my bday

So its my bday and crab boy posted on Facebook Happy Birthday Darling Victoria. Wtf...I feel like its so formal.No private message...no text like before he had the g/f. Should he have said happy bday anyway? He broke my heart

I'm not mad just thought he would treat me differently. We know each other for a while now. I'm not saying to flirt duh

Posted by thinktoomuch
You´re not his priority, so hell no, he shouldn´t have privately messaged you. His girlfriend (and himself) are his number one priorities, so he is prbably doing stuff with her in consideration. As he should from m.p.o.v..

He´s just a typicle guy the way I see it....

A private happy bday is more special. I've got friends doing that. His g/f maybe his priority O get that buy he is still on my Instagram and shite

Posted by blackphase
So he was someone you were involved with that now has a new girlfriend?

Why would he text you or send a private msg? He has a new lady in his life, he was nice enough to wish you a happy birthday and even called you darling..

He can shove it with the darling. Picked another lady made her his g/f and calling me darling ugh

On second thought yes I'm angry. Picked another woman, made her his g/f and calling me darling—?!! I don't need his sympathy.

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
So you're mad because a guy with a girlfriend didn't tell you happy birthday in the way that you think he should have.


Am I understanding this correctly?

Not just that...picked another lady over me..apparently I was only good to try to have sex with but I said no and now he's calling me darling. Wtf. He rejected me so yeah I'm angry and its fucking bittersweet since its been a year we know each other and last year we had a date this time.

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So you're mad because a guy with a girlfriend didn't tell you happy birthday in the way that you think he should have.


Am I understanding this correctly?

Not just that...picked another lady over me..apparently I was only good to try to have sex with but I said no and now he's calling me darling. Wtf. He rejected me so yeah I'm angry and its fucking bittersweet since its been a year
we know each other and last year we had a date this time.

You need to move on.

He's not interested in you in the way that you're interested in him and he has a girlfriend.

Have some respect for yourself and his relationship.

I don't understand why you young girls will obsess over a guy who doesn't want you like he is the only guy left on the face of this planet.

Have
some dignity. He didn't even have to tell you happy birthday
, but he did anyway.

The only person who is out of line right now is you.

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Girl this isn't just any guy. He persued me for a longgggg time. Texted me saying miss you then boom he has a g/f while still liking almost every photo of me on Instagram. I'm not contacting him. Respecting his relationship. I'm not contacting her. Yeah you're right why did he tell me happy bday.

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Posted by thinktoomuch
You´re not his priority, so hell no, he shouldn´t have privately messaged you. His girlfriend (and himself) are his number one priorities, so he is prbably doing stuff with her in consideration. As he should from m.p.o.v..

He´s just a typicle guy the way I see it....

A private happy bday is more special. I've got friends doing that. His
g/f maybe his priority O get that buy he is still on my Instagram and shite

Yes a private happy bday is more special, which is exactly why he´s not doing it. He´s got a girlfriend.

You can easily take hand of this situation, but without meaning to be disrespectful, because I have put myself or been in your situation, but seems to me like you are sort of enjoying wallowing in this situation. You could just
delete him off instagram. Problem fixed. But I think you´re not doing that, because you don´t want to lose him. You don´t want to acknowledge how he actually feels about you, which is not as much as you hope for. Sorry.
You could also just be head on but friendly about it: tell him you thought you and him had something going, and you are pretty surprised to suddenly see him being in a relationship with somebody, and you wished he
had handled all that differently.

Either way you will probably push him away, and you are not ready for that. So until you are, you keep yourself in this "he´s so unfair" identity. Hopefully you´ll tire of being the victim 🙂

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Yeah but why won't he make that move? I'm waiting for him to remove me. Why won't he? Yes I'm not going to tell him jack...like you said what would that do? Its pointless. I'm just really hurt and I can't seem to let this anger go. Because of him I'm dome with all sorts of.men. apparently I'm not enough to love just to fuck.

Posted by FyzaGememiee
Babe, I think it's good enough for him to wish you a happy birthday.

