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This topic was created in the Cancer forum by britneybabe26 on Saturday, January 2, 2016 and has 38 replies.
Some advice I got if a cancer Man is ignoring you
If cancer man is ignoring:Â
DO NOT chase him. U disappear too! Turn the tables and make him miss u! Stay busy. Whatever u do, don't get CLINGY. Give him space & time to remember how fun & awesome & loving u are. Snapping or begging or making him jealous does NOT draw him closer to you...Silence is a secret weapon. Lastly, don't be afraid of losing him....Please don't. Don't waste days hoping he calls u. He should be afraid to lose YOU! Get your fire back. If u have done all u can to get him back & nothing has worked, please STOP TRYING! Let him come to u for once. He will return If u meant anything to him
If cancer man is ignoring:Â
DO NOT chase him. U disappear too! Turn the tables and make him miss u! Stay busy. Whatever u do, don't get CLINGY. Give him space & time to remember how fun & awesome & loving u are. Snapping or begging or making him jealous does NOT draw him closer to you...Silence is a secret weapon. Lastly, don't be afraid of losing him....Please don't. Don't waste days hoping he calls u. He should be afraid to lose YOU! Get your fire back. If u have done all u can to get him back & nothing has worked, please STOP TRYING! Let him come to u for once. He will return If u meant anything to him
Should read *if ANY man is ignoring you
This is from a really old post on here,by a Virgo lady..believe her Username was "Rapunzel". Either way, it's still true.
As usual, women giving advice to other women about men......rofl.
Now you know why your relationships are such roaring success stories.
Now you know why your relationships are such roaring success stories.
Posted by incandescentcancer
As usual, women giving advice to other women about men......rofl.
Now you know why your relationships are such roaring success stories.
Hahaha so what's your advice on the topic?
Posted by mgmtlove
This is from a really old post on here,by a Virgo lady..believe her Username was "Rapunzel". Either way, it's still true.
True but wanted to repost.
Posted by britneybabe26
Some advice I got if a cancer Man is ignoring you
If cancer man is ignoring:Â
DO NOT chase him. U disappear too! Turn the tables and make him miss u! Stay busy. Whatever u do, don't get CLINGY. Give him space & time to remember how fun & awesome & loving u are. Snapping or begging or making him jealous does NOT draw him closer to you...Silence is a secret weapon. Lastly, don't be afraid of losing him....Please don't. Don't waste days hoping he calls u. He should be afraid to lose YOU! Get your fire back. If u have done all u can to get him back & nothing has worked, please STOP TRYING! Let him come to u for once. He will return If u meant anything to him
Weapons are for war isnt that a step in the wrong direction...
I am a cancer and I push people away
The bullshit gets so old, can I just tell him I moved back in town and I want to hang out tonight if hes not busy?
Like whoopidy doo i look like a door mat but at least im being myself and if he says no just make him laugh and be rejected.
why do guys hate to be persued doesnt everyone wanna feel wanted? its not like im blowing up his phone or making less of myself
idk why we have to be so ashamed is all im saying
Men want only three things - blowjob/sex, food and silence. All the other complications are brought on by women.
If you really want to keep getting your man back to you, feed him and fuck him. It never goes wrong.
Amen to that sister!! Thanks for sharing I needed that! And to the person above. You're gross. Women aren't here to cater to you, go feed and fuck yourself!!
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Amen to that sister!! Thanks for sharing I needed that! And to the person above. You're gross. Women aren't here to cater to you, go feed and fuck yourself!!
LOL....I really don't care about what you think of me. I am giving you the common viewpoint held and why women can't deal with men, if you can't even deal with the thought, good luck dealing with men.
Why would I want to deal with men who have archaic and self centered viewpoints like that? Compete waste of time. The men I know are way more enlightened than you, thank god.
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Why would I want to deal with men who have archaic and self centered viewpoints like that? Compete waste of time. The men I know are way more enlightened than you, thank god.
