My dilemma...Please help

I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. I am a cancer and he is as well. The problem is since day one he's been totally dishonest with me, and sometimes I am confused where I fit in his life. I am being honest when I say that I am the convenient girlfriend: meaning that whenever he has time, or wants to that's the only time we see eachother, talk on the phone, have sex etc. I am the emotional one in the relationship, while he is the one that is guarded not expressing any feelings. I asked him the other day to give me one good reason why I should stay and he said "because I want to be with you". I do love him, however he does not love me and I have no idea why, and honestly neither does he at least that's what he tells me. I spend nights crying just trying to figure things out, trying methods to work with him and waiting patiently.

Here is the dilemma: I met this guy a week ago, and he's really nice; After graduating from this bartending school I was attending I made the choice to go out and celebrate by going to this nice classy club (thats so me). I had a really good time, and this is where I met this guy. He's actually a few years older than my boyfriend; We danced all night. So we decided to exchange numbers, the next day he asked if I wanted to hang out, I felt lonely and there was nothing to do (remember in order to see my boyfriend I have to wait until he's ready). So we went to this really nice restaurant had great conversation, laughs etc, everything was flowing so well. Later on that night me, him and his friend went to this really nice lounge, and they bought 2 bottles of merlot wine. I felt so comfortable. He was very cuddily u know that stuff us cancers love. So later on that night went back to his friends place, and we kissed it was so passionate and slow; We were close to having sex, but I had to stop. It was bad enough I was kissing this guy I can't sleep with him that would be wrong. Ok he lives in Boston and since that day we talked every day since. And he wants to come back to the state I live in and spend the weekend together at a classy hotel, he wants to take me to few plays and dinner. OMG something I have never been able to experience. I am not use to being around a guy like this. What should I do; Apart of me wants to but the other part of me knows that it's wrong. Help me out here guys.

Well for starters you should stop caring about what your bf wants and start looking at what you want. If you have to ASK someone to give a you a reason to say..H-E-L-L-O you should already be gone.

The other guy is a separate issue. I say go for it....if your boyfriend isn't handling his business and making you feel loved then why should you miss out on a wonderful experience? Even if it doesn't work out, its a helluva lot better than what you are experiencing now. Stop torturing yourself and get out of something that doesn't make you happy.. move on, have fun, and save your emotions and feelings for a more deserving person.

I think the fact that you actually exchanged numbers, hung out with & are still talking with this new guy, is a very strong indication as to how you feel. It's apparent that your boyfriend can't be there for you the way YOU NEED him to be. I know as a cancer, it's really difficult to 'let go' (trust me, I stayed in a relationship 2 years longer than I should have and it was pure torture), but after reading your story, I would say it is definitely time to move on. It seems as though your boyfriend is keeping you around just to have someone there. Being in a relationship with someone isn't supposed to be like that and if you were happy, you wouldn't even be thinking about being with another man. In any case, I think before you decide to move forward with this new guy, you need to come clean to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel and then make a clean break from him. It will be the best for all involved. Good luck!

Well I have expressed to him how I felt the other day, with the exception of meeting this guy etc. And as usual he had absolutely nothing to say, and I sat there with tears in my eyes and the most I got from him was a pat on the back and him telling me "stop the crying". I do want to be with you, and I don't know why I am this way. I have strong feelings for you, but it's just hard to explain and it seems like no matter what I say isn't good enough. And the most he told me was " All I know is that I want you, and care about you". I don't know what else to say.

Yea, but should I worry about Karma? So you guys don't think it would be wrong to do this?

luvcancer,

I think you feel obligated to stay with your bf. It doesn't sound like you want to stay with your bf . . . it's more like in your mind staying with him is the right thing to do. I think you are being too analytical and learn from my mistakes. . . no one got love by being completely analytical about matters of the heart.

hope this helps. . .