Need some advice

Ok..well I'm about to pour my heart out to this Scorpio guy I have had a "thing" with for over a year. Apparently he has met someone who is occupying his time and wants to 'move on' from whatever it was we had. The problem is, I really wasn't very direct with him as to how I felt about him. What he does know is that I have feelings for him, but he didn't know how strong they were and I had my walls up throughout the entire time we were together. Anyway..I guess I'm just wondering if you all think this is a good idea. I mean..I literally feel like I can't breathe if I never see him again. At this point, I feel like I have nothing to lose. I have a letter that I wrote and I am planning on sending it, I just want some feed back like if any of you have ever done this and how did it go. Did you ever get a response. Am I risking more heartbreak? I really don't think I can be anymore hurt than I already am 😢

Hi moonmaiden....I too am a Cancer female...

"I'm about to pour my heart out to this Scorpio guy I have had a "thing" with for over a year."

- What type of THING have you had going on? (Booty call, causal/on & off dating or plain old friendship with a secret crush)

I tend to agree with ME .. for a year, you've been reluctant to say to him how you actually feel .. there's a reason for that, and only you know what that reason is.

You say, you feel like you have nothing more to lose .. however, for a year, you have felt as though you did, or you would have been forthcoming with your true feelings.

So, if I were you, before I'd make a rash move .. I'd do some reflection as to exactly why I was hesitant with him. Somewhere, inside, you must have thought you'd get hurt .. if that pain was too much of a burden then .. why would it be lighter now?

The other side of this is .. if you don't tell him NOW .. you may never tell him .. nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Scorpio's are fiercely loyal .. perhaps, the first thing you should do is analyze his feelings for this other woman. If he is mad for her, then he will likely stand by her .. if he feelings for her are just in the moment to occupy his time, then perhaps, he's waiting for you to be forthcoming with how you feel.

Think about sending him a letter saying you have something you want to talk to him about regarding your feelings for him, without really saying what those feelings are .. and judge your course of action by his response .. if he blows you off, save your heart from being injured .. if he is eager to recieve your words, then send him the love letter.

Whatever you decide to do .. keep your chin up and remember that every person isn't right for everybody, but, there is a perfect person out there for everybody .. if it's right, then it will be.

Thanx for all your advice =) I took the weekend to think about what I am going to do. To answer a few of your questions. The 'thing' we had was a "more than friends/less than lovers" type of relationship. We have known eachother for a long time and he is really close friends with my brother. We have always liked eachother but our timing was always off. He basically initiated contact with me (last year) and I never pressured him (even though I have always wanted us to be together) From the start he insisted we were just 'friends' but our chemistry prevented us from handling the situation properly (ie, we hooked up about 5 times). Like I said, he knew I had feelings for him, but I never told him how strong they were. I was reluctant because I was afraid of opening up and becomming vulnerable. Being the cancer I am..I put on the act of "I'm strong and nobody will ever hurt me" Anyway...here I am. I feel as though if I don't get it out and let him know EXACTLY how I feel, I won't be able to be around him. My brother is getting married and he is in the wedding party (being paired with me of course!) and I feel like my anger and rejection will get in the way. I'm going to send the letter. I will let you all know what happens.

"I feel like my anger and rejection will get in the way."


Huh? Anger and rejection?

You completely lost me on that one ... I thought you were the one who was withholding how you feel .. you mean, angry at yourself? I don't get it, lol

"he knew I had feelings for him, but I never told him how strong they were."


Anyway .. good luck and I hope you find your path.

moonmaiden68 & hotgal78 could you please help me on this ?

I'm trying to flirt with this cancer colleague of mine (in the same team) but in the cancer way (slow, by messaging-not directly etc). I'm confused as how would would I distinguish an interest back because my previous gf was cancer too but was quite straightforward when I expressed my feelings. Thanks

So far I had been almost direct but thinking of doing sthg very direct through facebook that I know she uses a lot. Sthg like express myself and if she likes she can respond otherwise she will ignore like this message was never sent.

Tas - I like to receive compliments (not overtly sexual), especially if I do not know that you have an interest already. The compliments help to peak my interest and get me thinking about you, because I now realize that you noticed me. Be genuine with the comments to, no lame lines.

If she knows you well already and just doesn't know you're interested, start a simple light conversation and throw in a few jokes. Then get flirty. She will figure it out and if she is not interested she may just tell you or she may ignore the flirty comments. If she gets flirty back then she too may have an interest

If she does not know you very well even though you work together, send a message just saying "Hi, saw you on facebook and I like your smile." If she replies that is good, if she ignores you because she knows who you are then forget about it.

I HATE over-aggression, huge turn off for me.....Hope that helps

Sorry that you are hurting so much. I'm not a scorpio male but I am a scorpio. I think you should tell him just what you've written here: "I have feelings for you, but you didn't know how strong they were because I had my walls up throughout the entire time we were together. I literally feel like I can't breathe if I never see you again." Who knows, if this relationship you have has been going on so long he may have been waiting to hear just this sort of thing. Maybe he gave up after not hearing it and is trying to move on? I don't know - just a guess.

You are right. You have nothing to lose and at the very least closure to gain. If he isn't going to come back to you, be sure and tell him how you feel about being with him at the wedding if it will be a problem. Keep us posted.

Moonmaiden, I applaud you for your courage. I think sending a letter expressing your feelings is a good idea. It allows you to clear your mind and it also helps with the awkwardness of telling him face to face or over the phone. Since you feel so strongly about this guy you need to express your feelings as opposed to suppress them.

I too was in a similar situation with regards to whether I should express my feelings early into the 4-year relationship I was in with my ex-Aqua (lord knows they can't stand emotional displays). I finally built up the courage to let him know 2 years in, because it was eating me up. Although he did not express his feelings at that time, he knew how I felt and he eventually opened up too. Good luck, I will keep my fingers crossed and keep up posted.