Some don't even get one from their own husband. He's still being nice to you. Just be polite and thank him for his wish.

Anyways, happy birthday to you sweetheart. Have a good one with your family and friends. 🙂

Thank you beautiful

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Btw, happy birthday.

Posted by victoriagemini
So its my bday and crab boy posted on Facebook Happy Birthday Darling Victoria. Wtf...I feel like its so formal.No private message...no text like before he had the g/f. Should he have said happy bday anyway? He broke my heart

He is trying to mark his territory/show-off. That is why it is public.

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What do you mean?

I guess im confused why he would wish me happy I don't think we are even friends.

Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhjjjjjjjjjj

Of course I'm the victim.He only wanted sex

😢

JFC you're way over analyzing it! He's just a guy you only touchy feelyed with, you've only known him a yr. and he moved on/has a real gf so what does it matter how he wished you anything on social media? He doesn't owe you shit and you don't owe him shit. Just delete him so you can stop obsessing.

Point it hurts..it seems like all men want sex only from me and when I thought I finally met someone diff no...nothing came out of it again. He's not such a bad guy because I dont know if he just lost interest in me or he did only want sex...I don't know...or he was never interested in me like that. Last time we spoke he was like I kiss you, then I see status change in a relationship, then started liking my photos on Instagram, now happy bdah but hey we never speak. Like were stranger's.. Its so awkward. Anyway yeah whatever... What's the point of analyzing and analyzing

Posted by MoonArtist
JFC you're way over analyzing it! He's just a guy you only touchy feelyed with, you've only known him a yr. and he moved on/has a real gf so what does it matter how he wished you anything on social media? He doesn't owe you shit and you don't owe him shit. Just delete him so you can stop obsessing.

So why wish me happy bday then? He didn't have to. Not everyone does

Posted by dominoes
As I say, it's just a goalie; you can still score. The net isn't closed until you're married.

I don't think he wants me like that anymore

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JFC you're way over analyzing it! He's just a guy you only touchy feelyed with, you've only known him a yr. and he moved on/has a real gf so what does it matter how he wished you anything on social media? He doesn't owe you shit and you don't owe him shit. Just delete him so you can stop obsessing.

So why wish me happy bday then? He didn't have to. Not everyone does

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To be polite or to troll you, but why the hell does it actually matter what his reasons are? He has a gf, you two weren't really ever an item, and so it's really not important. If you're lacking in hobbies or whatever to fill your time I could give some great suggestions on things you could better spend your energy on other than obsessing over him. You could volunteer your time to some charity work, take up art, music, reading, video gaming, photography, sports, get a pet, travel, take classes, etc.

Posted by Ellycakes
Why would you pine for a man who you believe only wanted to use you for sex? Do you not believe you deserve to desire something better?

It's ok to be bummed when a possible connection fades away. But you're pouring energy into something so clearly over. Why water a dead plant?

I'm bummed because I thought we had a connection. I feel stupid because maybe all along he was laughing at me that maybe I'm this stupid sweet girl. Last time we spoke hr called me sweet. I'm just trying to put everything together and I still don't know what happened

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JFC you're way over analyzing it! He's just a guy you only touchy feelyed with, you've only known him a yr. and he moved on/has a real gf so what does it matter how he wished you anything on social media? He doesn't owe you shit and you don't owe him shit. Just delete him so you can stop obsessing.

So why wish me happy bday then? He didn't have to. Not everyone does

To be polite or to troll you, but why the hell does it actually matter what his reasons are? He has a gf, you two weren't really ever an item, and so it's really not important. If you're lacking in hobbies or whatever to fill your time I could give some great suggestions on things you could better spend your energy on other than obsessing over him. You could volunteer your time to some charity work, take up art, music, reading, video gaming, photography, sports, get a pet, travel, take classes, etc.

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Omg dont tell me if I'm lacking in things...this is a forum..I am allowed to vent and discuss. I'm not contacting him about it. Don't be so cold hearted

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Posted by Ellycakes
Why would you pine for a man who you believe only wanted to use you for sex? Do you not believe you deserve to desire something better?