You're completely missing the point and making this personal, the fact that you don't even understand the broader point I am making tells me that I shouldn't bother with this conversation.
Posted by incandescentcancer
Men want only three things - blowjob/sex, food and silence. All the other complications are brought on by women.
That's such bullshit. Guys are just as complicated.
Posted by xtinaPosted by incandescentcancer
Men want only three things - blowjob/sex, food and silence. All the other complications are brought on by women.
That's such bullshit. Guys are just as complicated.click to expand
No they aren't. They get complicated during interactions with women because they think they're supposed to.
Not missing the point in anyway..I feel sorry for men who appear to only have a brain stem though.
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Not missing the point in anyway..I feel sorry for men who appear to only have a brain stem though.
You absolutely are missing the point but in order to not waste our time on a fruitless argument, I just agree with whatever you think are supposed to be my thoughts.
Posted by incandescentcancer
Men want only three things - blowjob/sex, food and silence. All the other complications are brought on by women.
Lmao, is this all it takes???? Making cookies/brownies/cake tonight!
Posted by starlover
The last guy i was with....hugely intelligent, highly sexed, very attractive, used to say to me *how could things be any better than this*? This was after we had had sex, eaten dinner and then watched tv
Straight up
That is what made him happy
It became somewhat boring for me, but he was very happy...no complications, needs met, job done
Lol
Vast majority of men are exactly this, they really are not any more complicated than this in their thoughts and actions.
More often than not they just behave the way they think women want them to and that's the moment from where all things go downhill.
My larger point was if women were truly smart, they could easily mold men without any drama or confusion. That point wasn't understood by anyone other than you on this thread.
I have seen plenty of women who easily manage their men with humor and simple happiness because they have understood the secret.
Posted by JkatsPosted by incandescentcancer
Men want only three things - blowjob/sex, food and silence. All the other complications are brought on by women.
Lmao, is this all it takes???? Making cookies/brownies/cake tonight!click to expand
You should ask him to help you doing some of the stupid part of the work, plus you should act as if it takes a great effort on your part to trust he is not going to screw it up. That's when we really rise to the occasion and 60% not screw it up
Posted by LadyNeptune
Should read *if ANY man is ignoring you
EXACTLY!! I don't know what all the hype is with Virgo men either. I dated one, I find them boring and sneaky. Too bad, I attract a lot of them. Good as friends, that's it.
Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by JkatsPosted by incandescentcancer
Men want only three things - blowjob/sex, food and silence. All the other complications are brought on by women.
Lmao, is this all it takes???? Making cookies/brownies/cake tonight!
You should ask him to help you doing some of the stupid part of the work, plus you should act as if it takes a great effort on your part to trust he is not going to screw it up. That's when we really rise to the occasion and 60% not screw it upclick to expand
Dude, i'll have to pretend lol! He's being a crabby crab. Gonna message you later, need a guy's pov.
Posted by starloverPosted by incandescentcancerPosted by starlover
The last guy i was with....hugely intelligent, highly sexed, very attractive, used to say to me *how could things be any better than this*? This was after we had had sex, eaten dinner and then watched tv
Straight up
That is what made him happy
It became somewhat boring for me, but he was very happy...no complications, needs met, job done
Lol
Vast majority of men are exactly this, they really are not any more complicated than this in their thoughts and actions.
More often than not they just behave the way they think women want them to and that's the moment from where all things go downhill.
My larger point was if women were truly smart, they could easily mold men without any drama or confusion. That point wasn't understood by anyone other than you on this thread.
I have seen plenty of women who easily manage their men with humor and simple happiness because they have understood the secret.
I have experienced relationships with males since I was in my early teens.....am now over 40 and identify with all you say....i wish younger women would cop onto this. I did the humour and simple happiness thing for many years but don't want to now. When I hear women saying *what is he thinking*, well sorry to disappoint you honeys but often,it ain't about you.
