turned it on to a pleasant surprise.
I had received several txts & missed calls from my friend saying how B keeps txting her to get me to come back to the party. She then told me she told him to ask me himself since he should still have my #. Which brings me to the next txt I saw from a foreign number asking "same #?" I naturally deleted his # when the txting stopped a yr ago, but w. an obvious txt like that from a distinct area code...it was obvious it was him. & after a long night of drinking I stupidly continued txting him that night & up until now.
The reason y I even decided to rebuild the contact was b.c he surprised me remembering things I've told him in the past e.g. fear of flying, food favorites & that really struck a chord w. me.
But I have to say he is one confusing Cancer to say the least. I know they're hardly upfront w. anyone they have feelings for & will rarely make the first move, not to mention one of the most loyal signs in the zodiac especially if they're taken!...but then y hit me up everyother weekend asking if i'm out & if we do happen to meetup be so attentive & touchy! Are the things people telling me true? Is he growing feelings for me?
My main concern is that we're gonna go through the same cycle of losing contact yet again & I don't want that this time around. The Taurus in me would normally take the reigns & initiate something, but he's still w. his gf! His coworker & our mutual friend keeps telling me they're relationship has been a real struggle due to the distance & he's about had it w. her supposedly immature personality, butttt that still doesn't change the fact that they're still together. Nothing will pump my brakes more if the guy is taken.
Does my cancer guy even like me or am I just some sort of temporary distraction while his gf is 5,000 miles away? I've read several topics on here about how Cancer guys aren't just going to reach out & wanna rekindle staying in touch w. just any girl without feeling a way towards them. Is he ever gonna break things off w. his gf? Lastly, am I fooling myself & should I stop contacting him altogether??
First of all, you are another of these damn goofy bitches.
Why you ask? Cause you are entertaining the thought of some dude in a relationship. And you don't even care that someone innocent (his gf) could be hurt.
He's a goofy bitch too for even entertaining this shit.\
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Why you ask? Cause you are entertaining the thought of some dude in a relationship. And you don't even care that someone innocent (his gf) could be hurt.
He's a goofy bitch too for even entertaining this shit.\
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Lastly, am I fooling myself & should I stop contacting him altogether??
You answered your own question (after reading your "book"; sorry being sarcastic here as it WAS long). Why do the young chickies of this millennium THINK the dude will POOF! Leave their girlfriend, jump on their white horse, and ask a Taurus woman like yourself back into his life? A LDR (Long Distance Relationship) 5k miles from you when he has his girlfriend less than a yard away from him? Don't you read up on Cancerian men? They are "home bodies". While others go to clubs, camping trips, vacations, etc., a Cancer man is happy being at home with his SO (Significant Other); his girlfriend. So what if he kept looking at you at the party? So what if he asked your friend to call you to get you back to the party? I would have dissed the dude and said to myself, "Look what you HAD...look what you CANNOT have!" Strut your stuff (I would be shaking my booty, too!). I would have flirted at the party, shrugged him off when your friend whispered to you (and I'd have him see me "shrug" him off). You're not destined to be his and vice versa. Move on. When a Cancer man is interested in you (I keep repeating myself in other posts and am tired!) he uses his pincers and doesn't let go! When a Cancer man sleeps with a woman and it is the BEST he's EVER had, he will come back for more! When a Cancer man is working out of town; then yeah, he will cheat on his girlfriend by sleeping with a woman; you. Someone who is convenient to him instead of picking up the phone, dialing an 1-800 #, using his credit card, and waiting for a knock on his hotel room door.
You're too involved w/this dude in your heart, mind, body, and soul. You're not closing that door and allowing another one to be open for a guy that will treat you better than a LDR or FWB. Good luck!
🤗 Cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
You answered your own question (after reading your "book"; sorry being sarcastic here as it WAS long). Why do the young chickies of this millennium THINK the dude will POOF! Leave their girlfriend, jump on their white horse, and ask a Taurus woman like yourself back into his life? A LDR (Long Distance Relationship) 5k miles from you when he has his girlfriend less than a yard away from him? Don't you read up on Cancerian men? They are "home bodies". While others go to clubs, camping trips, vacations, etc., a Cancer man is happy being at home with his SO (Significant Other); his girlfriend. So what if he kept looking at you at the party? So what if he asked your friend to call you to get you back to the party? I would have dissed the dude and said to myself, "Look what you HAD...look what you CANNOT have!" Strut your stuff (I would be shaking my booty, too!). I would have flirted at the party, shrugged him off when your friend whispered to you (and I'd have him see me "shrug" him off). You're not destined to be his and vice versa. Move on. When a Cancer man is interested in you (I keep repeating myself in other posts and am tired!) he uses his pincers and doesn't let go! When a Cancer man sleeps with a woman and it is the BEST he's EVER had, he will come back for more! When a Cancer man is working out of town; then yeah, he will cheat on his girlfriend by sleeping with a woman; you. Someone who is convenient to him instead of picking up the phone, dialing an 1-800 #, using his credit card, and waiting for a knock on his hotel room door.
