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Aug 21, 2017Comments: 0 · Posts: 449 · Topics: 46
I have been seeing him for nearly 4 months and he just doesn’t trust me at all.
Last weekend I stayed with him for 3 days and he opened up to me a lot about his childhood and past traumas and also about how he finds it hard to trust women so he’s learnt not to attach himself to women.
I found it quite contradicting though because when he’s with me he’s constantly hugging me and kissing me he’s very affectionate, tells me how he feels about me (hasn’t said he loves me) but yeah he’s just overall gentle and kind and he even told me that he does things with me he’s never done with another women before. He has in his mind that sometimes I might go off with another guy and leave him. Yet he says he wants us to do this whole exclusive dating thing but without putting a title on it.
Basically I want to know how I can gain his trust I haven’t done anything to him but I sometimes feel like I do too much just to make him see I’m not what he might think I am.
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Dec 14, 2016Comments: 7399 · Posts: 18799 · Topics: 84
Do you think 4 months time is along time to change a deep seeded trigger anyone has?
You're still, virtually, a stranger at 4 months.
All you can do is show consistency, and eventually he will trust you.
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Jul 30, 2019Comments: 894 · Posts: 428 · Topics: 0
Lol leave him for a while and go out with some other guy. Why not use his own insecurity against him. He won't question your loyalty again.
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
4 months is a drop in the bucket. Tbh you shouldn't trust him either.
50/50 he's telling the truth vs this 'trust issues' is a line he uses to keep women at arms length emotionally while he's balls deep.
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Aug 15, 2017Comments: 776 · Posts: 1847 · Topics: 2
4 months is so short, in that time you should be deciding if it’s dating or relationship material 😏