Lolclick to expand
So enlightening! But this can't apply to ALL men can it? For example, i've read that Cancer men like when their partners talk about their feelings because they are so emotional themselves. Or this would only be in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?
Posted by starloverI have experienced relationships with males since I was in my early teens.....am now over 40 and identify with all you say....i wish younger women would cop onto this. I did the humour and simple happiness thing for many years but don't want to now. When I hear women saying *what is he thinking*, well sorry to disappoint you honeys but often,it ain't about you.
Lol
They won't understand it till the best years of their lives are gone, it's just called human experience. We will never learn anything from someone else and women these days know it all, they don't need anyone to tell them shit
. They know so much that they know what a man thinks even when he doesn't .Posted by starlover
...I love men socially and as family but find I need women to stimulate me emotionally and spiritually....
Men look for that stimulation within themselves, women need external stimuli.
Posted by JkatsSo enlightening! But this can't apply to ALL men can it? For example, i've read that Cancer men like when their partners talk about their feelings because they are so emotional themselves. Or this would only be in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?
I am a Cancer man, I am really not big into emotional discussions etc. There is no general rule, don't look for one.
Posted by starloverPosted by incandescentcancerPosted by starloverI have experienced relationships with males since I was in my early teens.....am now over 40 and identify with all you say....i wish younger women would cop onto this. I did the humour and simple happiness thing for many years but don't want to now. When I hear women saying *what is he thinking*, well sorry to disappoint you honeys but often,it ain't about you.
Lol
They won't understand it till the best years of their lives are gone, it's just called human experience. We will never learn anything from someone else and women these days know it all, they don't need anyone to tell them shit
Haha......you are so onto something there, man
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That's why I now think that relationships are largely overrated. It's great to have a short relationship which lasts for a brief period of time where you learn something new but then it's best to move on.
Posted by starloverPosted by incandescentcancerPosted by starlover
...I love men socially and as family but find I need women to stimulate me emotionally and spiritually....
Men look for that stimulation within themselves, women need external stimuli.
I am not sure what i would do without my female friends.......lifesavers
click to expand
Trust me, they are also your worst enemies. The number of lives that have been destroyed by the advice of these "female friends" is incalculable.
So what about sex early on? Like I denied second date sex. Some where surprised on here that a Cancer Man can move that fast plus he has cancer in Venus but is a Leo ascendant. Anyway how do you guys feel about it?
Posted by britneybabe26
So what about sex early on? Like I denied second date sex. Some where surprised on here that a Cancer Man can move that fast plus he has cancer in Venus but is a Leo ascendant. Anyway how do you guys feel about it?
There are no rules, it depends on the situation. A friend of mine ended up having sex on the first date and they are happily married now. It all depends on the moment and people involved.
Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by britneybabe26
So what about sex early on? Like I denied second date sex. Some where surprised on here that a Cancer Man can move that fast plus he has cancer in Venus but is a Leo ascendant. Anyway how do you guys feel about it?
There are no rules, it depends on the situation. A friend of mine ended up having sex on the first date and they are happily married now. It all depends on the moment and people involved.click to expand
OK but don't men want a challenge? I'm not talking about one night stands.
Posted by starloverPosted by JkatsPosted by starloverPosted by incandescentcancerPosted by starlover
The last guy i was with....hugely intelligent, highly sexed, very attractive, used to say to me *how could things be any better than this*? This was after we had had sex, eaten dinner and then watched tv
Straight up
That is what made him happy
It became somewhat boring for me, but he was very happy...no complications, needs met, job done
Lol
Vast majority of men are exactly this, they really are not any more complicated than this in their thoughts and actions.
More often than not they just behave the way they think women want them to and that's the moment from where all things go downhill.
My larger point was if women were truly smart, they could easily mold men without any drama or confusion. That point wasn't understood by anyone other than you on this thread.