It's ok to be bummed when a possible connection fades away. But you're pouring energy into something so clearly over. Why water a dead plant?

I'm bummed because I thought we had a connection. I feel stupid because maybe all along he was laughing at me that maybe I'm this stupid sweet girl. Last time we spoke hr called me sweet. I'm just trying to put everything together and I still don't know what happened

How old are you?

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I'm 29 he's 37

Anyway why does age matter..it doesn't

Such a bitch!

Yeah so why is alaicia such a bitch? You don't know me, my story. My life...just the situation.

Alicia I get his taken...and so? He's the one making some contact

God I'm done on this board

Yeah OK you're still a bitch

Whatever you would tell me it won't touch me at all anyway because I dont know you personally and you don't know me so it wouldn't matter anyway.

Bitch you're and Aries no wonder you're stuck up hahaa and still he took the time to say happy birthday...damn right. Get off my topic...easy and done..bye felicia

Posted by geegee
It's her B-Day, Yo. Chill!

Thank you love

@alicia Your tone doesn't bother me if you're trying to be a bully. It's my bday and I can cry if I want too. Anyway please go away

Yas I'm really 29 plus a virgin. No experience whatsoever with men. Of that makes me a little girl I rather settle for better than hop in bed with just any man.

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JFC you're way over analyzing it! He's just a guy you only touchy feelyed with, you've only known him a yr. and he moved on/has a real gf so what does it matter how he wished you anything on social media? He doesn't owe you shit and you don't owe him shit. Just delete him so you can stop obsessing.

So why wish me happy bday then? He didn't have to. Not everyone does

To be polite or to troll you, but why the hell does it actually matter what his reasons are? He has a gf, you two weren't really ever an item, and so it's really not important. If you're lacking in hobbies or whatever to fill your time I could give some great suggestions on things you could better spend your energy on other than obsessing over him. You could volunteer your time to some charity work, take up art, music, reading, video gaming, photography, sports, get a pet, travel, take classes, etc.

Omg dont tell me if I'm lacking in things...this is a forum..I am allowed to vent and discuss. I'm not contacting him about it. Don't be so cold hearted

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You're venting and you're obsessing, you haven't actually discussed anything. I'm not being cold hearted, I'm being practical and trying to slap some sense into you. If you can't see your own worth enough to let some guy go when he's obviously moved on then by all means keep wallowing in your self pity and keep day dreaming about how you're going to throw your pussy at him and maybe win him to you. 😛

Good 2 heartless bitches can leave this topic ..just what I wanted.
I'm not throwing a pity party...the original start to the thread was why did he wish me Happy bday when we are nothing and all of you are saying stop obsessing?,

Because he fooled me...and now he is wishing me happy bday yes its confusing me...

@alecia I'm not pathetic I just have a too good heart

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JFC you're way over analyzing it! He's just a guy you only touchy feelyed with, you've only known him a yr. and he moved on/has a real gf so what does it matter how he wished you anything on social media? He doesn't owe you shit and you don't owe him shit. Just delete him so you can stop obsessing.

So why wish me happy bday then? He didn't have to. Not everyone does

To be polite or to troll you, but why the hell does it actually matter what his reasons are? He has a gf, you two weren't really ever an item, and so it's really not important. If you're lacking in hobbies or whatever to fill your time I could give some great suggestions on things you could better spend your energy on other than obsessing over him. You could volunteer your time to some charity work, take up art, music, reading, video gaming, photography, sports, get a pet, travel, take classes, etc.

Omg dont tell me if I'm lacking in things...this is a forum..I am allowed to vent and discuss. I'm not contacting him about it. Don't be so cold hearted

You're venting and you're obsessing, you haven't actually discussed anything. I'm not being cold hearted, I'm being practical and trying to slap some sense into you. If you can't see your own worth enough to let some guy go when he's obviously moved on then by all means keep wallowing in your self pity and keep day dreaming about how you're going to throw your pussy at him and maybe win him to you. 😛

The only thing she is focused on is playing up the victim role.

There's no point in even talking to the girl anymore.