You're too involved w/this dude in your heart, mind, body, and soul. You're not closing that door and allowing another one to be open for a guy that will treat you better than a LDR or FWB. Good luck!
🤗 Cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
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First of all, you are another of these damn goofy bitches.
Why you ask? Cause you are entertaining the thought of some dude in a relationship. And you don't even care that someone innocent (his gf) could be hurt.
He's a goofy bitch too for even entertaining this shit.\
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https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/much-needed-advice-on-how-to-deal-w-this-particular-cancer-guy--8885618/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/much-needed-advice-on-how-to-deal-w-this-particular-cancer-guy--8877103/
First of all, you are another of these damn goofy bitches.
Why you ask? Cause you are entertaining the thought of some dude in a relationship. And you don't even care that someone innocent (his gf) could be hurt.
He's a goofy bitch too for even entertaining this shit.\
Last.
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/cancer-man-left-me-6304571/
Can't read what you wrote. Unhide your message you hid so it can be read.
Hmm well... you were "innocently" texting him while he had a gf. But it's not really innocent since your intentions are to be with him. So, you have to be honest with yourself first on that aspect. Next, do you really want to be with a guy who texts another girl behind his gf back? Even if they are struggling, he either wants things to work out or he's just a big pussy.
I dunno, I guess you have to weigh the pros vs cons with this guy.
I dunno, I guess you have to weigh the pros vs cons with this guy.
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I'll try to make the story of how I met him & the stage that I'm now in as short as possible.
Met the guy....let's call him "B" about a yr & a half ago through a friend at a company party. After a few drinks, let's just say I was clearly attracted to him & had no problem being bit of the aggressor, which he didn't seem to mind. After finding out that he was in a relationship that clearly didn't deter him from talking to me & getting my # by the end of the night.
The next day my friend that had invited me told me B asked her if she's "ever cheated before." At first I said, "ok, maybe B is secretly interested in you," but my friend assured me that wasn't the case as B knows she's in a serious relationship of her own & was asking b.c he didn't know whether to act on my flirty behaviour.
In any case, we both kept in touch w. innocent txting here & there getting to know eachother, but naturally it grew less & stopped (he was going to see his gf for a few days & I had gotten back w. an ex). Mind you, the txts were mostly him asking the questions & me getting vague answers from my questions to him, which I hear is a typical Cancer trait.
Fast forward....a yr later, I'm newly single. I was casually seeing someone at the time, but nothing serious. My friend again, invites me to their annual company party & I tag along not caring that I would see B again. When getting there everyone had recognized me from the yr before & was teasing me on how B should be coming shortly.
Not long after, B arrives & we both just say "hello" to eachother & keep it moving. As the night progressed people kept trying to get B & I together whether it was pushing me towards him or having us dance w. eachother. At one point, my friend kept telling me how B would constantly look at me w. out me noticing, but that was hard to believe since he seemed pretty distant throughout the night.
I ended up leaving early & by the time I got home my phone was dead. After charging it for a bit I turned it on to a pleasant surprise.
I had received several txts & missed calls from my friend saying how B keeps txting her to get me to come back to the party. She then told me she told him to ask me himself since he should still have my #. Which brings me to the next txt I saw from a foreign number asking "same #?" I naturally deleted his # when the txting stopped a yr ago, but w. an obvious txt like that from a distinct area code...it was obvious it was him. & after a long night of drinking I stupidly continued txting him that night & up until now.
The reason y I even decided to rebuild the contact was b.c he surprised me remembering things I've told him in the past e.g. fear of flying, food favorites & that really struck a chord w. me.
But I have to say he is one confusing Cancer to say the least. I know they're hardly upfront w. anyone they have feelings for & will rarely make the first move, not to mention one of the most loyal signs in the zodiac especially if they're taken!...but then y hit me up everyother weekend asking if i'm out & if we do happen to meetup be so attentive & touchy! Are the things people telling me true? Is he growing feelings for me?
My main concern is that we're gonna go through the same cycle of losing contact yet again & I don't want that this time around. The Taurus in me would normally take the reigns & initiate something, but he's still w. his gf! His coworker & our mutual friend keeps telling me they're relationship has been a real struggle due to the distance & he's about had it w. her supposedly immature personality, butttt that still doesn't change the fact that they're still together. Nothing will pump my brakes more if the guy is taken.
Does my cancer guy even like me or am I just some sort of temporary distraction while his gf is 5,000 miles away? I've read several topics on here about how Cancer guys aren't just going to reach out & wanna rekindle staying in touch w. just any girl without feeling a way towards them. Is he ever gonna break things off w. his gf? Lastly, am I fooling myself & should I stop contacting him altogether??