I have seen plenty of women who easily manage their men with humor and simple happiness because they have understood the secret.
I have experienced relationships with males since I was in my early teens.....am now over 40 and identify with all you say....i wish younger women would cop onto this. I did the humour and simple happiness thing for many years but don't want to now. When I hear women saying *what is he thinking*, well sorry to disappoint you honeys but often,it ain't about you.
Lol
So enlightening! But this can't apply to ALL men can it? For example, i've read that Cancer men like when their partners talk about their feelings because they are so emotional themselves. Or this would only be in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?
Yes beginning stages and then a lot of men get very comfortable.......and uncomplicatedclick to expand
Noted! Aaaah, see, I never knew any of this, I feel so dumb. My ex (Taurus) is a rare breed then, because even to this day, we communicate very well. He's a good man, it's unfortunate I couldn't fall back in love with him again.
Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by JkatsSo enlightening! But this can't apply to ALL men can it? For example, i've read that Cancer men like when their partners talk about their feelings because they are so emotional themselves. Or this would only be in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?
I am a Cancer man, I am really not big into emotional discussions etc. There is no general rule, don't look for one.click to expand
Gotcha
Posted by DonnaElvira77
Britney babe..LISTEN...at YOUR age the most important thing is you feel ok in your environment and the men you are around. I would wager you would NOT feel ok after sleeping with a guy on a first date at 24.
Your feelings are more important that how a guy feels about you. If a relationship is worth anything then two people care about the others feelings.
Stop asking what a guy would like. What would YOU like. If the answer is a guy to like you ..you are in trouble.
Guys either like you or they do not. You can't do anything about that.
If you felt it was not right for you to have sex on second date you were correct. And listen you are young. Remember the guys you are dating are too. They are young. So don't be too hard on them.
DON'T be too hard on guys under 25. They are young. We all were. But don't expect them to know it all either. They are just as stupid as we are.
Actually the man I'm talking about is 36. I don't date my age or younger. I think they are immature.
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMemberPosted by britneybabe26
So what about sex early on? Like I denied second date sex. Some where surprised on here that a Cancer Man can move that fast plus he has cancer in Venus but is a Leo ascendant. Anyway how do you guys feel about it?
Unless you want him to think of you as an easy slut, I wouldn't recommend sex on the first date, woman.
Show some class and self-respect, FFS.
I feel like I am speaking Ancient Greek sometimes around this Godforsaken place.click to expand
Umm I wasn't talking about first date.
Posted by asc_scorp1991Posted by britneybabe26
Some advice I got if a cancer Man is ignoring you
If cancer man is ignoring:Â
DO NOT chase him. U disappear too! Turn the tables and make him miss u! Stay busy. Whatever u do, don't get CLINGY. Give him space & time to remember how fun & awesome & loving u are. Snapping or begging or making him jealous does NOT draw him closer to you...Silence is a secret weapon. Lastly, don't be afraid of losing him....Please don't. Don't waste days hoping he calls u. He should be afraid to lose YOU! Get your fire back. If u have done all u can to get him back & nothing has worked, please STOP TRYING! Let him come to u for once. He will return If u meant anything to him
Does this apply to Mars cancer too?click to expand
Yes
Posted by britneybabe26Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by britneybabe26
So what about sex early on? Like I denied second date sex. Some where surprised on here that a Cancer Man can move that fast plus he has cancer in Venus but is a Leo ascendant. Anyway how do you guys feel about it?
There are no rules, it depends on the situation. A friend of mine ended up having sex on the first date and they are happily married now. It all depends on the moment and people involved.
OK but don't men want a challenge? I'm not talking about one night stands.click to expand
Don't set up things like first date, tenth date etc. My point is get to know the individual and find out if you really feel a connection and then move from there. For some people that clarity comes through in 15 mts and for others it takes a lot longer. That's why I said this is specific to the people involved. Just take it easy and get to know the guy and let him get to know you. Go from there. Good luck.
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