Please help with my Cancer man!

Since you are now divorcing your husband, he probably feels a little bit more secure with you. Regardless of astrology, it's hard to put 100% into a relationship (with either party) when there are unresolved issues concerning other relationships. Obviously, as you posted, you weren't happy in your marriage and are doing what you can to find your happiness. Astrology aside, I'm sure he questioned whether or not you would ever divorce leading him to be apprehensive. Concerning astrology, as Cancers, we need to feel secure in our relationships. Security and trust in others is huge, like most people, but when it comes to us, it is the utmost thing that needs to be there in order for us to give it our all. If security and trust begins to waiver, is when we start to waiver ourselves. Reassurance goes a long way with us, and it does take a considerable amount of time for us to completely open up. Where he was coming from that he didn't want to be abandoned very possibly is he was afraid to put everything into both you and the relationship in fear of you possibly never leaving our husband, and/or that you would go back in forth in whether you would or not. Thus, leaving him potentionally abandoned by you. Not just in the meaning physically abandoned, but emotionally and spiritually.

In terms of him showing you respect, as a woman, you should show and prove that you are a woman who deserves to be respected. If you don't respect yourself, most people won't respect you back. As a Cancer, we need to respect the person we are with as well, so if he gets out of hand or is doing something that upsets you, let him know. Don't come at him with both barrels (meaning screaming and yelling), but just talk to him. He may not open up, but if you approach it in a respectful BUT serious manner, he will listen. It will be up to him to decide if what you are saying is valid, but if it is something you feel strongly about then you also need to stand tall and stand your ground. If he views you as someone who does not respect yourself, it will leave him questioning you as a person and woman.

It sometimes does take baby steps with us. Sometimes we are full boar, and other times we will step back. Try hard to be consistent with him. Again, if you back and forth with him he won't feel like he can trust you or your sincerity with him. If you start to feel he's doing too much backing and forthing, then you need to say something.

OceanDeep,
Thank you,I followed your advice, things are getting much better between us. I tried to let him know what bothers me in a very gentle way and I see great progress. For the first time in 10 years he has called me on his birthday and presented to his family, introduced me to his mom and asked me to prepare some dishes for the barbecue, to help his mother with the guests. I think his mother liked me a lot, we talked about all along, prepared the food, she questioned me about my life ... I spent the night at his house, tomorrow I hung out with his mother because he was in "mood" ... it is the first time I saw how it's look like- he was quiet, silent and withdrawn into himself. Thank God I have you on this forum to help how to treat him when he is in mood, it has nothing to do with me, so I tried not to disturb him and cuddle when I felt that it wishes.

But, after that weekend, he still avoids a serious discussion about our relationship and asked me not to force anything, that he is 25 years been living alone and still doesn't know what to think about us. I feel that he scare about commitment. He does not answer my texts, no phone calls, doesn't want to fix a date. When he's in the good mood, he knows where can find me(in my friend's bar),last night he came looking of me but acted as he doesn't not know me at all... hmm .. I was confused with acting like this hot-cold, so can you help to explain me the problem of this behavior and what to do not to hurt him and not to spoil our progress?

Can someone help explain, I would be very grateful?