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Agreed! How many posts about this guy now?

Posted by thinktoomuch
If you talked to him in a calm manor about all of this, maybe you could get a little growth. To tell him, that you thought the two of you had something going and now you feel stupid and hurt. That´s perfectly allowed. Right now you´re letting this thing with him totally ruin you and your birthday. Go spend it with some nice people and think about this later.

Umm you misunderstood babe. I NEVER talked to him about that I said I feel stupid for falling for him only to have almost had sex then he rejecting me. And fuq that I'm not going to be reading this in 10 yrs who knows if I will even make it to that point.

@moonartist umm how many posts u done? Let's count...point is this a forum for venting..but I'm guessing u should know that

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Good 2 heartless bitches can leave this topic ..just what I wanted.
I'm not throwing a pity party...the original start to the thread was why did he wish me Happy bday when we are nothing and all of you are saying stop obsessing?,

He wished you a happy birthday, because it´s your birthday. Probably facebook reminded him or whatever.

When you have calmed down and matured, you´ll realize, that it means next to squad that he wished you a happy birthday. I mean it´s friednly but that´s about it. It´s not some elaborate plan.
This is just gonna be a hard time for you, and that´s just how it is. We all grow stronger from hard times, and we never learn anything when we do everything right, so you have to make mistakes to evolve and learn.
Come back and read this in about 10 years and you´ll see why everyone is telling you, that you´re obsessing.

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Stop with the mature BS. You're mature yes? So how come you say you're like me? Immature grls have boyfriends. I'm not saying wow maybe this is a sign I'm saying IF he didn't choose me because he lost interest why all this energy with liking, still following me and sending me a wish?

@thinktoomuch


Sorry misunderstood...but I don't come here EVERYDAY..unless this board is really dead and that's why you think that? Haha

Damn this board just makes you feel worse...some of you need to smell the daisies. I'm out

You need to read some self help books actually. Take care.

@kissmygrits ummm i remember i don't think I like u

Posted by victoriagemini
@moonartist umm how many posts u done? Let's count...point is this a forum for venting..but I'm guessing u should know that

Probably a lot of posts since I've been on dxp for a few years, but none of them have been redundant threads whining about some guy, or anyone else because I don't entertain or keep around those kinds of people in my life. You specifically posted this thread with a question which suggests you wanted advice, not a bunch of pats on the back for "venting". Also, venting is different than whining.

Posted by victoriagemini
Damn this board just makes you feel worse...some of you need to smell the daisies. I'm out

You've asked for info and advice numerous times about this guy, and every single time people have told you the same thing: MOVE ON!. It really is that simple, but instead you beat your head against the wall and wonder this, wonder that, analyze stupid, pointless shit about how many times the guy likes your fucking social media crap, etc. Guess what? It's JUST social media! There's nothing deep about hitting the fucking like buttons! It doesn't mean he wants to fuck you, it doesn't mean he secretly wants to marry you and make babies with you, it doesn't mean he's afraid of his feelings or any other thing you've concocted in your head for it to mean! YOU simply don't like the advice you were given (repeatedly), and you're looking for a mama titty to suck off of so you can get validation for your obsession. You won't find a lot of that here OR in real life!

I hope you managed to jump off of your obsession roller coaster ride long enough to actually enjoy your bday and do something more fun that pine for some guy you had almost nothing with and who has moved on. Go eat cake, or cupcakes, or ice cream or something, and then do some shopping for something you want.

@moonartist yeah other advice before was way more meaningful than this. You just don't get it and I guess you find it odd he's still in contact with me.

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@moonartist umm how many posts u done? Let's count...point is this a forum for venting..but I'm guessing u should know that

Probably a lot of posts since I've been on dxp for a few years, but none of them have been redundant threads whining about some guy, or anyone else because I don't entertain or keep around those kinds of people in my life. You specifically posted this thread with a question which suggests you wanted advice, not a bunch of pats on the back for "venting". Also, venting is different than whining.

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Like I said...I never suggested what it means and if anything. You just probably don't get he didn't complety disappear from my life